"Morgan. I too feel your pain. I keep very busy to avoid the thoughts that overcome me. When they do it is unbearable and I'm in disbelief that he is gone. So I get busy again. It's the only way I'm able to…"
"I'm so sorry for your loss Jeff. I hope you will find support and comfort on this site and what I have appreciated here is being able to say whatever I feel and not be judged. I lost my husband of 43 years last May and I am trying…"
"Joe: I'm with you on the signs. I was positive my husband would send me signs. I've read many books where people say it happens. It's not a bird or a butterfly, but they actual see and hear their loved…"
"I feel the very same Morgan. I had a love affair for 43 years. We have 3 children who are still devastated but would be completely paralyzed if I did something like you are talking about. I will bear this pain and remain alone for…"
"Morgan. Thank you so much for thinking of me yesterday and your words that hit home so much for me and many on here. You are so right about barely able to breathe at one year. I told my daughter yesterday was just like every day for…"
"I'm sorry Linda. I think the realization that all the plans made for retirement are gone and we are alone is the hardest thing to comprehend. The majority of my life I had been married. 43 years. To try and adjust to a…"
"Thank you Trina. I appreciate your kind words. I've had a sister and my little 98 yo mom say things like "you can't hide this by working so much, you have to face it." Or " it's been a year, you need…"
"All I do is work. I'm exhausted at the end of each day. The only time I don't think about things is when I'm working. The rest of the time it is all I think about. I play things over and over in my head. …"
As my third year alone approaches on April 29th, there is no peace. I miss Nancy more than ever and the only thing that makes living tolerable is my belief that I WILL see her again in the next life. As far as living today...I always told My Nancy "I wouldn't want to live in a world without you in it" and I still believe that! I am seeing a counselor of late and it doesn't do much more than kill time.
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"Hi Pamela, I can understand your situation as you aretorn between two worlds. Your daughter in her own way is trying to help you with your grieving process. She thinks that her way is the only way through your grief. It is also a confrontation you…"
Your words give me hope that I will be with my mom someday. This is enough motivation to live.
Virginia, sometimes we do feel that God has done lot of injustice to us but if you look around there are people who suffer lot more than…"
"Virginia, do you think I feel any joy right now? I don't. But I think about how much my mom loved me and how much it would hurt her if i harmed myself. She could not have led a happy life if she knew that was in my future. She would have held…"
I always feel a spiritual kinship with what you write. You were the first person here who when I started reading who was honest and told it like it was. That hasn't changed and I truly believe that if anyone outside…"
I may not be the best person to respond because U can get kind of feisty `but i am going to anyhow. I will be at six years in January. I have pictures of my husband all over my house. I am still slowly going through boxes I…"
Whats the point of living if there’s no happiness? If you don’t care about anything except being with the person you lost...if everything is meaningless...if you can’t stand the pain or the numbness...if you don’t belong anywhere..if everything feels wrong...if you have no idea what to do about it...if you can’t get through the daySee More
I have been very stressed and upset my daughter came back to my house for a while until she and her family gets on their feet which is not the problem the problem is she has made me get all the things that are important to me out of the house and put in the garage pictures mementos etc. because she thinks that I need to move on she said because it has been three years and she does not understand how she is upsetting me I don't want to be in this house like this anymore how do I make her…See More
"Hi everyone Scotishbrat here. We had our 1st snowfall Thursday. If Ron was here we would be out making a snowman laughing and throwing snowballs at each other.We did everything together.When he passedl felt so lost I still do its like half of me is…"
"Joe & Bluebird,
Thanks for sharing you thoughts mine are exactly the same. I hate that I have to go on in this world. I have friends that our dying of cancer, I would trade places with them if I could. To endure my feelings I drink at least 6…"
"Virginia, you so often end your posts with something ominous. You are trying to say something and it is coming across loud and clear. Don't wish yourself dead. Try to live while you're alive. Find joy where you can. Never give up."
"Some songs have popped into my head for no reason but that are appropriate. I don’t even listen to the radio anymore so it’s not like I heard them recently. I wasn’t trying to think of songs either. First it was I…"
"I love the Doors. Jim Morrison is just the coolest. And I love that song. It's about feeling alone in a crowd. I can relate.
Virginia, why would God tell you that you deserve to be alone? I think it is quite the opposite. You are telling…"
"Hello Scottishbrat. I just passed the 4 year mark of losing my husband. With him I felt complete. Now I just seem to be in limbo. I don't remember what hobbies I used to enjoy. My life had been taking care of him and the 2 wonderful…"
"Hi my name is scotishbrat this will be my 3rd holiday season with out my love.It is so hard to do anything.l have crying spells that are so intense it feels like l am going to die.Once l stary it could go on for hours and then l feel completely…"
"That is a lot of shit to deal with, all at once. It's good your sister is ok now.
If the man who you feel is your best friend and the love of your life were to come back now, do you think you would be ready to be with him now?"
As usual, I identify so much with your post.
As you said, by burying our soulmates we buried ourselves. Why can't people understand that? If I had a child with my husband, I would feel some pull to live for that child. I felt that…"