"Hi Panda, I wish i could give you a big old hug and tell you that everything will be ok. I know the road is rough right now and it is hard to see that everything will be alright. For me when I have believed what someone has told me then found out…"
"If you think she is in danger of hurting herself, report her. Is there a way send to the administrator the post she sent you that is concerning you so much? Maybe they can help her.
Hugs to a very caring person,
"It did. It's just i shoulda met her sooner :/ I totally regret that :/ I shoulda met her when I turned 18. I shouldn't have even believed my family :/ I knew they were abusive :/ so why did i? :/ I'm just retarded. Idk. It just hurts"
"Panda, you have such an incredible amount of courage to stand up and take the risk you did to meet your Mom!!! I know it was way too short of a time and it is beyond unfair that you only had those two weeks:-(. try not to "should" all over…"
"Hi panda, it is so hard to trust anything after your mom passed away. This is a period of intense uncertainty. I'm way older than you and since my mom died, I am so uncertain about everything, so angry and so so sad. The biggest thing is the…"
Thanks for answering. I'm glad you are seeing a new psychiatrist, hopefully you will click with them. Sometimes you have to try so many different ones before you hit on the right one. I hope that this person can give you the support…"
"Bluebell could you check my comment wall? The young girl that posted today, panda sounds really distraught and am concerned about her. She commented that she didn't want to be here anymore and said that no one wants her. Not sure what to do…"
"Panda, Do you have a family doctor that you can talk to that can maybe help / suggest some help? The week after my mom passed I went to talk to my doctor and she put me in touch with some numbers in the community that could offer some supports. if…"
"Panda, I know you are hurting, and one remark from a complete stranger won't undo a lifetime of being abused. But I care and I can listen. I truly believe that your mom is looking out for you, and so wants you to be happy. Please keep reaching…"
"Panda, I am so deeply sorry to hear of your Mom passing away:-(! I wish so much that I could say something that would ease the pain of everything that has happened to you... words seem so inadequate! The only thing I can say is you are cared about…"
I just lost my Mom on July 4th after she suffered a blood clot in her leg, a heart attack after the surgery to remove the clot, then a month of pain from the resuscitation. She passed away in the morning with no one around...she was 90 years old.
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It did. It's just i shoulda met her sooner :/ I totally regret that :/ I shoulda met her when I turned 18. I shouldn't have even believed my family :/ I knew they were abusive :/ so why did i? :/ I'm just retarded. Idk. It just hurts
Thanks for the virtual hug Heather. Hugs to you as well. I've only been without my mom for under two months and can't imagine a life without her. You are so correct when you say you feel lost. I feel lost too because moms no matter how old we get, are there to give us solicited and unsolicited advice, guidance, etc.
I'm glad I'm not the only one going through this, although I wish none of us were.
I am so sorry for your loss. The journey of caregiving is extremely difficult. The loss of our especially loved dear ones is unspeakable.
There are so many different ideas about what happens to us when we die. Religion teaches many different…"
"I just feel like I am in a fog. I have a little dog that is at least ten years old. She adored my Mom & she has really grieved for her. I know how you feel about your dog. I worry about her. She is all I have. …"
"Me too Brett, I sit here an look at my 12 year old Labrador and I know he is on borrowed time, and my heart breaks, losing him will be something that I am not looking forward to.
As you said Brett, we have the live our lives until we are called…"
"Yes, I was looking at something that popped up on my Yahoo news feed. It was an article naming 106 celebrities who have passed away in 2019. So many names and faces that I remembered. Now they are gone, and they aren't coming back. Their time…"
"Brett so true she was my security blanket
I feel like I have no one to lean on that understood me like her
You know what keeps coming in my mind. How true it is and scary that everything has a beginning and an end."
"I hear it all the time you don’t know how lucky you were that your mother wasn’t sick and you didn’t have to take care of her I say to them lucky I was lucky that my mother died and I was not right by her side to tell her I love…"
"M, the problem is that our security blankets were ripped away.
Like you, sometimes I am glad to be sad. I feel like I am closer to my mom when I am crying. At least, her memory is fresher with me when I am in that zone.
I feel like the hard reality…"
"Theresa, millions, billions of people have lost their moms. Sometimes someone will tell me that they have lost their mom, too, but they were able to deal with it, and they wonder why I haven't dealt with it as well. This may sound like an…"
"Me too ...I was sitting marking a paper yesterday and suddenly realized that I can’t see or talk to my mother about this or anything else and the tears came. But I’m glad to think of her, in a way I can be glad to be sad sometimes.…"
"I sometimes will just be sitting down and I start to cry because I keep thinking I miss my mom so much my whole world is just not the same I think that I’ve become a different person it will be four years and I still cry
I can’t put into…"
"Definitely a colder world now. I like the image of the security blanket — like, as we go forward, we will always keep it but eventually may be able to wash it, fold it nicely, and put it in some place of honour close at hand but without…"
"It is such a traumatic event, especially when you have had a wonderful Mom. It is so hard knowing she is gone. Knowing this is permanent. There is no one that can fill the void she left. My brother was close to Mom, but he…"
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"While I never forget that my mom is gone, for some reason it just hits me over the head sometimes. Just out of the blue I'll be like, "Mom is gone." It's horrible. It's ever present. And the thing is that it is always with…"
"My Mom also. I could always talk to her about anything & knew she was someone I could totally trust. I am constantly thinking of something I want to share with her & then I remember she is gone. I loved spending time with…"