"For what it's worth, it sounds like trying to gain a sense of having control in response to an unexpected, traumatic event. I know I've wondered the same about my wife, who killed herself almost a year ago. If I'd done…"
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Sean Casey
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Sean Casey replied to Shannon Finley's discussion Is it my fault? in the group Traumatic, Sudden LossSean Casey replied to marlene lovell's discussion one year mark in the group Traumatic, Sudden Loss"You're very welcome. I hope it gets better for you soon. Heck, I hope it gets better for all of us soon."
Sean Casey joined Courtney Adams's group
Suicide....Hard Knowing They did it By Their Choice
This is for some of us who have lost someone due to suicide...I miss you Annie!!!See More
Sean Casey replied to marlene lovell's discussion one year mark in the group Traumatic, Sudden Loss"I'm in a similar boat, as early February will be the one year mark for when my wife died. The folks I've talked to who've been through this kind of stuff say that the first year's the worst, but that it's not…"
Sean Casey posted a blog postScattering Ashes
I got Ariel's ashes scattered on her birthday, October 25th. At first I thought it'd be just one place where that'd get done, but three others came to mind and kept coming up. One was the spot where we'd renewed our vows on our 10-year wedding anniversary. Another was the area in the back yard where we'd buried a lot of the pets we'd had over the years. A third...well....that was her place. Those all went OK. It was sad, but at the same time I could also connect with the good memories in…See More
Sean Casey replied to Christine Sutton's discussion I want you back in the group Traumatic, Sudden Loss"I had just a couple thoughts to share that've helped me some. One has to do with the difference between feeling strong and being strong. I know that in the last 8 months I've certainly not felt strong. Several people have…"
Sean Casey replied to Sean Casey's discussion Hoping for Suggestions/Ideas in the group Traumatic, Sudden Loss"I did do that. I ordered a necklace where the pendant's got a little space in it for the ashes. I've found it hard to wear too often, but it is comforting to know that I've got a little bit of her left to remember her…"
Sean Casey replied to Sean Casey's discussion Hoping for Suggestions/Ideas in the group Traumatic, Sudden Loss"Thank you, Christine. I'm not sure what kind of ritual I might do. Neither of us were very religious, so that doesn't give much inspiration. I'd thought about taking my harmonica up there with me and playing a song…"
Sean Casey replied to Sean Casey's discussion Hoping for Suggestions/Ideas in the group Traumatic, Sudden Loss"Thanks, Panni. I appreciate the encouragement. I'll check with my friends and see if a couple could be ready to meet close by...just in case. That's a good idea."
Sean Casey replied to Sean Casey's discussion Hoping for Suggestions/Ideas in the group Traumatic, Sudden Loss"Thanks for the response, Ronna. I do appreciate it. I've learned to keep in touch with friends and family as I've been dealing with all this. It helps tremendously, even if it's not what I want to do at the…"
Christine Sutton replied to Sean Casey's discussion Hoping for Suggestions/Ideas in the group Traumatic, Sudden Loss"Sean,
Again, I am sorry about your wife. As I mentioned, we do not know how Steve died. There is a toxicology report which will take 14 weeks from time of death because there is a chance he also took his own life, which I am sure you know what kind…"
Ronna Doescher replied to Sean Casey's discussion Hoping for Suggestions/Ideas in the group Traumatic, Sudden Loss"Sean:
I am so sorry for your loss. It is especially hard when they choose to take their own life without a note or an explanation.
I don't believe there is any certain way to get "ready" for doing some thing like this. The…"
Sean Casey added a discussion to the group Traumatic, Sudden Loss
Hoping for Suggestions/Ideas
I lost my wife 8 months ago when she chose to end her life. Since then, I've had to do some of the hardest things in my life, things I never thought I'd have to deal with or that I could get through. I've got another one coming up in a few weeks. On the 25th, I'll be taking her ashes to her favorite spot in the mountains to scatter them. While she didn't leave a will or specific instructions, I think it's what she would have wanted. What I'm hoping for is any ideas or suggestions people…See More
Sean Casey replied to Karen's discussion My heart felt prayer in the group Traumatic, Sudden Loss"That's as lovely as it is heartbreaking. Part of me wishes I couldn't relate so well. However, I know what you mean about the going through the motions and asking to be through. I know that, over time, it's gotten…"
Profile Information
- About Me:
- 41-year-old male, living in Utah for the last 20+ years, though originally from Texas.
