Trying to grieve while sibling is threatening lawsuit

My parent died less than two months ago. I was sole caregiver and am executor. Besides trying to grieve I also am faced with having to gather all the paperwork from fifty plus years of living...looking for important papers etc. which is taking longer than you would think because of the grief and now added stress. One of my siblings that never helped at all except for one day in five years has been phoning repeatedly threatening with lawyers. Where the hell was this person when I was unable to work or go out or have any kind of break, when I couldn't sleep, when I was the only one at the repeated hospital stays? They have never phoned here as much as they have in the last two months. This insensitive and calculating behavior is disturbing to say the least. So now I after having lost my parent and best friend as well as given up work, sacrificed my entire life savings I'm now faced with someone coming out of the woodwork threatening my inheritance. Has anyone else experienced this? How did you handle it? Thanks!

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Thanks very much for your support. Someone else told me the exact same thing ...take it slowly....i explained that to the sibling but its falling on deaf ears. As for your situation I think your son would legally be entitled...ESP if he is only four...you should really look into that...don't let it go...I don't know where you are from but I'm sure you could even go through the govt somehow. Parents have to provide for their children it's the law. Good luck and thanks again for responding and showing support.

social security, your son should be able to get his dads social security, a chech each month until he's 18, and longer if he goes to college.  If you haven't looked into this, make some calls, it could help you both keep life running a little smoother.  your childs family wouldn't have access to this, but if he has other young children, the amount may be distributed monthly between them, thier guardians.  I hope this helps a little. Lori B.

 

I've dealt with a similar experience. When my mother passed away, the family that is more than problematic and who my mother avoided for such reason, came out of the woodwork also and said they had a right to all of her possessions. My grandmother believed she had more right to my mother's belongings even though I wasn't even 16 when she passed. Not only did she raid the house I grew up in of all the things that meant most to my mother and I, but held her ashes hostage (basically). Family can be more hurtful then helpful which is why it's great to create your own, supportive one. Good luck.

wow, that is really sad.  maybe a restraining order, which is again sad that it would come to that, but take care of yourself now, emotionally, and all around.  do you qualify for free legal aid?  that may be an option, to turn it all over to a lawyer, if you can swinfg that...then the lawyer would be the "contact person"..I wish you peace. lori

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