I lost my mom last August and have visited this website when I felt really down and lonely and was missing her really bad. I'm not married and I don't have children of my own. I do have a sweet cat, but she's 14 now and really sick so I know I'm not going to have her much longer. I'd like to have another pet, but I don't want to freak her out, especially now when she's not feeling well.
About my Loss:
My mom passed away last August due to an aneurysm. She was my best friend and the one person I always knew who really loved me unconditionally. She was always there for me in so many ways and it's so hard to go through this world without her in it. I know she's in a better place, but it still doesn't seem to help me get through the rough times.
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I hope things are a little better for you! Sorry it has taken me so long to respond, I haven't been on here in awhile either. I know everyone grieves differently but I felt like no one could understand what I was going through with guilt and shame, but that was my perception and I'm doing a little better with that. I didn't realize how much grief could change a person and their emotions. It's been difficult with the holidays, I always had her with me. I woke up to the smell of delicious food on Thanksgiving, and this year, I forgot it until I got on facebook and it was all over the news feed. It's just not the same at all!:/
You made a beautiful comment on my page. Those were words of encouragement and i am so happy that you shared those words with me. I was very uplifted read I read the post and I agreed with everything that you said. It actully made me cry but it was a good cry. All in all, thank you taking time to speak to me.
YES!!! It was on Netflix. It was a wonderful movie, I enjoyed it. I even cried, If only real life can be that way, when a random radio personality invites you to the station and solves your problem in 45 min. I've been going to counseling for 3 months, and all he does is nod his head and say, yes and of course. That Keith was a lucky guy.
My Mom passed away 12/29/11 2 days before her birthday, she had lung cancer and never told my family, we noticed her sleeping a lot and not eating or drinking anything. I finally called an ambulance and rushed her to the emergency room. She told the doctors she was in pain, but never mentioned the cancer. Mom had a cat scan and found she had 13 malignant tumors, some as big as a softball. She was terminal and didn't have long to live. We took her home and called Hospice for pain management and every day i watched her get worse, she lasted 2 weeks, the end of her life was very hard, her eyes didnt close or blink, her mouth was wide open and the death rattle was so loud like she had water in her lungs, her heart rate was in the two hundreds, her death was terrible, i cant get the picture out of my head, besides missing her, her dying in my presents makes things even harder. I know we are told that they are no longer in pain and in a better place, but that doesn't really comfort me. I hug her ashes every night and morning, i wear a locket around my neck that contains ashes, I will not put a shirt on if it isn't black. The crying has stopped, but the sorrow remains, all I want to do is stay in bed, sleep a lot and have no drive to get through my daily activities. I don't know what to do. How long will this last? I just need to make heads or tails of this.
Hello,and sorry for your loss.If you can keep an open mind,go to Victor Zammitts' website,and check out his free e-book.It explains every thing about the after life,and when you learn the truth,you will start to come to terms with death,which really is nothing other than illusion.This should help you,I know,because it saved my life!!God bless!
thankyou.i kno,is'nt it so sad how manny people are loosing loved ones?terrible.u have a good outlook,u r right for sure.my cat Bindi is 14 too.i hope she sticks around for a while.her mother and sister are already gone.well,hope ur havin a good evening:)
Thank you for your post. I like Morgan gave me a lift. I have often thought about suicide but have no intention of doing away with myself because of my religion. I will not take the chance of never seeing Julian again
I too do not go to the…"
"Thank you Joe for your posts. In a weird way it gives me a lift. How? Because I know that I am not making up how hard this suffering is.
My closest friend and sibling also know how I feel about dying and I know I would not have to…"
"joe that is incredible.
thanks for the time and energy sharing.
i think ill look at some of your suggestions and see what will work for me.
for me this week has been hard.
1 week until first anniversary of her death, i don't know what to…"
""As the years are passing I feel the need more and more."
When I read some of you guys suffering so long, it gives me great fear that despite my health neglect, and legal preparations, I don't know when it will actually come to…"
"I read your words and it brings me to my knees."
I keep asking God to let me go many times a day. I tell Him/Her/It that I will never relent until my prayer is answered. I ask my love to keep asking too and have…"
"Thanks Bluebird for nice comment about my Julian. He was so caring and was my rock. Being with him for 24/7 for 13 years of our retirement was bliss, I thank God for this time together.
Morgan & Joe I keep believing there is eternal love…"
I read your words and it brings me to my knees. I so want to join my husband. As the years are passing I feel the need more and more. I am not sure I understand totally how your OBE has given you more faith that somehow we…"
"Pamela, you are grieving for your mother. You may not be able to see it but I can. My father was horrible. I did not grieve his death. I barely gave it a second thought. You are grieving your mom, and you are grieving the way things were. The advice…"
"I lost my mother on 9-6-15 eight days before I lost my husband on 9-14-15 and I feel horrible because I am struggling with how I am grieving for my mother because we had a very strained relationship because my mother was an alcoholic all her life…"
It is impossible for us to know for absolutely sure what exactly happens when we die. Oh, how I would love her to appear before me and tell me she's here and waiting for me, but I also know that she can't do that…"
I am so glad that the folks on this forum feel the same way I do. Society is always trying to label people, if we don't agree with them they think we are weird or crazy. My sweet Husband Julian taught me to ignore what other people…"
"I fully agree with you both, Linda and Monty. My deep and abiding grief is the only response I could possibly have to my husband's death. My soulmate was torn from me, and I don't know if his wonderful soul still exists, or if I will ever…"
"Hi Avi, it would be nice to have a friend. The time gap is big but we can agree on a time to talk. Keeping busy also functions for me. Anyways, as soon as I have free time the thoughts and feelings came back and grief hits so hard. I wish you have a…"
India is 8.30 hours ahead of Argentina. We can talk at your early morning whenever you want.
Feeling of desolation still exists for me but I try to be strong and do things (work, travel, eating etc) with sincerity. "