- About my Loss:
- My wife killed herself recently. I was notified by the police on February 4th, 2011. I'd known she was depressed, but not that she was planning to end her life.
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Scattering Ashes
I got Ariel's ashes scattered on her birthday, October 25th. At first I thought it'd be just one place where that'd get done, but three others came to mind and kept coming up. One was the spot where we'd renewed our vows on our 10-year wedding anniversary. Another was the area in the back yard where we'd buried a lot of the pets we'd had over the years. A third...well....that was her place. Those all went OK. It was sad, but at the same time I could also connect with the good memories…
ContinuePosted on November 11, 2011 at 11:41am
Associations
A friend had mentioned this, but I hadn't realized how true it was until today. My friend came out to visit a couple weeks ago, and commented on how most places we went I seemed to have some association with Ariel. She said it'd probably do me some good to get away, to re-set my connections with the world around me. I didn't think much of it at the time. It hadn't seemed to affect me all that much before. Today, however, I took my new camera to a park to test it out some more. It's a…
ContinuePosted on September 5, 2011 at 4:50pm
Trudging Along Through It
I noticed I haven't posted anything here in awhile, so figured I'd at least put something up...
I got a cremation jewelry necklace ordered today. It's a titanium cylinder that'll hold a little bit of Ariel's ashes in it. I'd been thinking I wanted to keep some of her ashes, though most will be getting scattered. Nothing I had here seemed like it'd do the job. A friend told me that cremation jewelry's gotten more popular, I guess as cremation's gotten more popular in the last… Continue
I got a cremation jewelry necklace ordered today. It's a titanium cylinder that'll hold a little bit of Ariel's ashes in it. I'd been thinking I wanted to keep some of her ashes, though most will be getting scattered. Nothing I had here seemed like it'd do the job. A friend told me that cremation jewelry's gotten more popular, I guess as cremation's gotten more popular in the last… Continue
Posted on August 9, 2011 at 9:44pm — 1 Comment
Strength
One of the things that'd bothered me a fair amount in the last while was hearing people say, "you're so strong!" They seem surprised that I'm still getting up in the morning, going to work, getting my bills (eventually) paid, and so on. The initial reaction was always wanting to scream back, 'Are you NUTS??? Do you have any idea what this all FEELS like? How in the Hell can you think I'm strong when I'm still so hurt and confused and lost so much of the time?!!" I certainly don't feel…
ContinuePosted on June 29, 2011 at 7:42pm — 3 Comments
Comment Wall (4 comments)
- At 2:36pm on September 30, 2011,
Tracy Marie Moreno said… Hi Sean. I havnt been on here for quite some time. Ive had bouts with these roller coaster of emotions. Moments when I think about Khoa and smile are soon followed by anger and hurt. I dont really know what to think. Ive been in counseling for the last two months actually, and started a journal at home that I just record my emoitions of the day. My mind has taken me back quite a few times to the last conversation I had, and of course the "what if?" I hope this little note finds you doing better.
tracy
- At 3:21pm on March 31, 2011,
Debbie Powell said… haven't seen you on line in a bit... thinking about you and hoping all is going according to what will be. I am maintaining the status quo. Sending thoughts !
- At 9:13am on February 14, 2011, kim marrah said…
- So sorry about your loss. I am also new to this group. I lost my Dad on Dec. 28,10.
It was totally unexpected. He was visiting me for Christmas when he had a massive heart attack. It was horrible. The pain is so hard to cope with,especially when you have a family you have to take care of.
My aunt killed herself when I was a baby,but I have always heard the story about all of the unanswered questions. I am so sorry....maybe this group will help us both.
- At 9:56pm on February 13, 2011, corinne raviv said…
- My heart goes out to you.....there are no words that will take the pain away....believe me I have heard them all. I lost my partner the love of my life 5 months ago....he died in my arms of a cardiac arrest. My life has been turned upside down. Just remember you are not alone and this wonderful support group enables you to talk to people that know just how you feel.
