"My Avatar is my dear Mom at age 97 on Mother's Day of last year. I miss her so much. I was her caregiver for the past 3 years. What I would not give to be able to say good night to her, or help her put on her robe and slippers in the…"
"Thank you very much for emotionally supporting me,I know you really understand my feeling because you have already passed through this horrible situation.I am really feeling terrible,every thing has been changed around me,I am so alone and empty,my…"
"I am SO SORRY! I too lost my Mom to stage 4 lung cancer. She had quit smoking 12 years before, but it still got her and VERY suddenly. I can totally understand what you are going through and how you feel. I went through nearly all that you're…"
"I imagine that you are not taking them wrong. There are degrees of separation. My own brothers and sister do not understand what I am going through because they were not as close to my mom as I was.
Try to do what you can. Keeping busy helps. It can…"
"Thank you Brett and Theresa for your emotional support.Brett my circumstances are somehow similar to you.I preferred to work as a freelancer just for my mother,because I want to stay with her,when she fell ill,I stopped taking projects because I…"
"Ambreen, Brett is right you are in shock, I was in a fog/haze for one year.
Today marks two years for my mom, my love for her will never change, but I now understand I can't change lifes events, I have to learn to live again, somehow.
"Ambreen, It hasn't even been a month for you and I can promise you that you are still in shock. It may not feel like it. First, I just want to tell you that I am so sorry for your loss. This Christmas eve will make two years for me. It all…"
lost my mother on 24 nov 2017 , now 3 weeks have been passed . My mother was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer , It was a great shock for me , She never ever smoked and she didn't have any symptoms . I was very closed to my mother and my father has been passed away 4 years ago When she was diagnosed with cancer , I thought that some miracle would happen , I started adding anti cancer dietary elements in her diet , giving her drugs with an ambition of fighting with her disease . But h…See More
"I am so sorry. I lost my precious Mother on Valentines day of this year. It is shattering. Do not deny yourself the right to grieve to please others. They think they are helping, but in reality, they hurt for you and are trying to make it better.…"
I lost my mother on 24 nov 2017 , now 3 weeks have been passed . My mother was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer , It was a great shock for me , She never ever smoked and she didn't have any symptoms . I was very closed to my mother and my father has been passed away 4 years ago When she was diagnosed with cancer , I thought that some miracle would happen , I started adding anti cancer dietary elements in her diet , giving her drugs with an ambition of fighting with her disease . But…See More
"Thank you Joe for your posts. In a weird way it gives me a lift. How? Because I know that I am not making up how hard this suffering is.
My closest friend and sibling also know how I feel about dying and I know I would not have to…"
"joe that is incredible.
thanks for the time and energy sharing.
i think ill look at some of your suggestions and see what will work for me.
for me this week has been hard.
1 week until first anniversary of her death, i don't know what to…"
""As the years are passing I feel the need more and more."
When I read some of you guys suffering so long, it gives me great fear that despite my health neglect, and legal preparations, I don't know when it will actually come to…"
"I read your words and it brings me to my knees."
I keep asking God to let me go many times a day. I tell Him/Her/It that I will never relent until my prayer is answered. I ask my love to keep asking too and have…"
"Thanks Bluebird for nice comment about my Julian. He was so caring and was my rock. Being with him for 24/7 for 13 years of our retirement was bliss, I thank God for this time together.
Morgan & Joe I keep believing there is eternal love…"
I read your words and it brings me to my knees. I so want to join my husband. As the years are passing I feel the need more and more. I am not sure I understand totally how your OBE has given you more faith that somehow we…"
"Pamela, you are grieving for your mother. You may not be able to see it but I can. My father was horrible. I did not grieve his death. I barely gave it a second thought. You are grieving your mom, and you are grieving the way things were. The advice…"
"I lost my mother on 9-6-15 eight days before I lost my husband on 9-14-15 and I feel horrible because I am struggling with how I am grieving for my mother because we had a very strained relationship because my mother was an alcoholic all her life…"
It is impossible for us to know for absolutely sure what exactly happens when we die. Oh, how I would love her to appear before me and tell me she's here and waiting for me, but I also know that she can't do that…"
I am so glad that the folks on this forum feel the same way I do. Society is always trying to label people, if we don't agree with them they think we are weird or crazy. My sweet Husband Julian taught me to ignore what other people…"
"I fully agree with you both, Linda and Monty. My deep and abiding grief is the only response I could possibly have to my husband's death. My soulmate was torn from me, and I don't know if his wonderful soul still exists, or if I will ever…"
"Hi Avi, it would be nice to have a friend. The time gap is big but we can agree on a time to talk. Keeping busy also functions for me. Anyways, as soon as I have free time the thoughts and feelings came back and grief hits so hard. I wish you have a…"
India is 8.30 hours ahead of Argentina. We can talk at your early morning whenever you want.
Feeling of desolation still exists for me but I try to be strong and do things (work, travel, eating etc) with sincerity. "
"Agreed, Daylight. I often think about how appalled my mom and my husband would be by my current state. But I would say that the feeling of total desolation will change, based on my experience with my husband’s death, thirty months…"