lost my husband of 21 years

I found this site a few days after my husband passed suddenly.  Since then I have been on the phone trying to figure out what to do next.  Seems like 1 step forward and 3 steps back.  It's Sunday so here I am-nobody to call.  

I'm so lost and the people I thought would be there for me have left and don't even bother calling anymore.  It's only been a month.  I'm existing and will make it through this because I don't have a choice.  I have 2 daughters, 5 and 8.  Does anybody have any advise on how to help them deal with the loss of their father?

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Permalink Reply by Jean on March 19, 2016 at 5:39pm

I hope that you can find something you can all do together. Not a pony but something that is special to just the three of you. Roller skating or ice skating. I really hope you do ok because it is more of an adjustment for you I think. I was not really close to my father. He was a WWII vet and Korean war vet so he was never the same after all of that so I was told. He scared me most of the time. You can be their rock.

Permalink Reply by Sheryl Kep on March 27, 2016 at 6:20am

i agree with you totally, I'm Sheryl and i feel like im in the same situation.Its been 6 weeks for me. My kids are 15 and 17 though. I suddenly feel like everyone who was our friends have gone.I dont really have any advice for the kids

only one thing i did do that really worked was to wash the dogs all together.  That was nice,  oh and get in the car and go for fish and chips at the beach.

Permalink Reply by Karen O on March 27, 2016 at 11:33am

Hi Sheryl, It's been about 7 weeks for me. The rest of the world has moved on and i'm still here dealing with everything. The people that he (my husband) said would help me if this were to ever happen are no where to be found. A relative of his actually returned my phone call and left me a VM saying he was too busy and that i need to send him emails what my call was regarding and maybe we could set up an appointment to talk. Unbelievable!
I wish I could get in the car and go to the beach for fish and chips!
How are you holding up? Was your husband sick or was it sudden?

Permalink Reply by Sheryl Kep on March 27, 2016 at 5:18pm
He was sick for 6 months. He found a lump in his leg, and it was too late. He tried chemo and that did very little except make him sicker.
Im struggling to sleep, everyone seems to expect me to just do everything, noone will even mention his name. Noone has been that bad to me to be rude though it feels more like the silent treatment, even from one of my best friends. Work has been terrible, i just kept being pushed about leave. Time off was only available as leave without pay.(even though i had sick leave) the week i got back they tell me my job is changing to evening shift

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