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Mary Chris Griffin replied to Michelle Hudson's discussion Losing friendships in the group Missing my Son or Daughter"I have friends who have walked away from me. A couple who I met at church and we were fast friends for six years, talked every day, went out together. Had each other over for meals. Now, I don't hear from them at all. I've called and they…"
Ammy left a comment for Stephen Amayo"Stephan, I have just been browsing around the site and happened on your page. I'm so sorry for the loss of your mom. I admire your love for her, but as a parent we are meant to leave before our children. I am older and have…"
Maddy commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!"Hi Amanda,
First let me say how sorry I am for your loss. Secondly, I would like to thank you for your different perspective - I never thought of it that way. It makes it a bit easier to handle.
Is this your first child? I haven't met another…"
Karlene commented on Julie Dolsey-Weiss's group Multiple Losses Group"Thank you. That's the good thing about work, I have to get up and keep moving. Monday will be tough when I say my final goodbye. I hope everyone has a wonderful weekend enjoying those they love."
"In just over 4 years I lost my husband, mother, sister and brother. I know the drill. Get up, put on your face, and plow through the day. I tried to ignore my feelings, up until the day I tried to join my loved ones. Then I HAD to acknowledge…"
"In Aug of 2007 I lost my husband, in 3/09 my mom. Then my sister was re-diagnosed with breast cancer 7/09 and fought the brave battle until 11/10. Just over 1 year later on Nov 22, 2011 my brother unexpectedly passed while visiting his daughter and…"
Connie Vaughan-Kaplan commented on Karen's group Missing my Son or Daughter"I agree Adrienne. Great insight Michele. You both said it perfectly. All the memories flood in , from all ages. I just wish I had the one of him graduating this year like he as going to and enjoying the freedom and responsibility that comes with…"
Multiple Losses Group
I am creating this site for the many of us who have suffered several losses. I lost my mom, dad, grandma(2nd mom), grandpa, my beloved dog and divorce.Many of us have lost more than one person or event.Come share!See More
"You can keep up as long as necessary. I can honestly say I cannot fathom the grief of losing a child. I lost husband8/07, mother3/09, sister11/10 and brother11/11. Somedays it hurts to just pretend I am OK...other days it is almost alright. I…"
William Fielding left a comment for Adrianne Edgerly"Adrianne everything you say is perfectly true, I believe it is true that even if a parent was aged 90 and they lost their 70 year old child it hurts no less."
Michelle Hudson commented on Karen's group Missing my Son or Daughter"Adrianne, once again, you said it perfectly. Those of us who have lost adult children, have also lost that baby we cuddled, the toddler who learned new things every minute of every day, the young child who amazed and amused us, the awkward teen who…"
Mary Chris Griffin replied to Karen's discussion The HOW ARE YOU dreaded Question ???? How do you answer??? in the group Missing my Son or Daughter"My son went to Heaven four months ago. He had a massive heart attack while at work. He is 44 years old. And no, people don't want to know how I'm doing, even though they ask. My pat answer is "fine."
All of a sudden my family and…"
Jacquetta Castillo left a comment for Ellen Paciella"Dear Ellen,
I'm so sorry for your loss and realize it must be difficult for you being so far away from your family during this time. I just can't believe she's gone. Lori and I have been in contact on and off for a while until…"
Teresa Dimitri commented on Karen's group Missing my Son or Daughter"While this site can be very sad one thing it does for me is let me know I'm "normal". It let's me know the things I feel and how I think is the same as every other parent that lost their child. It's not where I…"
Teresa Dimitri commented on Karen's group Missing my Son or Daughter"I agree Adrianne, many think because my Michael was no longer a little boy that it hurts less, well it doesn't. He was and will always be my Lil' Smurf. "
Dennis C. replied to Dennis C.'s discussion When Someone You Love Dies"Here is an interesting promise from Jesus
John 11:25,26 — Jesus said to her: “I am the resurrection and the life. He that exercises faith in me, even though he dies, will come to life; 26 and everyone that is living and exercises faith…"
Stanley Ruiz replied to Kari Hurley's discussion Son died in prison in the group Traumatic, Sudden Loss"I KNOW IS IS DIFFICULT AND TOUGHH BUT YOU CAN NOT BRING THEM BACK BUT THEY ARE STILL WITH US.WE CAN NOT SEE THEM BUT THEY SEE US.I LOST MY SOUL MATE IN OCTOBER OF LAST YEAR DURING A HOME INVASION I WAS WOUNDED AND NEAR DEATH BUT HE WAS SHOT IN…"
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