If you have seen my other posts, I too have experienced this sudden crazy loss out of the blue. My husband was the most involved loving devoted father and husband. No one else I knew had a husband that was as involved in every aspect of our kids lives. You must still be that person for your child. It is enough to live for your kids, because this becomes a very deep and meaningful purpose during this lifetime. What else is there? I started to think of life as experiences, and this sudden loss…See More
"Rachel_Michelle, I don't think that you or me, or Sammie, or other younger grievers think that we are "victims."
Young men and women have died throughout the ages for various reasons. War, famine, illness, accident, childbirth, the…"
To everyone who suddenly lost their beloved,I tell my best friend and my kids that my brain is hurting and I am worried about waking up one morning and finding out that I have gone crazy. It is now 5 months since I suddenly lost my husband who had a stroke while driving. I had spoken to him twice on the phone that day. I found him sounding strange in the first phone call. I have all kinds of guilt that I did not get him to follow up on some health issues which I thought were due to a poor diet:…See More
"You are the first person Hilary that has summed into words something I feel at the core, "It does not feel like the natural course of events, it has a wrong-ness to it and a cruelty within it, that someone is taken from you when you are just…"
"Connie I am so sorry I made a terrible typo-I lost Josh on December 7th-he went into the hospital on the 1st and passed away on the 7th. I had it stuck in my head that he went in the hospital on the 2nd. Nothing works it like short circuits in my…"
"Well the first of a bunch of not worth a shit holiday just passed spend Thanksgiving sitting in my room by myself yes couldn't even think of being around anyone the way it works out for me Thanksgiving Christmas New Years Mary's birthday…"
""I wont be sharing a laugh about something only he and I would have found funny". Agreed Morgan. This made me think of the inside jokes that you have with no one else. Actually, others would find them weird, pointless, etc, def not funny.…"
"I agree hilary that sometimes people say the platitudes because they're uncomfortable or don't know what to say. But I've even had couple friends, who have been through a similar romantic loss, say it to me. They were the last…"
"Connie, I too had a rubber wristlet from my son. It was odd though since he would never had worn such an item. I found 2 of them in his college folder both new and never worn. They both say "Strength" and were in light blue and white --…"
Today for my Sunday afternoon outing I went to a graveyard. It must of the been the common thought as many were there, putting Christmas wreaths on their loved ones resting place and other momentos of love.I drove past two of the grave sites of young people who passed in our small community, a young woman, K, born 1985 and a young man, B, of 1986. (They died within a year of each other). Both have beautiful markers, with care and love carved on them. The young man even has a mail box, welded…See More
Each person reacts to death differently, and deals with her/his grief differently. There is nothing wrong with the way you are reacting; it is what is right for you, right now. It may change, it may not. Regardless, don't let…"