"I am so happy that you found this website and that you feel like you can talk to us. Talking about your feelings to “a true companion” who will listen patiently and sympathetically can bring a measure of relief. (Proverbs 17:17) Putting…"
"It is so difficult to find the "right" words. I want to comfort you but don't know what words might be comforting. The one thing I want to do is to send a (((((HUG))))) the second thing I have learned is to talk to someone that cares.…"
hi. I lost my brother about 3-4 weeks ago. We believe it was suicide waiting on coroner's report. He struggled with suicide attempts for some years. He had mental illness issues and he struggled. I loved my brother so and I miss him. He had passed away three days before they found his body and getting that phone call from the coroner office still rings in my ear. I'm struggling. See More
I am so happy that you found this website and that you feel like you can talk to us. Talking about your feelings to “a true companion” who will listen patiently and sympathetically can bring a measure of relief. (Proverbs 17:17) Putting experiences and feelings into words often makes it easier to understand them and to deal with them. And if the listener is another bereaved person who has effectively dealt with his or her own loss, you may be able to glean some practical suggestions on how you can cope. When her child died, one mother explained why it helped to talk to another woman who had faced a similar loss: “To know that somebody else had gone through the same thing, had come out whole from it, and that she was still surviving and finding some sort of order in her life again was very strengthening to me.” What if you are not comfortable talking about your feelings? Following the death of Saul and Jonathan, David composed a highly emotional dirge in which he poured out his grief. This mournful composition eventually became part of the written record of the Bible book of Second Samuel. (2 Samuel 1:17-27; 2 Chronicles 35:25) Similarly, some find it easier to express themselves in writing. One widow reported that she would write down her feelings and then days later read over what she had written. She found this a helpful release. Whether by talking or writing, communicating your feelings can help you to release your grief. It can also help to clear up misunderstandings. A bereaved mother explains: “My husband and I heard of other couples that got divorced after losing a child, and we didn’t want that to happen to us. So any time we felt angry, wanting to blame each other, we would talk it out. I think we really grew closer together by doing that.” Thus, letting your feelings be known can help you to understand that even though you may be sharing the same loss, others may grieve differently—at their own pace and in their own way.
It is so difficult to find the "right" words. I want to comfort you but don't know what words might be comforting. The one thing I want to do is to send a (((((HUG))))) the second thing I have learned is to talk to someone that cares. Don't bottle it all up and just suffer.
Talking can be a helpful release. Following the death of all ten of his children, as well as some other personal tragedies, the ancient patriarch Job said: “My soul certainly feels a loathing toward my life. I will give vent to [Hebrew, “loose”] my concern about myself. I will speak in the bitterness of my soul!” (Job 1:2,18, 19;10:1) Job could no longer restrain his concern. He needed to let it loose; he had to “speak.” Similarly, the English dramatist Shakespeare wrote in Macbeth: “Give sorrow words; the grief that does not speak whispers the o’er-fraught heart and bids it break.”
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"Part 2Linda, yes and yes, I "laugh on the outside and cry on the inside". And the laugh (or just plain conversation) is just part of how I cope for when I have to be around others. But it means nothing. It’s like we…"
"Part 1 Bless you and thanks to each one of you who keep writing about how you feel and how you cope. I always feel support knowing I am not alone. What I don't get (and not that any one of us can give it) is the answer to how I can…"