"The pain does dull, or at least the intensely painful moments become far less frequent. I second the suggestion of seeing a therapist. It was essential for me. Also, it’s been 3 years in February, and I still journal regularly because it helps…"
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It does get better and the pain dulls somewhat. It’s been 2.5 years for me, and now I can think of him without despairing, though I still miss him so much. Grieving in secret makes it…"
"Jo, I’m so sorry. Last year, when I lost my love, I read somewhere that grief is like a ball in a box, and in that box is a pain button. At the beginning of grief, the ball is huge and so the pain button is always getting hit. As time goes on,…"
"I spent months of last year crying in secret, so I know well what you’re feeling. I went to his funeral, where a lot of the pictures in the slideshow were taken by me, but no one in his family knew I existed. I finally sought counseling, which…"
I wish I had more comforting things to tell you. What I can say is that therapy is helping me, along with a good antidepressant. Grieving in secret is impossible, and I think makes it last longer because there is no community to share it…"
"Emmy, I can imagine what you're feeling. Though our situations are somewhat different, the pain is the same. I'm sorry you're having to go through that. I want him back every day, so I know what you mean."