I am very sorry for what you are going through, I feel the exact same way. I lost my 50 yr old husband 10 months ago and have no feeling. Sure I go through the motions but with no emotion. My only advice to you is to do what feels right for you, cry when you want, sleep when you want, talk to people when you want...grieving is on your terms no one else's. And its okay to get annoyed by people who are there for you, after my husbands funeral I had 12 houseguests for five extra days and although I loved them dearly I wanted to hit them with a frying pan for saying too much or not saying anything...This is a no win area, I have been navigating it blindly because unless you have been through it you don't understand it! This site helps but I suggest to go to a group where you can be seen and heard, Its been 10 months and I haven't found one but I have a neighbor who has been through it so she is a good sounding board.. And sleep will come and go...Bless you and your children. Susan
First of all, I wish to offer my deepest condolences on the loss of your husband.
I lost my wife of over 26 1/2 years to breast cancer exactly 9 months today. As crazy as it sounds, what you are going through right now physically and emotionally is perfectly normal. Your mind and body are in a state of shock this early on so don't make any rash decisions right now. The best thing I can tell you is something I have learned from other members of this site is to take everything one day, one hour and yes, even one minute at a time. My eating and sleeping patterns were disrupted for almost three months but everyone is different in that area.
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I am very sorry for what you are going through, I feel the exact same way. I lost my 50 yr old husband 10 months ago and have no feeling. Sure I go through the motions but with no emotion. My only advice to you is to do what feels right for you, cry when you want, sleep when you want, talk to people when you want...grieving is on your terms no one else's. And its okay to get annoyed by people who are there for you, after my husbands funeral I had 12 houseguests for five extra days and although I loved them dearly I wanted to hit them with a frying pan for saying too much or not saying anything...This is a no win area, I have been navigating it blindly because unless you have been through it you don't understand it! This site helps but I suggest to go to a group where you can be seen and heard, Its been 10 months and I haven't found one but I have a neighbor who has been through it so she is a good sounding board.. And sleep will come and go...Bless you and your children. Susan
Debbie brisky,
First of all, I wish to offer my deepest condolences on the loss of your husband.
I lost my wife of over 26 1/2 years to breast cancer exactly 9 months today. As crazy as it sounds, what you are going through right now physically and emotionally is perfectly normal. Your mind and body are in a state of shock this early on so don't make any rash decisions right now. The best thing I can tell you is something I have learned from other members of this site is to take everything one day, one hour and yes, even one minute at a time. My eating and sleeping patterns were disrupted for almost three months but everyone is different in that area.
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