Teresa D.
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I'm just a mom who really misses her son. Michael and I talked all the time. He talked to me in a way most sons talk to their dad. I was proud of our closeness and I was proud of him. Now all I have are memories and tears.
About my Loss:
My son, Michael born Febrauary 14th, 1983, suddenly passed away on September 14th, 2012. We talked on the phone for about a good two hours on the 14th, if only I knew that would be our last conversation. We talked about his future and where he was headed. My last words to him were, "if anything ever happened to you or your sister I would never be able to breathe again." We said, "I love you" and hung up. Well, I can't breathe. Because he wasn't discovered over the weekend they wouldn't allow me to see him. Open coffin was not possible. so not only did my Lil' Michael leave but I didn't get to say good bye, I didn't get to see him and I didn't get to hold or touch him. I try to tell myself God did it that way so I could let go easier. Not sure it's working.

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At 6:43am on March 3, 2017, Silke B. said…

Teresa D. I read your profile info, that's how me and my son were, very close and we talked about everything.

Thank you for being here for me.

My son got cremated and hopefully gets lay down at the cemetery latest next week, so he can rest in peace. Took 6 weeks, cause of some paperwork (german bureaucracy  ), the military has to bring the urn here and the investigation is still going on.

Hugs to you

At 10:40pm on February 14, 2015, Dolly said…

I'm such a DITZ

At 10:40pm on February 14, 2015, Dolly said…

now I think I have these comments in the wrong place... sorry Teresa I meant these for Zell...

At 10:38pm on February 14, 2015, Dolly said…

at the time I felt unfairly attacked and tried to explain myself and my fear and anguish over the difficulties my sons had to face and the apprehension that I would lose them at a young age... and I was grieving for my granddaughters too... but even that horrible grief that immobilized me for at least a year... I carried around a baby doll, wrote poetry to my granddaughters ... did not function well AT ALL... and yet it was just NOT the same... horrible as it was and IS to have lost my sweet granddaughters... it's NOT THE SAME...

At 10:35pm on February 14, 2015, Dolly said…

I wish with ALL MY HEART that I had only NEARLY lost my son.... and its just too simplistic to say 'grief is grief'.... we don't negate your grief... so please don't trivialize what we are trying to tell you... we don't want to hurt you any more than you are hurting.... I once was attacked in another grief room... years ago after I lost my granddaughters... because I said I was in a sense grieving for my two totally disabled sons because they seemed to be dying a little at a time... at the time I didn't understand the fury that descended upon me for saying that... now I do... unfortunately...

At 10:28pm on February 14, 2015, Dolly said…

I think ZELL should stop this ... nobody is trying to say you aren't grieving for your mate... and nobody is saying it isn't horrible... personally I don't know what its like and PLEASE GOD I never will because I truly think I would lose my mind... and my husband has health issues.. so I DO empathize with your loss Zell.... but you did not lose a child... so please don't compare ... you don't know it because you haven't been there but you just CAN'T compare any other grief than that of a grieving parent... not that we are saying we are in some sort of sick race to prove who is suffering the most or anything.. its just DIFFERENT in a horrible way you can't understand...

At 7:36pm on February 13, 2015, Jill E said…
Teresa-I have wondered the same thing regarding Zell. Losing a child doesnot involve the same emotions, grief, heartbreak and other feelings as losing a spouse or partner. Not that it is not traumatic to them; but it is nothing like a mother's grief. Hugs
At 4:47pm on October 24, 2014, Britt said…

Hi Teressa, I am so sorry for the loss of your son Michael. I have no answers for you on why this sadness happened in your life. I search for answers too. This is probably the most difficult circumstance I ever had to deal with, and all I know is I need to be strong for my 12 year old that he will not loose his Mother too. Thank you for your friend request, and hope that our friendship will give you some needed support.

At 3:20am on August 21, 2014, Rachel said…
Dear Teresa, thank you for your kind comment about my daughter. First let me say "I am so sorry for your loss". I can't image your pain or hurt has gotten any better. I send you a tight hug from across the miles.
As I was reading your story about your son. I realized we share the same experience. Amber's accident was quite severe that an open casket was not possible. And I too was not able to see her one last time or say "Goodbye". Our last words to each other was "I love you" on June 15, 2014 at 5:00 pm. And she died that same night just after midnight June 16, 2014, while driving home from attending the Spurs final game.
You and I are left without "closure", that most people have. That one last viewing. And since we did not see them; it makes it HARDER to believe they are actually gone. It just left us what I feel as "paralyzed". We can't move from here. All we were left with was our last conversation with them. "Paralyzed". I think that's why I am having such a hard time not being able to really cry for her. I feel she's still in her home in San Antonio and I'm here in our home town (3 hours away). It just doesn't seem real. i just can't beleive she's gone. I'm terrified of the intense pain when the shock does wear off. Which I think is starting to happen. Please know my heart aches for you and I feel exactly how you felt and feel still today. All my love, Rachel
At 6:56pm on June 23, 2014, Gale Brunault said…

Hi Teresa, I'm so so sorry for your loss.  My son died at age 31 on June 9, 2014.  He was born on September 14, 1982 and he was the light of my life.  I am still in shock and disbelief over his sudden passing.  My Michael had struggled for a period of time with drugs but for the last 8 months was turning his life around.  He was a talented graphic designer and animator for big companies like HBO,  Showtime, A&E, History channel and other popular  shows.  Michael's dad had passed away and I was re-married to a wonderful man with a daughter 10 years younger.  They got along so well; I truly felt we had the perfect family......until June 9th.  Evidently Michael and his girlfriend chose to pick up drugs again and they never woke up.  The news just rocked my world.  I trying to breathe -one breath at a time.  Your story truly resonated with me and I wanted to reach out.  I too didn't get to see Michael however i'm ok with that - I want to remember him full of life.  It helps me keep him alive in my mind.  I wish you peace and pleased keep in touch - I need the support desperately. Hugs - Gale 

 
 
 

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