since i lost my husband i had to live the house that we had just bought... at times i feel that i want to go back but when i go just to clean it i cant be there too long.. my house is not the same anymore..the tree i used to love in the backyard now is ugly to me :( the garage is so quiet ..his bike aint there no more.. is so sad that i had to live my house ..im strong enough to go to the cementary but i cant be home with my kids.. so many memories .. i dont know what to do if i should move out for good or go back??? please help me !!!!!

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Me and my fiance' didn't own a home, we just moved into are current townhome in June. Me and my kids are moving out, it is too painful to be here where we spent time with him and then I expect him to come thru the door here too. It's hard to make these kind of decisions right now. And I understand the feeling, how nothing in the world is enjoyable or pretty anymore. We are just trying to survive each day and bare the heartache.

yes bianca .. i think is better for us to move out,,like u said were just trying to survive :(

My husband and I have lived at our apartment for the past 5 years. And I am not planning on moving. I am staying here. Although, i cant help to feel so alone, the house so big now that he is gone. There is just too much pain. But, i also have so much memories of all of us here. Every part of the house reminds me of him, and at the same time, i feel him close to me. I guess it is a hard decision to make. For myself, i am staying for now.

amanda alot of people told me that i should do what u did n stay home but my home is a hour away from all my family n i think im going to feel really lonely up there with my kids... for me i feel like is too soon to go back

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