"It will take time. Personally, I couldn't smile at anything for 2 weeks after my mom died (Ironically enough it was when I was driving home with her cremains), but know this: There is no reason for you not to laugh or smile at something. You…"
"The farther away I get from my mom's death (September 2012), the easier it seems to get. Don't get me wrong, not a day goes by where I don't think about my mom, and I still get sad...but I realize that she's not in any pain…"
"I hear you guys. I'm stuck with a family that's crumbling, an uncertain future, and really wishing that the holidays were done. Especially since at work all they play is this soft-hit Christmas music BS that either annoys the hell out of…"
"My birthday is this coming Friday (Yeah, Black Friday.) And it's going to be sadder than shit...my first birthday without my mom. Not to mention it seems the rest of my life is going to shit too. Any advice on that first birthday? "
"@Jennifer I have a similar feeling every time I hold mom's urn. And jeez....I'll be moving out of my house for similar reasons. I know it's probably time for me to move on anyway, in terms of the house (NOT in terms of mom,) but it…"
"Hearts and hugs to everyone, Y'all. If there's anyone in the eastern seaboard tonight, my thoughts go out to you. Please keep friends and family in your prayers/thoughts tonight if they are in Hurricane Sandy's way. "
"Hey Y'all...hope you're doing ok considering the circumstances. I really miss my mom still...it seems to be at its worst at night, when she was most active. It's stressful as all hell because I'm also trying to pursue a job and…"
"I do too...I do too. It's been so damn horrible...the only thing keeping me going strong is that it apparently gets better...so I am told from others who have lost their mothers and fathers....but it feels like the pain will never go away. "
"Brad, I completely agree. Staying busy really helps keep the pain away, albeit temporarily. You want to feel the pain...it helps it go away sooner.
My first speaking gig was tonight, and I did really well. On the way home, I knew mom would be…"
"I'm with you too Lynn. I lost my mom about a month ago, and it feels like someone put a knife in my heard and cut a chunk out. Just surround yourself with friends and family, and consider therapy as an option too. And give yourself time to…"
"I also see her in dreams sometimes but when I wake up I hardly remember anything. Initially I was not able to sleep and used to wake up in nights but then life got busy in other things and I started sleeping properly.
Everybody of us hope to…"
"Something I have noticed is that the content of a dream may not be a big deal, but what you are feeling in the dream is where the power comes from. The dream I had was horrible. It was so short, but I had a sick feeling in my stomach throughout.…"
"I dream about my Mom & Dad & thankfully they are always good dreams that are comforting. An Aunt that I was close to is in a lot of the dreams with my parents. I have one sibling. He is never in the dreams of my parents. I…"
"I rarely dream about my mom. When I do dream about her it is almost always bad. I had a horrible dream last night. It was very short. I was standing near the front door of my mom's house. I looked down to greet my dog. There was a little puppy…"
"Yes we have no choice but to live without our mothers. Grief and guilt will be there through out and some days will be really hard than others. Yesterday was pathetic for me as my father said something that really hit me. I hope to see my mother…"
"I relate to you all who have posted lately. 2 years for me. 2nd year was worse than the first as reality set in and shock lessened. I am still in a trauma state of mind. Forgetful, irritable, less patient. I isolate…"
"6 days ago my husband and soulmate was brutly murdered and everyday gets a little harder I haven't seen him yet he's held up at the corners and I'm terrified to see him but I need to see him to convince my mind that this is real and…"
"Robin, thank you. Bluebird was the honesty that i discovered on this site that made it possible for me to express what I go through. Several others who write let me know too. I tend to reach out here, particularly when I am…"
"Hi Morgan - I lost my husband John, 9 years ago, when he was 46. I come to this website every now & then, but have only commented a few times. I relate most to you and Bluebird. I can't believe it's been 9 years, and…"
"I really don't know what to say to all the newer people who come here looking for help and comfort because I have struggled for years. I did find an article written by a psychotherapist just the other day that made some sense to me about the…"