Lisa Green
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Lisa Green commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Theresa, I'm glad your medicine helped you some. Talk to your doctor if it's not helping a lot. They may be able to adjust the dosage or even the type. There are several available and everyone's body is not the same. I look at it like…"
Wednesday
Lisa Green commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Thank you Brett. I took Abby to see Dad last Saturday and it was such a nice reunion. He was not as excited as I thought he would be but that's ok. Abby sat right beside dad the whole time and dad rubbed her head and talked to her some. He…"
Wednesday
Lisa Green commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Brett,  Life is so hard and it's definitely not fair. No one should ever have to lose their Mom at any age.  My mom has been gone for 20 months and I still miss her terribly and I do still talk to her out loud in my car. It makes me…"
Oct 16
Lisa Green commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Oh Shellie, my heart goes out to you. I lost my Mom Feb. 24, 2016 so I am coming up on one year. I can't imagine the hurt of losing a Mom could be any worse than what I've experienced but I guess there are circumstances where it certainly…"
Jan 25
Lisa Green commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Hello Olive. This may sound very strange but welcome to our club that none of us ever wanted to be a part of. The loss of my Mom has been the hardest thing I have ever had to deal with. The good thing about this site is that all of us truly do…"
Jan 19
Lisa Green commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Anna, your story brought tears to my eyes. Many of the stories here do but they also bring comfort somehow. How heartbreaking that your mom passed so close to Christmas. This will be my first Christmas without my mom and it will be a hard one. We…"
Dec 5, 2016
Lisa Green commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Happy Thanksgiving to all. May God walk softly with all of us as we go through this holiday without our moms. For me, it is a first Thanksgiving without Mom."
Nov 23, 2016
Lisa Green commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Lindsey,  I accepted your friend request "
Nov 4, 2016
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Nov 4, 2016
Lisa Green commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Lindsey, I completely relate to how you are feeling. I don't think anyone has put it into words any better than you did. I too have a husband, kids and pets and extended family that I see fairly often. I work everyday and attend my kids…"
Nov 4, 2016
Lisa Green replied to emma's discussion lost in the group When Things go Wrong in Our Loved Ones Lives
"Glad you're here Emma. Thee is a lot of support on this site. At least the people here truly understand because we have all lost someone special or we wouldn't be here. "
Oct 24, 2016
Lisa Green commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"I miss my mom so much. My heart hurts constantly. "
Oct 24, 2016
Lisa Green commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Hello everyone. I haven't commented in quite awhile. I have read several messages and gained strength from them. My mom has been gone nine months today. I don't think it will ever get easier to live without Mon but slowly I'm learning…"
Oct 24, 2016
Lisa Green replied to Ann's discussion Feeling lost in the group I miss my Mom!
"Thank you Ann. "
Aug 23, 2016
Lisa Green replied to Ann's discussion Feeling lost in the group I miss my Mom!
"Marla, It is hard to imagine how you hold it together without the love and support from family and friends. It is the most difficult thing in the world for a person to go through. I'm glad you found this page. The people here do truly…"
Aug 22, 2016
Lisa Green replied to MarieSte's discussion Thoughts About Loss in the group Grief Poems
"This is beautiful. I can relate to so many of things you mentioned. I will always hold on to Hope and Love. Until we too pass, there is no way to know for sure but I choose to believe they can hear us, see us and still surround us with their…"
Jul 12, 2016

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About Me:
Married, working Mom of three
About my Loss:
I lost my Mom February 24, 2016. It's was the worst day of my life. Mom had rheumatoid arthritis for more than twenty years. She took a medication called Methetrexate and it destroyed her kidneys. She had been in 4th stage kidney disease for about four years when she went into the hospital on Feb. 17, 2016. She went in with shortness of breath and they discovered she was in afib. By the next day, they had her heart back in rhythm and she was supposed to go home in 2-3 days but through the night her blood pressure dropped severely and caused her kidneys to completely fail. It also caused septic shock.She went to ICU on a ventilator and stayed there for five days before she died. It has been a little over a month and sometimes I still feel like she's coming back to me. I still find myself talking to her all the time. I tell her I love her multiple times a day. I kiss her picture and her wedding ring that I now wear. My mom was the best friend I ever had. She loved me and my kids with absolute unconditional love. There was never, ever a time when she did not have time for me or any member of our family. Mom loved the Lord and loved her family with all her heart. Those were her priorities and nothing else mattered. I felt that love my whole life. I still do in a different way because she will always be with me in my heart and looking over me. The most difficult thing for me is finding a way to live without her in my world. Nothing really seems important anymore. Nothing is quite right. I have a loving and supportive family in my Dad, husband, siblings and children but its not the same as what I had with my Mom. It's the hardest thing I've ever had to do in my life.

