My dear younger sister passed away almost 4 weeks ago and I could not cope with the pain and the yearning of her return.

My life stops at the day of her passing.  I have seen grief counselor and joined support group, it does not help ease my intense pain at all.  I spend days and nights crying and asking my younger sister to take me home with her.

What am I going to do with my life? Life is not worth living for.  It was always the two of us now I have no one.

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I am so sorry for your loss and the pain that you feel.

Even though it won't take your pain away, the Bible does help give us HOPE for better things in the future.

For Example:

Revelation 21:4 — And he will wipe out every tear from their eyes, and death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore. The former things have passed away.”

It also promises that you sister will live again, and that you can be reunited.

These hopes are real and can give us something to look forward to.

Again, I know this won't take the pain away, but I hope it can offer some comfort.
Hi Dennis,

Thank you for reaching out to me. Both my sister and I are Catholic. My sister was baptized a little over a year ago but she went to Mass with me for more than 30 years.

During the last few weeks of her life, she would softly ask me to pray the rosary and hold on to a rosary. They both gave her comfort but I am angry with God. I prayed, I bargained, and I pleaded to our Lady to spare my sister's life. At the end, she was taken away from me.

"I'll See You Again" by Westlife was the song I played at her funeral Mass. I really want to believe it but I just can't anymore.

It has been one month plus one day since her passing, I just miss her and I am profoundly sad.

It is ok to be so sad, and miss your dear sister every day.

The Bible says this about death.

1 Corinthians 15:26 — And the last enemy, death, is to be brought to nothing.

Did you notice that "death" is an enemy? No wonder it causes so much pain. But notice also that God says he will bring it to nothing. That would be WONDERFUL!!!

According to the scriptures, God is NOT the cause of death. He is not to blame. He is the solution.

His son Jesus said:

John 11:25 — Jesus said to her: “I am the resurrection and the life. The one who exercises faith in me, even though he dies, will come to life;

Part of the problem we have is that most of us are taught that this is all GOD's will. That this is how he intended it to be, and that death is part of his process. This is NOT what the Bible says.

When we learn what the Bible REALLY teaches, we can stop being angry at God and find that he is the source of all comfort.

2 Corinthians 1:3,4 — Praised be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of tender mercies and the God of all comfort, 4 who comforts us in all our trials so that we may be able to comfort others in any sort of trial with the comfort that we receive from God.

I hope you don't mind the discussion here. I am just sharing things that inevitably led to my comfort, maybe it can help you. I know it wont take the pain away, but maybe you will feel some comfort.
I lost my sister just 4 weeks ago it's too painful.sometimes when I am riding a bike I feel like just hitting something and ending it all.I have to live for my parents.I don't have any choice.I don't know if this helps but I am a hindu.we believe in mom said if we grieve too much our loved ones cannot move I just do my work and let the moment pass.


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