Brian P Mulkerne
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About Me:
I am 59 years old, father of three adult children, the youngest with severe autism. I am a retired Psychiatric Social Worker, and have had a private psychotherapy practice for 20 years. I am also a professional blues musician.
About my Loss:
My wife died suddenly, in my arms, on 2/12/17, after 38 years together. She was 58 years old. There were no warnings; she was active, very attractive, and loved by everyone. She died of a brain aneurysm. I am devastated by the loss, but fortunate to have many siblings and alos very caring children who have helped me through this. I would have to say I have had a high degree of positive support which is still available to me, however I am now returning to working and experiencing being alone for the first time. I should add that my wife's mother also has lived with us for 12 years and she is now 87. She is also devastated by the loss, and although she has three other sons, they have been inattentive to her and I have been her only support.
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I am a Psychotherapist in private practice and have extensive experience with severe chronic mental illness and treatment in institutional settings. In my private practice I work with children, adolescents and adults dealing with depression, anxiety, marital issues, developmental disability, and grief/bereavement issues.

I am not sure how to correctly post this video. I wrote this song  to my wife Phyllis two years ago. It's a tribute to our life together. Phyllis passed away suddenly on February 12, 2017. 

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At 2:14pm on March 26, 2017, morgan said…

Brian,  there is another person who has been journeying here with us who has also been in the psychiatric field as a career.  Nothing other than the experience itself can give people on the outside the understanding of what this is like.  I can only hope some of what you have practiced will help you find ways to cope but the pickings are slim when you actually get thrown into the deep water and forget how to swim.  It will be valuable to have your support system but you will find some of that rather perplexing as you go.  

Hopefully this site and our ponderings will help you know you are not experiencing feelings that are abnormal as society sometimes likes to evaluate them.  In the interim I can only say I wish you the resilience to   find your way forward.  58 and dying in your arms is pretty rough spot to be.  

 
 
 

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