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Comment by Linda on October 9, 2012 at 8:13pm

I am sorry for your loss! I lost my father suddenly to a massive heart attack in August 2011.  I thought this aching pain to hug him or just see him would never go away.  I have found that writing letters to my father helped me cope.  The letters were either really short such as "daddy why did you go" to a lengthy letter about what a great father he was. In the beginning, I would also have a good cry before bed. It's been over a year now and I still hurt and will never stop, but the pain eases as time goes on.  Hang in there!

Comment by dream moon JO B on October 8, 2012 at 3:08pm

it is hard kristie my dad woz the 1 tht kept the family going and stopin the family from having silly argumentss tht get out of control he did i now find it hard to trust hospitells i do now and drs and nursess i do evry time i sea thatt advert abot lung desese it brings it all back my dad on the oxygen mashine me to becky im stuben like my dad woz he wud hold on to the last minit to get medicall help but i do the same but worse but i dont want any 1 else doing tht

Comment by Kristie Jo on October 8, 2012 at 2:41pm

Becky, I'm so sorry! I'm finding that some days are better than others.  One minute I'm fine, then the next I'm crying or thinking about him -- wondering if he's still here with me. 

 

Comment by Becky H on October 8, 2012 at 4:44am

I found, for me, to just take it day by day. Some days will be better than others. One day you will think 'maybe its getting easier for me' then one thing will trigger memories (like a song, picture, even a freaking commercial) and you will find yourself bawling like a big baby. I dont think it really ever gets easier, we just occupy our time with our normal routines so that we dont think about it constantly. I found out last month that my father passed away in November of 2011. We hadnt talked for awhile - mostly because of me being 'too busy' and him being stubborn...well we were both stubborn..and noone even bothered to tell me he was gone. I loved my father - something that made itself painfully clear when I found out. I never even had a chance to say goodbye or anything, and that is something that made dealing with his passing 10x harder. You are right to be thankful and blessed you got a chance to.