I made a scrapbook of our life together and it helped to keep it all in one place for me to go back to whenever I want and also as a visual closure (not that I have accepted it yet).  Also I got the idea of writing a fairy tale about my life, good and bad, what roads I took to get to this awful place and creating all the people in my life as creatures and animal forms, and it was fun and enjoyable and I think its helping me look at the big picture as life and love being such an elusive thing. I know that our life is to experience and process our feelings but these projects indulge my fantasies and help me know the dream was real.

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Hi, Maura

I too, have found that such things to help out. Writing has helped so much too. Since my husband passed away I have kept a journal that I write on to express my feelings or simply talk to him. It might sound odd but I feel as if I cry to my notebook when I write and write and at the end when I am done and put it away, I feel a bit better. And that is how it goes. I am trying to take this grieving process DAY BY DAY.  One day at a time. I have found that I cant do it no other way.

Amanda

Amen to that; it sure is weird.  Some days I take great strides in getting on with my "new" life and then I don't want it without him or I find myself trying to relive the "old live" by myself, its all very confusing and writing does help sort it out.

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