"Last weekend was different. No crashing devastation, no heart crashing through my sternum Friday night and Saturday at the memory of my mother.
Today was another story. I was tired of talking to myself. So I went to a local restaurant, not so much…"
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I miss my Mom!
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"Yes, Ash. I hear you.
Grief is overwhelming. It takes over all aspects of us, including our ability to verbalise.
Some days are better than others. Some days are less painful than others.
My mother died in April from vascular dementia, after a…"
"Saw the doctor yesterday about my grief. Doctor listened. Follow-ups forthcoming. Doctor agreed with me that grief is for life and that I have to find a way of living with it.
After the doctor, went out and accomplished three errands.
There are…"
"Tomorrow, I see a doctor about my grief.
Friday night, yesterday and today have all been overwhelming.
It is not just that I miss my mother and it hurts. It is also her last five years, slowly losing her faculties, realising it, but never being…"
"Some days, the lyrics just make more sense. That is scary."
"Did laundry today.
Last year, when my mother was alive, I did laundry more days of the week than I did not. I had to wash her beddings and her cushions. I was always afraid the machines would break.
I would rather have that fear, and my mother…"
"Two other people I know lost their mothers recently.
Unlike me, they have not been lucky enough to bury their mothers. I feel bad for those two people.
I am happy I was able to bury my mother before the second wave. That is completely different…"
"Four calendar months ago today, my mother died.
One calendar month ago today, I buried my mother.
One calendar month ago today, I felt a lot worse than I did four calendar months ago today.
Today is better than yesterday, which was a LOT better…"
"My brother was killed in a car accident decades ago. I was the first to try to identify him. What I saw has never left me. Over the years, I found a way to live with it.
Then, last April (2020), my mother died after a five year battle with vascular…"
"My heart and thoughts are with you, Sara."
"My heart goes out to you.
My mother died from vascular dementia in April. It was after a five year battle against it.
My brother was killed in a car accident decades ago.
Because of the pandemic, I was only able to bury my mother in July. I…"
"My heart goes out to you.
My brother was killed in a car accident decades ago.
My mother died from vascular dementia this past April (2020.) Because of the pandemic, I was only able to bury her in July.
I thought burying her, and then having her…"
Multiple Losses Group
I am creating this site for the many of us who have suffered several losses. I lost my mom, dad, grandma(2nd mom), grandpa, my beloved dog and divorce.Many of us have lost more than one person or event.Come share!See More
""Closure" is a myth. It does not exist in real life.
Every Friday, every Saturday, it's the same.
Friday morning and afternoon can be as normal or eventful or tranquil as can be.
Come Friday night, no matter what the day was like,…"
"I was on autopilot today. I got things done because I was on autopilot.
Seeing the picture of my mother's name and dates engraved on the stone below those of her better son set me off. I had arranged for that before the funeral. But I had a…"
"They finally engraved my mother's name and dates on the tombstone. Someone just sent me a picture of it.
I feel like I have been kicked in the stomach again.
I am happy it is done. She would have wanted that. Her name and dates are below…"
Profile Information
- About Me:
- Was a caregiver to my mother who had vascular dementia
- About my Loss:
- My mother died from vascular dementia in April 2020. Today (July 2020), it hurts worse than it did in April
Joe von Anjou's Blog
I lost my mother in April. It hurts worse now than then
My mother died in April after a years-long battle with vascular dementia. I buried her last Friday.
It hurts worse now than then.
I knew my mother was going to die. When she was first diagnosed two years and change ago, I looked up the medical literature. It said that life expectancy was six to nine years post-diagnosis.…
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I love my Dad.
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Multiple Losses Group
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fur kids
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Some quotes
Today is the first day of the rest of your life - UnknownThis was something my mom used to have hanging in our living room, and since Jeremy passed away, it's something that is very close to my heart. Why? I'm still trying to sort through my heart and soul for the answer. There are so many quotes I never paid attention to when I still had my husband and our life together. However, since the day he died, a lot of those quotes have made their way into the essence of my being. Here are a few of…See More
"Hi Tina. While I have never lost someone I have been in love with, I did lose my father to cancer and due to the virus, I missed out on his last three months alive. He was my favorite person in the entire world and I couldn't be there for him…"
"I'm sorry to hear that, Tina. I'm not sure that I could be the 'someone' you're looking for to understand what it is you're going through because I have never been in a situation like that. I just wanted to say that, no…"
Jeremy's accident
I've decided that I'm going to write my blog/journal entry in my Google Drive app, and then post it here because quite frankly, there's nothing like being in the middle of a sentence, deep in thought, and having your phone lose your spot because your hand caused the phone screen to rotate accidentally. Today is gonna be another one full of tears. I'm going to take a guess here, and say, "It's probably going to be a natural thing for me to start crying (off and on) around Thanksgiving and not…See More
"Hi. I'm hoping y'all are doing well, today."
Complicated
I am struggling with my grief and I really feel like I don't have anyone to talk to or anyone who can understand what I am feeling. My relationship was an extremely complicated one in which I am married and he was not. However, as our relationship was beginning he got a young girl pregnant and she lived with him. He was committed to making sure his child was well cared for and that included taking care of the mother of his child. He became such an important part of my life and the crazy…See More
Being the Other Woman/Other Man
This is for anyone who has lost their lover to death and you were the other woman/other man in their life. We have to grieve in silence. I can't find any support groups and feel like I'm the only one going through this situationSee More
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