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I am new to this group and to online forum in general. I am very much a pen and paper person but I need support that I can get at any time of day due to full time work and parenting!
Dad died on May 2nd this year and after the initial pain I thought I would be ok. As it turns out, the grief has snuck up behind me and I am really missing the hell out of him. How do others deal with this?
I hate to hear about your dad :( We expected my dad's passing, but it definitely still sucks. I'm with you about it hurting more now. It's like, I find myself wanting to call and tell him so many things, especially about my daughter and my career, things I know he would love to hear about. He chose to be cremated which I am totally cool with, but I am not able to visit his ashes and I sure wish I had a place to go to visit him.
I sure am glad you have him with you, at least until you're ready to scatter. That is beautiful. We did not have a special place, but I can think of one place I could go to that he liked to shoot guns at. Thank you for the idea. My boyfriend suggested I write to my dad...maybe I can go to that place and write to him.
In terms of finding a new routine...what are you trying instead? How do you keep busy?
Sorry in the big delay but we sadly lost my older sister in november just 4 days before the 6 month anniversary of my Dad.
It was hard with the routine. We was always tripping ourselves up with it at the start. We didnt do anything really other than just let us naturally fill out time as each day came.
Hope your ok xx
I can totally relate. I think that is one of those myths also. I will never so called "get over it" and I don't know that I want to. I will somehow adjust to this new way. My dad died almost a year ago and I struggle just as much now and more as the day it happened. There is no right formula for grieving. That's just how much they meant to us when we feel this way myself included. Some people may never understand my void but that's ok.