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Mad to Happiness in Grief and Loss



 

We all want to be happy! Mad can sound harsh, but in actuality, feeling upset, in a bad mood, or depression all have roots in being mad.  It is nothing to be ashamed of because actually it is normal, as we all have felt mad at one time or another.

 

Most of us will experience a crisis or loss in our lifetime, and how we learn to deal with it, will determine our future happiness and success.

 

Grief - loss has so many…

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Added by coachlouise on January 27, 2011 at 1:30pm — No Comments

Today I read Peggys comment

I read a comment today about Peggys son Shawn. It made me smile. I know we all share the sad things about our children, but it was a fresh story and a happy moment and I appreciate Peggy for sharing this with us. Sometimes we get lost in the saddness of it all and it was nice to see a happy story for a change. So I decided that today I would blog about some of my good memories of my boys. When the boys were little they used to sneak into our room at night and lay a blanket and pillow down on… Continue

Added by anne on January 26, 2011 at 9:57pm — 1 Comment

not another birthday?

This has been a very stressful month. Next week would  be my Bens 28th birthday. I'm writing today so that next week when I look back at this I can hopefully refrain from feeling really bad. Today I feel ok. I can't help but think about all the things that have happened over the years. My daughter just had surgery fix her face from the accident that took Bens life. It never ends. It''s always there. I can run but I can't hide. My other daughter is having serious marital trouble and a new baby… Continue

Added by anne on January 20, 2011 at 8:15pm — 1 Comment

Methadone

I am angry at Lyles doctor.  He had an appointment and the doctor did a UA, Lyle said he wouldnt have methadone in his system because he didnt like it. Lyle wanted Loratab for his pain management. The doc said that had too much tylenol and it would hurt his liver. So the doc did a UA, Lyle had no methadone in his system. The doctor doubled his methadone prescription, said if that didnt work he'd double it again...

Lyle was dead 3 days later.

 

Can anyone tell me more…

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Added by Jordan on January 19, 2011 at 7:51am — 1 Comment

Friday is world cancer day

In Memory of our Moms, Dads, Brothers and Sisters, Sons & Daughters, friends and loved ones of whom there are so many. . .…
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Added by coachlouise on January 18, 2011 at 8:57pm — No Comments

Why do I go from my life feeling managable to complete distress in a matter of moments, for virtually no reason? Is that grief or something that requires medical attention?  

Why do I go from my life feeling managable to complete distress in a matter of moments,

for virtually no reason? Is that grief or something that requires medical attention?

 

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Added by Jordan on January 17, 2011 at 2:46pm — 2 Comments

in so much pain

i just feel like crying its like no one cares about how i feel i just feel so depressed. not even my bf understands all the things i think about  all the pain i still hold with me after all this time. i feel like im never going to be right. all iwant is to be happy and it just seems like its a fairytale im starting to thing that there is no such thing. i just want my boyfriend to give me attention to make me feel like i mean something to him i wish that myjob didnt take so much advantage of me… Continue

Added by steacy del valle on January 17, 2011 at 1:46pm — 4 Comments

What do you think about the 5 stages of grief?

http://www.boston.com/bostonglobe/ideas/articles/2011/01/16/rethinking_grief/

Above is a link from a story I found interesting, and I would love to know how you feel about it. Please check it out and write back, thank you, Growing together, Coach Louise

Added by coachlouise on January 15, 2011 at 4:48pm — 2 Comments

One Week Today

Went to the Safeway store today where the Tucson shootings took place a week ago today to support the employees of the store who experienced the terror of that day and to contribute to the victims fund sponsored by Safeway.  I have to give Safeway a lot of credit.  They were closed for a whole week while the investigation was going on and yet they paid all 81 of their employees their full salaries.  Kudos to them.  So many people have come together in our… Continue

Added by Regina Arnold on January 15, 2011 at 1:32pm — 1 Comment

New Year New You





Lets face it grief, as we know it is no fun. However if we change the meaning of grief, maybe we could change the feeling.

