Nicole Efird
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About Me:
I am 24 and married with a beautiful baby born that was born Jan 27 2011. I am also a full time student and recently out of the military.
About my Loss:
My dad went in for a colonoscapy reversal on May 17, 2011. Everything was going great. The surgery went fine and his recovery was going really well. On May 23 my dad had a bowel movement so that let us know that his colon was now working and we could start looking forward to going home. I went up to the hospital to see my dad like I had done everyday ( I live 9 hours away from them so I wanted to spend as much time as possible with him) and we had a normal conversation about things that were going on in my life. He held and played with my baby (he's my only child and looks like my dad). I went home. I kisses my daddy and told him I love him and couldn't wait till he got home and I had him some homemade banana nut bread at home waiting for him. The next morning I took my nephew to his award ceremony and my brother in law gets a phone call from my mom but no one really thought about it. After the ceremony was over he told us we needed to get my brother and go to the hospital. At first he wouldn't tell us what was wrong. Finally I got it out of him that my dad had stopped breathing. We race up to the hospital and go to the ICU. My mom (who hadn't left the hospital since they got their on the 17th) was crying saying that the doctors are checking his heart and getting him ready for emergency surgery to see what happened. A few hours later the surgeon comes in and says that the colon had lost all blood flow and died and that they went ahead and removed it all and gave him and iliostomy. They told us the next 12 hours would be the hardest because there was some infection and poisoning of his system, but the leak was not a significant as the first time it ruptured. This was a 8 pm and the 24th. It gave us some hope, his heart was good the dead organ was gone. All he had to do was fight off the infection. All of us (with the exception of my mom) went home that night. We get a call at 2 am from my mom telling us his vitals are getting worse and we don't need to come up there because she knew the baby was sleeping and my dad would understand. We went anyways. I got to see my dad and he looked the same as he did after the surgery. He still had good color and really warm. He was still snoring. We stayed for a couple hours and there had been no change so we went back home again. I get a call at 7 am telling me to come up there now its not looking good. I am at the hospital around 730. We go back on see my dad and there are two nurses working on him pumping him with meds to keep his heart rate up. They tell us he's having multiple organ failure and his kidneys can't fight off the infection or filter out the toxins. They tell us they just called the kidney specialist about an hour ago (why wait so late?) I ask about dialysis and they tell us that with one type of dialysis it would probably kill him instantly and the other would probably still kill him just take longer. We went back to the waiting room because you can only be with them for 15 mins in the icu. The doctor comes and gets us at 9:30 and tells us we need to make a decision. They takes us to his bedside and say that we either need to let him go or they can try to resuscitate him by calling a code blue but they had to do it now. I knew my dad didn't want to live on life support but I couldn't give up on him. In my heart I knew my mom wasn't going to agree to the code blue. I think she saw it in my eyes because when she looked at me all I was thinking was give him a chance please don't give up on my daddy I'm not ready to let him go. So she told them to try once and if it didn't work let him go. They called the code blue and pushed us out of the room. The chaplain escorted us to a room in the icu where we waited. It seemed like forever when it was only 10 mins. The doctor came in and I knew he was gone. All the praying and pleading and begging to God didnt do anything. I lost my Dad on May 25 2011 at 9:45 in the morning. The worst day of my life. My dad was 60 years old.

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