My 93yo mother passed June 28 this year. My younger sister neglected her badly; mother suffered 4 severe falls, 3 in the last 6 months. She passed in an awful nursing home, against her wishes. I was not able to convince my sister to have mother moved in with me 2 years ago after her first fall. In fact, she made it impossible for me to be a part in any decisions regarding mom's care and placement.
I am not doing well. I feel like I failed mom. I know she would not have suffered had I fought harder to bring her to me. The relationship with my sister is damaged beyond repair. Worse, the relatipnships witj my sister's two daughters, my nieces, have also been damaged.
I do not come here to be told there was nothing more I could do under the circumstances. It's ok to feel and express regret and guilt. I just need some emotional support, hopefully, from others having similar experience.
I am vascillating between deep depression and uncontrollable tears and anguish. My mother and I were very close. I was not with her when she passed...
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