I lost my beloved Mother/Best Friend  this past November. The day before Thanksgiving. 

As time passes I miss her more and more. I feel so lost without her. I miss the phones calls, the visits, the laughs, the tears, the disagreements, all of it! I MISS her and I want her back! I feel so alone without her. It is so hard to wake up every morning and have to go to work. All I want to do is stay in bed. Nothing is the same. :-( 

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DeeDee, I understand, especially the part about wanting her back. There is a finality to all of this that is overwhelming and gut wrenching. I lost my mom on Christmas Eve, 2015. As much as I loved/love my mother, I never realized that she was the key to so many aspects of my daily life.

It's not waking up and going to work that bothers me. It's waking up and remembering that she has passed. It's a reality that we cannot get away from.

All I can tell you is to keep putting one foot in front of the other. Take baby steps if you have to. Live your life in such a way that honors your mom. Remember that she is literally a part of you. She goes on through you.

God Bless You.

I totally get it. My late, great Mom has been gone now for 7 years, 10 months and 4 days. I knew she would not be there forever and I tried to prepare for that emotionally and personally with her for several years. I apologized to her for ANYTHING that I may have done, thanked her for EVERYTHING she and my Dad did for me and I constantly told her how much I love her. I knew that someday she would be gone. But I had not idea it would be as early as it was and as sudden as it was.

I keep dreaming about her and my late, great Dad. I miss them SO much and my life has never been the same since they have left. When my Dad passed away, my Mom and I greatly supported each other and honored his memory. When my Mom passed away, there was great discord amongst me and my siblings. They are all married and I am the only one who has never been married and has no children. I could not buy them out of the family house and I had to move out and the house got sold. They have no idea what I have been through emotionally. They could NEVER understand. Thank God for my (and my Mom's) beautiful female Black Labrador Retriever. She loved my Mom and my Mom loved her too.

God bless you all.

I agree with Brett 100%.

Douglas, it's like we have the same story. And no matter how hard I tried to prepare myself, there was no way of avoiding the pain of my mom's death. I couldn't even provide myself with an easier transition. My mom just left too big of a hole to fill.

And there isn't a day that I do not look at her little dog and remember how much mom loved her, and how she used to baby talk her. That little dog has been such a blessing to me.

God Bless you, too.

Good morning Douglas,

I am so sorry for your loss. God bless all of US who have lost someone. It is such a hard reality to deal with. I know they say that time helps, and I am sure that it does in time, but right now, since it is so recent. I struggle with it. I try hard to keep busy. I am sending out hugs to you and to Brett and everyone else who has lost a beloved loved one! God bless you all.

Good morning Deedee,

Thank you SO much for your heartfelt and understanding reply. Lately with so much going on in my life, I feel so isolated from my family and I feel so lonely. I find myself watching television news shows to keep me company and I almost feel as though those I am watching are friends; although I know they are not. 

My female Black Labrador Retriever, who was also my Mom's dog is really my best friend. She knows everything that happened and knows exactly how I feel. I thank God for her everyday and I take the best care of her. 

It will be 8 years in June that we lost my Mom. It just doesn't seem that long ago. Losing a parent is not just something that you "learn to live with." That loss is there forever. It is like the longer your parents are gone, the more that you realize exactly who and what you had. And still do have because they are actually always with us.

Douglass, while I can't say that I ever took my mom for granted, especially in those last couple of years, I still just dream about pulling into our driveway and seeing her car there, going inside the house and there would be mom watching tv, surrounded by two little dogs. I just wish I could go back in time to one of those days. Just to hug my mom and tell her that I love her. She would look at me like I was crazy. I think it's more for me than for her. I would tell my mom that I loved her so much in those last days. Sometimes she would get frustrated and say, "Brett, I know!!" She did know. She still knows. I just wish that I could keep on telling her face to face.

Douglass, it's not easy for me to give advice because I am not exactly healed myself, but I always tell myself to take baby steps until I can walk again. Exercise, volunteer. Find something that you feel passionate about. That's easy for me to say. It's not so easy to do, because there will be times when we will be alone, and all of this will come back, but I just feel that we somehow have to find a way to keep moving forwards. I pray that we can.

Thank you Brett. I am with you man. So beautiful that you are taking care of your Mom's dog and that you love that little dog and know that she has been a blessing to you. Your Mom is extremely proud of you and thankful to you! God bless you!

I am feeling the same way....LOST.  My Mom passed a week after her birthday.  Cancer.  I feel empty.

Hi Anthony, 

I am so very sorry for your loss. The longer is goes by the harder it gets for me. Not having her here kills me. I miss her more and more everyday. It is so hard to get up and move on.............. 

Please know that you are NOT ALONE!! I am praying for all of US who have lost beloved ones! 

Hang in there. Your friend Dee-Dee 

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