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At 12:31pm on June 4, 2016, Julie M said…
Oh Lisa, Memorial Day hit me hard, too. On Monday I woke up with super swollen eyes and a sinus headache from bawling my head off.

Lisa, I can promise you that with time, it honestly will get easier. My mom is the first close family member I've lost, and we just never (my bros and I) never envisioned that our mom would precede our dad in death. He also never thought she would, either. My sister-in-law (one of my brother's wives) lost her mom in a similar way 3 years ago. She's been an amazing support person for ALL of us, especially for my dad. She's like a sister to me. So it will get easier as time passes. Again, I can only day this now after having gone through it. Like you, I was very, very close to my mom. Ugh, now crying. Here is something a friend told me when my mom was dying: it has to do with the circle of life, but he said that without a doubt, the worst suffering any person can go through is losing a child. My parents had three kids, and I'm the oldest. Though they nearly lost my youngest brother when he had a motorcycle accident, they never had to suffer through the death of one of their kids. For that, I am thankful. So in essence, losing my mom sucked. I suffered greatly. But knowing my parents never had to undergo the greatest suffering of all time did help me to accept her dying and death a bit easier. So when she was literally dying, my brothers and Dad were throwing out bargains with God left and right. My only "bargain" was this: "If you can take my mom so that she doesn't have to suffer for long, I will take on any suffering you give me. Take hers away and give it to me. That's all I ask". She passed within the half hour. I was incredibly strong and helpful for my brothers and my dad and my kids and their cousins. I never imagined myself in that role, Lisa. I always thought I'd be such a crying, anxious mess that I wouldn't be able to leave my room, let alone attend her funeral. I was stronger than I had any idea I was. I'm positive that I inherited THAT from my mom. I stayed and took care of my Dad for over a month after Mom died, and I helped him through his grief. The day after her funeral was their 50th wedding anniversary. My own family (except for my youngest son) had gone back home after the funeral, but that day with my dad was filled with both sorrow and joy. A
Late that afternoon, my brother and sister-in-law and my nieces brought dinner out for all of us. Though we were grieving, my dad most especially, it helped him to have some of his grandkids there.

I added you as a friend, but if you want to email me directly, here's my email: julesorman@gmail.com. Anytime you need a shoulder to cry on or you just need someone to listen, hit me up. You're in Wisconsin, right? I'm in St Paul. I hope this weekend is an easier one for you. I'm definitely still grieving, no doubt. Your loss is much more recent than mine; I imagine you are, too. It will be easier with time, Lisa.

Julie
At 5:16pm on May 30, 2016, Julie M said…
Hi Lisa. First time on this site, hope I'm doing this right. I'm also a married mother; I have 2 sons. My mom died on September 25, 2015. She was diagnosed with stage 4 ovarian cancer on September 14, and died in the hospital 11 days later. Her funeral was the following Friday. The day following the funeral was my mom and dad's 50th wedding anniversary.

