I lost my mom last August and have visited this website when I felt really down and lonely and was missing her really bad. I'm not married and I don't have children of my own. I do have a sweet cat, but she's 14 now and really sick so I know I'm not going to have her much longer. I'd like to have another pet, but I don't want to freak her out, especially now when she's not feeling well.
About my Loss:
My mom passed away last August due to an aneurysm. She was my best friend and the one person I always knew who really loved me unconditionally. She was always there for me in so many ways and it's so hard to go through this world without her in it. I know she's in a better place, but it still doesn't seem to help me get through the rough times.
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I hope things are a little better for you! Sorry it has taken me so long to respond, I haven't been on here in awhile either. I know everyone grieves differently but I felt like no one could understand what I was going through with guilt and shame, but that was my perception and I'm doing a little better with that. I didn't realize how much grief could change a person and their emotions. It's been difficult with the holidays, I always had her with me. I woke up to the smell of delicious food on Thanksgiving, and this year, I forgot it until I got on facebook and it was all over the news feed. It's just not the same at all!:/
You made a beautiful comment on my page. Those were words of encouragement and i am so happy that you shared those words with me. I was very uplifted read I read the post and I agreed with everything that you said. It actully made me cry but it was a good cry. All in all, thank you taking time to speak to me.
YES!!! It was on Netflix. It was a wonderful movie, I enjoyed it. I even cried, If only real life can be that way, when a random radio personality invites you to the station and solves your problem in 45 min. I've been going to counseling for 3 months, and all he does is nod his head and say, yes and of course. That Keith was a lucky guy.
My Mom passed away 12/29/11 2 days before her birthday, she had lung cancer and never told my family, we noticed her sleeping a lot and not eating or drinking anything. I finally called an ambulance and rushed her to the emergency room. She told the doctors she was in pain, but never mentioned the cancer. Mom had a cat scan and found she had 13 malignant tumors, some as big as a softball. She was terminal and didn't have long to live. We took her home and called Hospice for pain management and every day i watched her get worse, she lasted 2 weeks, the end of her life was very hard, her eyes didnt close or blink, her mouth was wide open and the death rattle was so loud like she had water in her lungs, her heart rate was in the two hundreds, her death was terrible, i cant get the picture out of my head, besides missing her, her dying in my presents makes things even harder. I know we are told that they are no longer in pain and in a better place, but that doesn't really comfort me. I hug her ashes every night and morning, i wear a locket around my neck that contains ashes, I will not put a shirt on if it isn't black. The crying has stopped, but the sorrow remains, all I want to do is stay in bed, sleep a lot and have no drive to get through my daily activities. I don't know what to do. How long will this last? I just need to make heads or tails of this.
Hello,and sorry for your loss.If you can keep an open mind,go to Victor Zammitts' website,and check out his free e-book.It explains every thing about the after life,and when you learn the truth,you will start to come to terms with death,which really is nothing other than illusion.This should help you,I know,because it saved my life!!God bless!
thankyou.i kno,is'nt it so sad how manny people are loosing loved ones?terrible.u have a good outlook,u r right for sure.my cat Bindi is 14 too.i hope she sticks around for a while.her mother and sister are already gone.well,hope ur havin a good evening:)
"Hi All Guys
I was away for few days as I am blessed with a baby girl on 10 Aug 18. Both mother and baby doing fine.
I planned my baby only as my mother wanted to see her grand child but destiny had other plans. But I hope she has still blessed…"
"It's been almost two years for me. It doesn't hurt any less. Some days I push it away but then all of a sudden every bit of it hits like a ton of bricks. I did tell a few of my best friends and I mostly regret it. Now I feel it's just…"
"Awww- I’m sorry about that! It must make you feel really terrible that you can’t just take her home.
The same thing happened with my mom after her heart attack. She couldn’t just live by herself anymore. We had to empty her…"
"iv bean to day to sea her iv hadto liee to her wish i feal bad
wen can i go homee wen drs says so
why am hear coz dr says so i anserd it for abot 40 mins i did
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"Thank you bluebird. My kids have been a huge comfort for me. Making me laugh even when I don't want to and giving me someone to occupy my time and energy with. I am working my way through this slowly and they help…"
"Anxiety/panic is awful, I had it so bad after my mom passed I was walking with my legs shaking, it was awful I though I this how I have to live the rest of my life in a state anxiety/panic?
Just awful I understand what you are going through."
"The indifference is hard. I hate it when people ask me how Zim doing or how lifw is... I just want to scream at them “how do you think it is!” My boss constantly asks me and everytime I just respond with a “fine” or…"
"I wish that I could have handled the loss of my mother better than I have but I do believe that what I am experiencing is a testament to how much I loved my mom. To have gotten through this without scars would have been awkward as well. I would have…"
I found going back to work (due to needing to support my family) possibly saved me a little from falling to much into my grief.
It was also very good for me to be around normal adults, as i don't have much family near by, and…"
sorry to hear about your wife passing. i can only imaging and guess at what your going though.
After my wife passing last year, i had family and friends helping out
with me and the boys.
i feel that lots of men tend to bury/push…"
I'm sorry, it must be so difficult with the children. At the same time, they are also part of her, so in that way it's good. My husband died shortly before his 42nd birthday; I was 44. My life ended the moment his did.
"Thank you Nancy for the kind words. I'm sorry 06to hear about your husband. My wife's grandfather passed away 17 years ago due to cancer that progressed quickly too and I watched her struggle with the grief. I know that your experience is…"
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