Shady Wilbury's Blog (5)

Three words to cause a resurfacing of old pain.

Couple of days ago, I had a conversation with a friend of Chris' on a social networking site. It was wonderful at first, because he reminded me that she'd spent time in the UK. (She'd told me, but it was one of those memories which got pushed aside at the end.) However, later on, it became tricky. We discussed the final times we'd talked to her (for me it was January 23, 2007.) He mentioned that he was able to have a conversation with her two weeks before her death. After this things got… Continue

Added by Shady Wilbury on August 20, 2010 at 4:39pm — No Comments

Is it normal for us to create memories we "think" we had?

Hi, all.

I'm writing this because I'm sure at one point that I promised Chris I'd learn "Blackbird", to teach it to her- I've searched through our conversations, and can't find that sentence. Is it normal to have those moments where we think we said or did something that we didn't actually do, and realise them years later, for a fresh kick in the guts, if you'll forgive the phrase?

Thanks,

Shady

Added by Shady Wilbury on June 8, 2009 at 7:30am — No Comments

A couple of memories...

Before you read any further, take a look at the image below. What does it invoke in you? Happy childhood memories, memories maybe of a favourite dessert? It makes me smile for an entirely different reason...explained below.







You see...banoffee pie, in a roundabout way, was my first contact with Chris. There was a celebration going on on the George Harrison forum for his birthday (64th, I think...) Anyway, we were having a kind of… Continue

Added by Shady Wilbury on April 27, 2009 at 3:40pm — 2 Comments

April- told with the greatest respect, I hope.

I wrote this account on what must have been a "good" day. I was obviously thinking straight. I can't think of any other reason why I'd be able to sit and type it in one. It tells the story of the final week of Chris' life, from my point of view.



April

In order to tell this story with the respect that it deserves, I must state that there were good times before the part where the real story begins. Before April 3, 2007, it was paradise. Life was good for me, and I didn't… Continue

Added by Shady Wilbury on April 26, 2009 at 1:58pm — 2 Comments

Over two years..I ought to be getting somewhere, right?

Hello, all.



I came here because I lost a dear friend to cancer in April 2007. Although I only knew her through an Internet forum (which one doesn't really matter, but it was a George Harrison forum) she became a close friend of mine, and we exchanged emails and IMs over a period of a year and two weeks. I strongly feel that after two years I should be moving on, but I lack something which I need in order to do so. I'm preoccupied by the memories of the last week of Chris' life… Continue

Added by Shady Wilbury on April 26, 2009 at 12:09pm — 8 Comments

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