Teresa D.
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  • Salem, NJ
  • United States
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Teresa D. commented on Karen's group Missing my Son or Daughter
"I'm 4 1/2 years in and still crying daily.  I hate this, some days I feel like I'm making progress and some days I feel stuck back on day one.  I learned there's nowhere I can go to escape it so I have to embrace it. …"
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Teresa D. commented on Karen's group Missing my Son or Daughter
"Patty your not doing anything wrong. We always think others are doing better than ourselves, but NO! We all just have to find our own way.  I agree with Ammy I never want all of it to go away.  If I have to feel my Michael through my…"
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Teresa D. commented on Karen's group Missing my Son or Daughter
"Dolly, Jill sometimes I think it's they don't know what to say so they say nothing. They think talking about them will make us sad without knowing it's the lack of talking about them that makes us sad. Connie I'm sorry…"
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Teresa D. commented on Karen's group Missing my Son or Daughter
"Our sons and daughters will NEVER stop loving us no more than we will ever stop loving them.  THANK YOU JILL!"
Feb 14
Teresa D. commented on Karen's group Missing my Son or Daughter
Dec 22, 2016
Teresa D. commented on Karen's group Missing my Son or Daughter
"Britt you can tell us about your son, we'll listen."
Nov 26, 2016
Teresa D. commented on Karen's group Missing my Son or Daughter
"You are so right Connie we don't move on we only move through our grief.  I've become more quite cause I just don't know what to say anymore. I've become such a faker.  Little does everyone know I still break down every…"
Nov 22, 2016
Teresa D. commented on Karen's group Missing my Son or Daughter
"My heart is aching too Dolly.  My cousin's 21 year old daughter went missing this summer and just recently they found her body in the brush at the local park. It was really hard attending her service.  I already know from my own…"
Nov 21, 2016
Teresa D. commented on Karen's group Missing my Son or Daughter
"Sometimes I think the "silence" is because they are struggling.  I also think it is hard for some to face the grieving mom. His friends never say much of anything to me but on facebook I see they have posts about Michael and they post…"
Sep 27, 2016
Teresa D. commented on Karen's group Missing my Son or Daughter
"Things are bitter sweet.  Michael use to treat his cousin Georgie like he was his little brother.  All through life he would give Georgie these bear hugs.  Even after they grew up Michael would drop his tools in the middle of a job to…"
Sep 26, 2016
Teresa D. commented on Karen's group Missing my Son or Daughter
"Rita and Bruce I am so sorry that you have to join us.  Sometimes I just don't know what to say.  Sept 14th will be 4 years that my Michael is gone.  I wish I had words of wisdom for you but I know from my own experience there…"
Sep 6, 2016
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Aug 3, 2016
Teresa D. commented on Karen's group Missing my Son or Daughter
"Dolly that tree will never stop dancing.  Everyone here helped me down this road and for that I will be forever grateful.  I hold each one of you in my heart.  I was hoping something would change by now but the only thing that changed…"
Aug 3, 2016
Teresa D. commented on Karen's group Missing my Son or Daughter
"September it will be 4 years that I lived without my Michael.  The other day I found myself with my nose deep inside his work boots trying to smell him.  When I realized what I was doing I laughed at myself while tears streamed down my…"
Jul 19, 2016
Teresa D. commented on Karen's group Missing my Son or Daughter
"Dolly, I'm glad you popped in. All I can say is, "Ditto"."
Jul 9, 2016
Teresa D. commented on Karen's group Missing my Son or Daughter
"Christine thank you for sharing.  While my life is no better it actually makes me feel normal to hear others are having the same experiences."
Jul 7, 2016

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About Me:
I'm just a mom who really misses her son. Michael and I talked all the time. He talked to me in a way most sons talk to their dad. I was proud of our closeness and I was proud of him. Now all I have are memories and tears.
About my Loss:
My son, Michael born Febrauary 14th, 1983, suddenly passed away on September 14th, 2012. We talked on the phone for about a good two hours on the 14th, if only I knew that would be our last conversation. We talked about his future and where he was headed. My last words to him were, "if anything ever happened to you or your sister I would never be able to breathe again." We said, "I love you" and hung up. Well, I can't breathe. Because he wasn't discovered over the weekend they wouldn't allow me to see him. Open coffin was not possible. so not only did my Lil' Michael leave but I didn't get to say good bye, I didn't get to see him and I didn't get to hold or touch him. I try to tell myself God did it that way so I could let go easier. Not sure it's working.

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At 10:40pm on February 14, 2015, Dolly said…

I'm such a DITZ

At 10:40pm on February 14, 2015, Dolly said…

now I think I have these comments in the wrong place... sorry Teresa I meant these for Zell...

At 10:38pm on February 14, 2015, Dolly said…

at the time I felt unfairly attacked and tried to explain myself and my fear and anguish over the difficulties my sons had to face and the apprehension that I would lose them at a young age... and I was grieving for my granddaughters too... but even that horrible grief that immobilized me for at least a year... I carried around a baby doll, wrote poetry to my granddaughters ... did not function well AT ALL... and yet it was just NOT the same... horrible as it was and IS to have lost my sweet granddaughters... it's NOT THE SAME...