G- Stands for being grateful for our life and the time we have with our love ones living and the time we had with our love ones who have…

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Added by coachlouise on January 14, 2011 at 9:45pm — No Comments

Loser, lost

My father's death was anticipated and I handled it well externally. I have not cried a lot but I guess I must be…
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Added by Faycin A Croud on January 12, 2011 at 4:19pm — No Comments

starting off very bad

this year is already starting off horrible. my boyfriend/babydaddy got fired from his job unjustified but it just makes me sad because now its gonna be just a one paycheck family and i only work part time this sucks. then today ifound out that my grandpa's sister died last week and they told my brother and he never said anything to me about it and my nefew is in the hospital and the broke my mother keyhole from her car and took the battery off the car and that just more money im going to have… Continue

Added by steacy del valle on January 12, 2011 at 3:07pm — No Comments

I miss you so

Working on school assignment, missing you so much.  I wonder, if / when hope will come?  Spring/winter cleaning, and I see you everywhere.  I came across a receipt for "In Brueges), on of the last films we ever saw.  Of course I dissolved.  I miss you so.  I am gratefull for when you come in my dreams.  See you soon sweetie.

Added by Molly Smith on January 12, 2011 at 2:15pm — No Comments

The Emotional Rollercoaster

I feel as if I'm on that rollercoaster I've heard about when grieving.  One day I feel lower than low and the next day I feel ok.  I wouldn't say I ever feel completely high and happy but ok is a great feeling for me.  I long for more "ok" days.  The pain is just so fresh right now since I only lost my daugther 5 weeks ago.  I just wonder sometimes.. will the "ok" days become more and more?  It's like bipolar of grief.  I keep trying to… Continue

Added by Tracy on January 11, 2011 at 12:55pm — 2 Comments

My brother's life

I really thought he'd come home from the hospital during those early days of his illness.  I knew it would be tough for him to stop drinking, but with my encouragement and that of my husband, I felt he could make it.  But liver disease took him quicker than any of us expected.  I miss him so much and some days I am so angry that alcohol has done this to our family again.  He isn't the first one to die from this ugly disease.  All of my uncles drank heavily, my first husband, even my Mom at one… Continue

Added by Regina Arnold on January 11, 2011 at 10:59am — 1 Comment

Today, I can look outside

Cleaning cupboards, literally, and found yet another movie ticket that we went to (we kept all of our movie tickets).  Had a lot of tears, but today, it's beautiful, and snowy.  My computer is in the dining room, and I can look out at the ponds, and bird feeders.  Going to see friends tonight.  Today, feeling a little less lost.  Don't feel like work tomorrow.  Guess its good to keep up with these things. Missing you so much.  I would give anything to hear one more "you betcha."  Working on… Continue

Added by Molly Smith on January 9, 2011 at 11:03am — No Comments

good day today

Today I am ok and so I am grateful. Coach Louise talked to me about the truth. It helped alot. The truth is you can't predict when bad things are going to happen. Today I am strong enough to accept the truth, that things are going to happen whether I like it or not, but it's what I do with those things that will make the difference in my life. I believe in God. God makes me angry, confused and dissapointed. I still believe. When I'm angry he hears words that should never be heard. When I feel… Continue

Added by anne on January 8, 2011 at 12:14am — No Comments

I hate that I am avoiding thoughts and conversations about her.

I just want my mom back!

Added by Monique Douglas on January 6, 2011 at 9:57pm — No Comments

Thank you Patricia

Thank you for your kind words.  They meant alot when I'm feeling so lonely.

Added by Molly Smith on January 6, 2011 at 5:01pm — No Comments

I am so lost

It has been more than 7 months, and I have nowhere to turn.  Life seems lifeless.  Missing you so much.

Added by Molly Smith on January 6, 2011 at 2:42pm — 1 Comment

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