"Last weekend was different. No crashing devastation, no heart crashing through my sternum Friday night and Saturday at the memory of my mother.
Today was another story. I was tired of talking to myself. So I went to a local restaurant, not so much…"
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"Yes, Ash. I hear you.
Grief is overwhelming. It takes over all aspects of us, including our ability to verbalise.
Some days are better than others. Some days are less painful than others.
My mother died in April from vascular dementia, after a…"
"Saw the doctor yesterday about my grief. Doctor listened. Follow-ups forthcoming. Doctor agreed with me that grief is for life and that I have to find a way of living with it.
After the doctor, went out and accomplished three errands.
There are…"
"Tomorrow, I see a doctor about my grief.
Friday night, yesterday and today have all been overwhelming.
It is not just that I miss my mother and it hurts. It is also her last five years, slowly losing her faculties, realising it, but never being…"
"Some days, the lyrics just make more sense. That is scary."
"Did laundry today.
Last year, when my mother was alive, I did laundry more days of the week than I did not. I had to wash her beddings and her cushions. I was always afraid the machines would break.
I would rather have that fear, and my mother…"
"Two other people I know lost their mothers recently.
Unlike me, they have not been lucky enough to bury their mothers. I feel bad for those two people.
I am happy I was able to bury my mother before the second wave. That is completely different…"
"Four calendar months ago today, my mother died.
One calendar month ago today, I buried my mother.
One calendar month ago today, I felt a lot worse than I did four calendar months ago today.
Today is better than yesterday, which was a LOT better…"
"My brother was killed in a car accident decades ago. I was the first to try to identify him. What I saw has never left me. Over the years, I found a way to live with it.
Then, last April (2020), my mother died after a five year battle with vascular…"
"My heart and thoughts are with you, Sara."
"My heart goes out to you.
My mother died from vascular dementia in April. It was after a five year battle against it.
My brother was killed in a car accident decades ago.
Because of the pandemic, I was only able to bury my mother in July. I…"
"My heart goes out to you.
My brother was killed in a car accident decades ago.
My mother died from vascular dementia this past April (2020.) Because of the pandemic, I was only able to bury her in July.
I thought burying her, and then having her…"
Multiple Losses Group
I am creating this site for the many of us who have suffered several losses. I lost my mom, dad, grandma(2nd mom), grandpa, my beloved dog and divorce.Many of us have lost more than one person or event.Come share!See More
""Closure" is a myth. It does not exist in real life.
Every Friday, every Saturday, it's the same.
Friday morning and afternoon can be as normal or eventful or tranquil as can be.
Come Friday night, no matter what the day was like,…"
"I was on autopilot today. I got things done because I was on autopilot.
Seeing the picture of my mother's name and dates engraved on the stone below those of her better son set me off. I had arranged for that before the funeral. But I had a…"
"They finally engraved my mother's name and dates on the tombstone. Someone just sent me a picture of it.
I feel like I have been kicked in the stomach again.
I am happy it is done. She would have wanted that. Her name and dates are below…"
Profile Information
- About Me:
- Was a caregiver to my mother who had vascular dementia
- About my Loss:
- My mother died from vascular dementia in April 2020. Today (July 2020), it hurts worse than it did in April
Joe von Anjou's Blog
I lost my mother in April. It hurts worse now than then
My mother died in April after a years-long battle with vascular dementia. I buried her last Friday.
It hurts worse now than then.
I knew my mother was going to die. When she was first diagnosed two years and change ago, I looked up the medical literature. It said that life expectancy was six to nine years post-diagnosis.…
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LESBIAN ..GAY 2 SPIRITED loss and grief
Anyone who has lost their gay partner..soon finds that there may be a few things that are different...such as sorting through things and feeling like an intruder because it is also family stuff etcSee More
Assumptions
An assumption is an unexamined belief: what is thought to be true without ever really realizing that we think in that way. For better or worse, understanding starts with entertaining the idea that something is true. Truly profound thoughts generally come to light from the relaxation of these (flawed) assumptions. This is where I find myself today...Perhaps, one of the more significant drivers to pushing down the loss and grief at the time of the accident, ignoring it and mindlessly walking…See More
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