"Two years ago today was my last conversation with my son, Matthew, i talked with him till i life fell asleep and after a night full of nightmares...i got the call that he had been shot and was killed.. never in my life would i believe my worst…"
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Marti Shaffer
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Tattoo Memorial
127 members
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Loss of a child In memor…
20 members
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Missing my Son or Daug…
255 members
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Traumatic, Sudden Loss
566 members
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Marti Shaffer commented on Julie Dolsey-Weiss's group Traumatic, Sudden Loss"Dear Ellen,
You should think about your sister, a month is not a very long time at all. Its been almost two years since i lost my son, Matthew, and i think about him everyday...How could we not. We love them and they were huge parts of our lives.…"
Marti Shaffer commented on Julie Dolsey-Weiss's group Traumatic, Sudden Loss"Haven't been on for awhile but it is only 15 days until one of my sons murderers gets sentenced. I have been a huge ball of emotion, anger, fear and just plain missing my son. I miss his strength that he brought to our family, i miss his smile,…"
Marti Shaffer commented on Julie Dolsey-Weiss's group Traumatic, Sudden Loss"Lorna, welcome the only way i get through this is:
breathe in..... breathe out..... put one foot in front of the other..........breathe in.... breathe out......put one foot in front of the other..... when u can't…"
Marti Shaffer replied to marlene lovell's discussion Why wont people mention his name....... in the group Traumatic, Sudden Loss"He is my celebrity , thank u, he was a great son and i wont stop talking about him, i cant. he is too important in my life and still such a huge part of my life and who i am."
Marti Shaffer replied to marlene lovell's discussion Why wont people mention his name....... in the group Traumatic, Sudden Loss"I love that you said this cause i feel like talking about my son all the time, i think of him constantly but no one likes to bring him up but i want to talk about him, i want to remembe the joy he brought into my life. i want to hear people laugh…"
Marti Shaffer replied to Karen's discussion STUPID things people say... " Vent Here " in the group Missing my Son or Daughter"the pain is too much to handle but u will. I know that some days i just have thought about doing that just to see Matt but its not the way. There is still life through this pain and some days that life just plain sucks but u can do it!!!!!!!!!!!"
Marti Shaffer joined Gyla Lynn Darden's group
Loss of a child In memory of my son or daughter
This group focuses on healing ourselves and each other over the death of a child and welcomes a Christian atmosphere to help with the healing process. I welcome all of those grieving.See More
Marti Shaffer commented on Karen's group Missing my Son or Daughter"This will be my first Mother Day without my Matthew and it is gonna SUCK SUCK SUCK..........."
Marti Shaffer commented on Karen's group Missing my Son or Daughter"kim johnson, iknow how u feel about just one more hug etc.... my son was 6 ft 2 and strong as an ox. He would pick me up 5ft 2in and give me the biggest bear hugs. He was a donor and i know that someone received his eyes and i would give anything to…"
Marti Shaffer commented on Karen's group Missing my Son or Daughter"thank u Karen R. It is so nice to hear someone else say they KNOW my pain and mean it!!! I dont think we ever get used to the loss , i think we just get used to living with that part of our heart gone. The embedded pain, i doubt will evr go away…"
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- About my Loss:
- My 21 year old son, Matthew died on January 12th, 2011.
Comment Wall (1 comment)
- At 3:01am on May 1, 2011,
Ammy said… - Marti, we all grieve a little different, but I can relate to some of the things you said. I know how you feel, but I want you to know that little by little it will ease up. It doesn't go away, but it won't be there constantly. In the beginning (91/2 months ago) I thought I would not survive myself and I really didn't want to, but now when I don't have such an awful day I am able to thank God for giving me a break. My son had a little girl 21 months old when he died and we are so grateful to have her, but it also breaks our hearts to know that she will not have her daddy. Feel your pain, cry, scream, pray. You have a right to feel whatever you are feeling. Blessings, Ann
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Traumatic, Sudden Loss
566 members
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I miss my Mom!
389 members
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Losing Someone to Cancer
363 members
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I love my Dad.
283 members
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Missing my Son or Daug…
255 members
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Multiple Losses Group
161 members
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Lost Without My Mom
152 members
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Tattoo Memorial
127 members
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mY sOuLmAtE, mY bEsTfRiE…
115 members
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I Miss My Parent(s)
108 members
Latest Activity
"I have been super emotionaly today. A good friend of mine lost her mother 11 years ago today. She still grieves for her. At the end of June last year we found out my mom had cancer, she died 6 months later. I finding…"
B. Milt left a comment for Jodi Denton"My son was 20 years old.
9 days after his 20th birthday.
8 months with my son."
Kim Phillips commented on Katherine Ellis's group Losing Someone to Cancer"Angela, I am so so sorry. I lost my best friend and soul mate a year ago and I still cry every day and I still am having trouble moving on. I think we all grieve at our own pace. It has been such a short time for you. …"
kathy bishop commented on Katherine Ellis's group Losing Someone to Cancer"yesterday was my 41 wedding anniversary with my husband. I lost the love of my life 22 months ago. I took two red roses to the cemetery and said a prayer, I love Rick, more today than the day were married. We had a wonderful friendship for two…"
Marilyn Matthews commented on anne's blog post I saw God today!"This pic is from online...put on by someone named cutiezionist08..i think from glittergraphics.com...as soon as I read your account, I thought of this picture...."
Jeanne Potter commented on Katherine Ellis's group Losing Someone to Cancer"Angela I am very sorry for your loss. It is not unusual to cry often after any loss of someone so close. I still cry over losing my husband and it is almost 2 1/2 years. What I think is so comforting in your story is all that you learned from your…"
"The sadness that is 24-7 has greatly affected my health, I went to greif counciling for a year and have a wonderful big sister that has been my life saver. Some days I think i'm ok but I cry every night in my sleep 2 years after Gabes death, i…"
Jeff R commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"It's tough when you lose several immediate family members at once...sometimes you wonder if it's some sort of endurance test. This happened to my cousin many years back. It took time and support from other family members for…"
anne posted a blog postI saw God today!
I have been befuddled over the passing of the 10 year old boy that was hit by a car last week. My grandchildren were in my care all last week so there wasn't much time for deep thought. Npw that I am alone now I'm having lots of thoughts about it, so I went to the farm for a little distraction, plus the grass out there really needed cutting. I brought my dog Zero with me. Zero's getting old and I want him to have a good summer. Anyway Zero and I took a trip to the farm. I buzzed around cutting…See More
Cynthia Gee commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Mark, I apologize in advance if I'm out of line but I worry about you. I am hurting too from the very recent death of my mom and probably couldn't lend a ton of advise, but having people to talk to is important. You sound…"
jb (jo) replied to Essie Jay's discussion Everything is Changing in the group I love my Dad."im so sory abot yore loss essie wen my dad died my harf sister wont me to throw evry thng out i did not wont to u cud say im a realy bad horder i dont lik throwng thngs out
im, 1 of thes i keap out of datee bill resepts i do iv kept his diarys…"
Angela Denny commented on Katherine Ellis's group Losing Someone to Cancer"My mother survived breast cancer twice in her 50's, colon cancer at the age of 70 and was diagnosed last June with pancreatic cancer. Since her prognosis wasn't good, she and my father moved to my home so I could care for her. She lived…"
Angela Denny joined Katherine Ellis's group
Losing Someone to Cancer
This is for anyone who has lost somone to cancer. I lost my adopted Mom to breast cancer some years ago. She was everything I could have asked for. She loved me because I was just me. She also loved my family and children as if they were her own.See More
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