RESTING TIME is LONGER while processing a loss

The clock stops. It´s that time of the day to get lost and found in a realm of emotions by NOT neglecting. Just like letting the waves come and go until the waters can calm down. To allow whatever helps dig deeper that PEACE that can be hard to find outside our own SELF there. To find a level of interactions that arent just crap on top of a mountain of crap, you know, that limit that allows to reverse easily from bad to good, to actually start enjoying life some more and more. But because most out and about are acting on their own survival, some don´t bother running over us again, and again, and again, until we show how sharp are our teeth and how unwelcome they are. And as much as we hate to be out there distributing people crap, it´s necessary to remind them that our BOUNDARIES do EXIST and must be RESPECTED all times. There is not an one time ok to cross that because once they get used to abuse, they complain THERE IS A BOUNDARY. Some most abusive people I know don´t have healthy boundaries themselves. And unfortunatelly in illness and death, grief, brings the worst in all participants with same last names. Because outside the family, they would never be allowed to repeat their abusive ways in different context. But some use the hurt as an enty point to see us hust and bleed at their own pleasure while extending their sucking abilities. And why they do? Because they CAN and left alone long enough they love to self distruct. Thus, it ends up to have differences getting way worse than usual just because we are forced to put up with the most we can forced by the situation uniting all. Sometimes we don´t have to be in charge of anything but our lives to give them a kick of a lifetime and minimizing contact where these people are around is a necessity to keep PEACE sustainable. Remember that some of them don´t ever knew what the word PEACE really meant and think it must be an ET concept or something, and a lifetime won´t be long enough to envision any. But to destroy, theyare more than ready. I find very useful RESTRICTING access in all shapes and forms to guard the healing and peace. Being that the door, the home (gatherings always elsewhere), phone, and joint activities. Although we all would love to be all things to all people, some of us use togetherness for much less noble pursuits and they have to be told they are not welcome anywhere we are at, or we drop excuse after excuse until some get the grip.

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