I live in the same state was my parents, but am about 4 hours away drive time. After Mom died, I stayed "up north" with my dad for a month and a half. My mom had been his primary caretaker for many years. He was not in great health when Mom died. He and my mom had lived about 15 miles south of the city, on 80 acres of land. No neighors and they didn't farm; they just liked living in the country. It's where I grew up. My dad needed 24/7 care at the time of my mom's illness and subsequent death. My brothers and I talked with my dad about his moving to an assisted living facility in the city so that he could get the help and care that he needs. So my reason for staying with my dad after Mom died was to take care of him, to help transition him from my care to that of my brother and sister-in-law and the assisted living facility, and to help him through his grieving process. So though my Mom died in September, I didn't grieve (my body and mind didn't let me) until I went back home to my own family in mid November. For some reason, I thought that grieving, for me, was different. Like I honestly thought that my way of coping my my grief was to be a strong and supportive person for my dad, my youngest brother, and my kids and my nieces and nephews. I was so very wrong! The first morning I woke up in my own bed, grief hit me like a tsunami. Now I know exactly why people describe grief as coming in waves. It is incredibly painful. It does get better with time, but I still miss my mom soooo much. Like you, I talk to my mom as if she were right there with me. I talk to her when I'm driving alone in my car. A few times I've picked up my phone to call my mom for advice, or to see what she's up to, or to share a funny story about her grandsons with her. And then grief hits me again. Some days are good, and some days (like today) are really tough. I feel like I should be done grieving and I also feel like my husband and my brothers are beginning to lose patience with me as I'm still sad.
 
 
 

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Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Theresa, you can never say it enough. I kept thinking that my mom had taken her last breath, and then she would take one more breath. I kept saying, "I love you mom." When she finally did take her last breath, I wanted her to take another…"
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Theresa commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"God bless you Luisa, he will be there to give you strength tomorrow. For my mom she passed on the 19th of December, she was cremated on the following Monday, and I had to wait until after the Holidays to have her graveside service which was on New…"
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Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Luisa, My mom's funeral was delayed because of her death date (Christmas Eve). We had to wait until everyone was back in town from their holiday visiting. I think, I try not to think too much about that time, that it was almost two weeks before…"
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Luisa Salter commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Hi everyone, just checking in. I'm sad to hear all the trouble with beloved pets recently. I'm so sorry. I know that some times when it rains it pours. Having a tough day today myself. I have to remind myself that God will give me what I…"
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Jane Stilwell replied to Jane Stilwell's discussion New Here in the group I love my Dad.
"I sure am glad you have him with you, at least until you're ready to scatter. That is beautiful. We did not have a special place, but I can think of one place I could go to that he liked to shoot guns at. Thank you for the idea. My boyfriend…"
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Linda Engberg commented on Katherine Ellis's group Losing Someone to Cancer
"Janet, Sorry about you loss. It has been 4 years since I lose my wonderful Husband.The grief never goes away but just gets easier to bear. "
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Dennis C. replied to Meghan Doyle's discussion Caregiver to my grandpa. Could hospice affected his passing?
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Emma Milner replied to Jane Stilwell's discussion New Here in the group I love my Dad.
"I also cared for my Dad so ive had to find an entire new rountine well try too. So not seeing him everyday and chatting to him is hard. My Dad was cremated too. I have his ashes with me but not sure when I'll feel ready to scatter them. Is…"
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Jane Stilwell replied to Jane Stilwell's discussion New Here in the group I love my Dad.
"I hate to hear about your dad :( We expected my dad's passing, but it definitely still sucks. I'm with you about it hurting more now. It's like, I find myself wanting to call and tell him so many things, especially about my daughter…"
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JO B commented on Katherine Ellis's group Losing Someone to Cancer
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Emma Milner replied to Jane Stilwell's discussion New Here in the group I love my Dad.
"Hey Jane Im new too. Im the exact same. I lost my dad on May 14th this yr unexpectadly. I found it easier to deal with then than I do now. I miss him more now than i did in them first few weeks after. I am too struggling with everything. Having a…"
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Jane Stilwell commented on Katherine Ellis's group Losing Someone to Cancer
"Does it ever get better? I miss my dad so much, it has been 5 months. My daughter will never even remember meeting him. It seems like cancer is EVERYWHERE."
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Hey everybody,I am new to this group and to online forum in general. I am very much a pen and paper person but I need support that I can get at any time of day due to full time work and parenting!Dad died on May 2nd this year and after the initial pain I thought I would be ok. As it turns out, the grief has snuck up behind me and I am really missing the hell out of him. How do others deal with this?See More
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