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About Me:
59 year old gay man
About my Loss:
stage 4 lung cancer. Gone in two months. 34 years together. Happened 2 weeks ago. Devestated

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At 2:22pm on March 31, 2016, Robin Quinn said…

Joseph, I'm so sorry for your loss.  I feel the same way you do.  There is no normal for us anymore, we have to learn to live day by day.  At times, I wonder at what point will we give up?  I should have been the one to go first, I have 1 kidney, arthritis and other problems.  He was diagnosed and within a month, he was gone.  It isn't fair, I was told I was the strong one in our marriage and that he went first because he couldn't have survived without me, how do I learn to survive without him???  I have survivors guilt so bad, so many what if's and I should have's.  Nothing will change the outcome though, he will still be gone.  I hope you can learn to cope without your spouse, like I said, day by day.

At 9:50am on March 30, 2016, P said…

Your words are beautiful Joseph and very appreciated.  I will be thinking about you and sending lots of love today as you scatter the ashes of your sweet man. 

I look forward to staying in touch with you.  Today will be difficult but just keep breathing and embrace the love that everyone around you today will be sharing.

At 2:27pm on March 27, 2016, P said…

Joseph, I am so very sorry for the loss of your beloved Jerry.  I also lost my husband to cancer and he went too quickly too (he passed away in August - we were told in June that he would have 3 to 5 years and he lasted just over 2 months).  I'm sure you are still in shock and quite numb given how recently it happened.  While I'm sorry that you have suffered a horrible loss like we all have, it's really good that you've found your way here.  I think you'll find comfort here.  Everyone is wonderful and understanding because we are all going through it too. 

I tell this to everyone and I hope it helps you as much as it's helped me.  When I'm not sure I can go on, I just keep hearing Dorie's voice in my head (from Finding Nemo)...."just keep swimming... just keep swimming...." Just getting up in the morning is a huge victory each day, hang in there.  All the hugs to you Joseph

 
 
 

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