At 10:35pm on February 14, 2015, Dolly said…

I wish with ALL MY HEART that I had only NEARLY lost my son.... and its just too simplistic to say 'grief is grief'.... we don't negate your grief... so please don't trivialize what we are trying to tell you... we don't want to hurt you any more than you are hurting.... I once was attacked in another grief room... years ago after I lost my granddaughters... because I said I was in a sense grieving for my two totally disabled sons because they seemed to be dying a little at a time... at the time I didn't understand the fury that descended upon me for saying that... now I do... unfortunately...

At 10:28pm on February 14, 2015, Dolly said…

I think ZELL should stop this ... nobody is trying to say you aren't grieving for your mate... and nobody is saying it isn't horrible... personally I don't know what its like and PLEASE GOD I never will because I truly think I would lose my mind... and my husband has health issues.. so I DO empathize with your loss Zell.... but you did not lose a child... so please don't compare ... you don't know it because you haven't been there but you just CAN'T compare any other grief than that of a grieving parent... not that we are saying we are in some sort of sick race to prove who is suffering the most or anything.. its just DIFFERENT in a horrible way you can't understand...

At 7:36pm on February 13, 2015, Jill E said…
Teresa-I have wondered the same thing regarding Zell. Losing a child doesnot involve the same emotions, grief, heartbreak and other feelings as losing a spouse or partner. Not that it is not traumatic to them; but it is nothing like a mother's grief. Hugs
At 4:47pm on October 24, 2014, Britt said…

Hi Teressa, I am so sorry for the loss of your son Michael. I have no answers for you on why this sadness happened in your life. I search for answers too. This is probably the most difficult circumstance I ever had to deal with, and all I know is I need to be strong for my 12 year old that he will not loose his Mother too. Thank you for your friend request, and hope that our friendship will give you some needed support.

At 3:20am on August 21, 2014, Rachel said…
Dear Teresa, thank you for your kind comment about my daughter. First let me say "I am so sorry for your loss". I can't image your pain or hurt has gotten any better. I send you a tight hug from across the miles.
As I was reading your story about your son. I realized we share the same experience. Amber's accident was quite severe that an open casket was not possible. And I too was not able to see her one last time or say "Goodbye". Our last words to each other was "I love you" on June 15, 2014 at 5:00 pm. And she died that same night just after midnight June 16, 2014, while driving home from attending the Spurs final game.
You and I are left without "closure", that most people have. That one last viewing. And since we did not see them; it makes it HARDER to believe they are actually gone. It just left us what I feel as "paralyzed". We can't move from here. All we were left with was our last conversation with them. "Paralyzed". I think that's why I am having such a hard time not being able to really cry for her. I feel she's still in her home in San Antonio and I'm here in our home town (3 hours away). It just doesn't seem real. i just can't beleive she's gone. I'm terrified of the intense pain when the shock does wear off. Which I think is starting to happen. Please know my heart aches for you and I feel exactly how you felt and feel still today. All my love, Rachel
At 6:56pm on June 23, 2014, Gale Brunault said…

Hi Teresa, I'm so so sorry for your loss.  My son died at age 31 on June 9, 2014.  He was born on September 14, 1982 and he was the light of my life.  I am still in shock and disbelief over his sudden passing.  My Michael had struggled for a period of time with drugs but for the last 8 months was turning his life around.  He was a talented graphic designer and animator for big companies like HBO,  Showtime, A&E, History channel and other popular  shows.  Michael's dad had passed away and I was re-married to a wonderful man with a daughter 10 years younger.  They got along so well; I truly felt we had the perfect family......until June 9th.  Evidently Michael and his girlfriend chose to pick up drugs again and they never woke up.  The news just rocked my world.  I trying to breathe -one breath at a time.  Your story truly resonated with me and I wanted to reach out.  I too didn't get to see Michael however i'm ok with that - I want to remember him full of life.  It helps me keep him alive in my mind.  I wish you peace and pleased keep in touch - I need the support desperately. Hugs - Gale 

At 2:12pm on June 20, 2014, Jesse's Mom said…

I was reading your profile and noticed our sons were close in age, Jesse born in August 2, 1984 and he passed on October 10, 2012...I too was so close with my son, there was nothing I could not share with him...I am missing my best friend...

 

You are about the same time frame in this journey of loss...this is just so hard...

 
 
 

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Theresa commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Nancy is right Olive seeing a physician is good, I did also. I truly believe that God is giving me strength to see me through losing my mom. I don't know if you read the beginning of my post, my mom died suddenly and unexpectedly from cardiac…"
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Olive commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
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"Thank you Morgan, your support means so much to me, I was in a bad place when I wrote this. I don't really have many people to talk to; there were loads of people there for me just after he died, but everyone has drifted away. My very best…"
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"Being your mothers caregiver must have been hard. And now that she is gone its all different. I think maybe you should try to stay at your house. My mom and i had an apartment together and i am trying to break the lease because i cant live there. To…"
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Theresa commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Nancy, what you said is true, my mom was all I had, I miss her everyday and I don't cry everyday anymore, I try not to, just when I need to.  But I try to get ahold of myself. It just feels as though this part of my heart will never…"
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Nancy Dynes commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
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