"Hello Joe. I lost my husband May 10 2017. I do read all the comments posted but rarely comment. It always makes me feel better to know I am not alone in my grief and unlike some people, I am not able to " move on". I know he is out there…"
"Widow brain is real. Factual. Many good articles on it. I am better than I was but not where I was before he got sick. I thought after he passed I was getting Dementia until my physician pointed me to articles on widow brain. …"
"Morgan. I too feel your pain. I keep very busy to avoid the thoughts that overcome me. When they do it is unbearable and I'm in disbelief that he is gone. So I get busy again. It's the only way I'm able to…"
"I'm so sorry for your loss Jeff. I hope you will find support and comfort on this site and what I have appreciated here is being able to say whatever I feel and not be judged. I lost my husband of 43 years last May and I am trying…"
"Joe: I'm with you on the signs. I was positive my husband would send me signs. I've read many books where people say it happens. It's not a bird or a butterfly, but they actual see and hear their loved…"
"I feel the very same Morgan. I had a love affair for 43 years. We have 3 children who are still devastated but would be completely paralyzed if I did something like you are talking about. I will bear this pain and remain alone for…"
"Morgan. Thank you so much for thinking of me yesterday and your words that hit home so much for me and many on here. You are so right about barely able to breathe at one year. I told my daughter yesterday was just like every day for…"
"I'm sorry Linda. I think the realization that all the plans made for retirement are gone and we are alone is the hardest thing to comprehend. The majority of my life I had been married. 43 years. To try and adjust to a…"
"Thank you Trina. I appreciate your kind words. I've had a sister and my little 98 yo mom say things like "you can't hide this by working so much, you have to face it." Or " it's been a year, you need…"
As my third year alone approaches on April 29th, there is no peace. I miss Nancy more than ever and the only thing that makes living tolerable is my belief that I WILL see her again in the next life. As far as living today...I always told My Nancy "I wouldn't want to live in a world without you in it" and I still believe that! I am seeing a counselor of late and it doesn't do much more than kill time.
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"I am finding it so hard to keep motivated. I have tons I need to do to keep afloat and try to honor the legacy of my husband and yet all I seem able to do is push myself, force myself.......constantly. Its the putting on the mask and…"
"When your ‘life force’ is taken away from you there is no will to go on. It will be 5 years for me soon and many people think my grief has subsided as I seem to be functioning better, but as I said earlier we just become more adept…"
"do not no wen dad died i loss my way for long tim u cud say i did im f i am'thn loss folerd evn my cat i had for 16 yrs in 2016 wish she got me thru few dark tims she did
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"Thank you for such a wonderful, in depth and reflective post. It sounds like your Mom really had the devotion and love she richly deserved from you. As you said. The Doctors could have done a lot more. It was if they didn't want involved unless…"
Big Deal, It's St. Patrick's Day. All is does to me is relieve my Husband's death. In 2013 he passed away 2 months after St. Patrick's Day. We did go out to dinner together put he was in so much pain we had…"
"Hello friends, I’m so grateful to read your honesty about this hell on earth, this unbearable grief that we have (almost) no choice but to bear. I’m sorry I don’t contribute more often. When I think of something to write, in my…"
"Have been reading comments from the past few days. Yes, grief is lonely. I'm so thankful for this group. Like Joe says, it's really difficult not having our better half here physically, just to appreciate…"
Yes, we all pretty much have found that grief is not a bump on the head. It is a ripping apart of a quantum soul. For me it has become an all encompassing desire to plead with the universe to take me. I do it as I have now…"
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"So sorry you’re going through such a grievous loss — my mother died recently as well, we were very close and I had been there helping her because she was having increasingly complex health problems over the last five years, so I feel…"
"That you all for your kind compassion. Just plain hell today as usual. Tears at times and don't know when or what will trigger them. The only time I venture out is my daily visit to the cemetery (closest I can be to Her…"
My heart ached for you when I read of your breakdown day. We feel your intense pain and heartache. Over time we become so adept at carrying our grief, stuffing it and hiding it. Yet so many times we become so overwhelmed by…"