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Jennifer Switalski
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- About Me:
- There really isn't much to tell. I am a working mom, a seasoned student, and wife. The youngest of 6 children and the biggest Momma's baby there ever was.
- About my Loss:
- Mom went suddenly. She complained to me about her stomach hurting after she would eat. I encouraged her of course to seek medical attention, but she put it off. Until September 20, her pain was so intense she went to the local hospital. Things went from bad to worse. We were told that she had a gall stone that had lodged into her bile duct causing her to develop panchreatitis. Mom also had COPD and lung cancer, but she had never smoked in her life. As things continued to go bad, her oxygen level decrease and the medical professionals wanted to put her on a respirator. She had always told me and my dad and sisters that she did not want life support. I went to speak with her privately and she confirmed this to me again. The doctor came in once I had left the room and she consented to it after she had us, her children, all called in the room to know what did her children wanted. See, she was always putting us first. The nightmare continued as we transferred her to a hospital that was better equipped to handle her illness. They still only gave her 10 percent at best. Once reaching the other hospital her organs began to fell and the doctors told us to call in the family to say goodbye. They had done all that normal medicine could do and was now asking us if we wanted extraordinary procedures such as blood pressure meds to make her have one and whatever else I couldn't tell you. I spoke up and said no that mom had told us plainly what she wanted and that I would not choose to prolong suffering. I was the only one who wanted for her what her wishes were. So as a result I was left to deal with this horrible situation isolated. They tried to convince me that there side was right, but I refused to back down from my mother's dying wishes. Of course, the nightmare got worse as we had to put her in a medical coma to manage her pain. To see her in that state just was torture beyond words. It was the last time I would see her beautiful eyes open or to be able to respond to me. Another 5 days passed before one of the doctors mercifully spoke the words that would end the insanity. We were told to take her off and let her die peacefully. Finally, she was able to go home and be with The Lord. We arrived at the hospital from Indy to New Albany in time. I sang to my mother with my sister songs of going home. And I talked to her about what her new home would be and to not be afraid. I maintained my bravery until after life began again and even now I go through the motions of life, but I am not living really. I just want my mom and I know that is not possible. My faith in God and the Bible tells me that she isn;t an angel now and she has no knowledge of things on her and I am grateful for that. I would not want her to see me in this condition. But you know she was my best friend and she would have been the only one who would know how bad I hurt inside.
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