Recently widowed, after a long and happy marriage.
Practicing Psychotherapist for over twenty years.
About my Loss:
My husband suddenly died of a massive heart attack in March of this year. He had not been ill and had not been diagnosed with any medical issues so it came as a complete shock. He collapsed in a restaurant and died in the ER and I had no opportunity to say good-bye to him.
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Yes Lynne, the weekends were the hardest part for me after my Lisa died because that was our time when I wasn't working.. I know you must have looked forward to the weekend too so you could get together with your late husband and just be together. Now those times are gone and only memories remain. I do recall though last summer, on more than one occasion, going to the front screen door on a nice summer day and looking down the street with the expectation of seeing my late wife walking down the street with her smiling face to greet me and put an end to my nightmare. I would come to the realization that that wasn't going to happen and it made me cry more times than not..
So I hope you are having a better day than tomorrow although that's not even a guarantee with grieving. I am looking forward to relaxing this weekend and visiting my late wife on Monday. Take care David
I didn't look forward to certain dates and anniversaries for the first year following my Lisa's death. You are probably going to have the same feeling everyone has in your own way. If you are like many people here you will shad a tear or two for sure. I had a really hard time with holidays because Lisa used to love celebrating them to the fullest. I went to her mothers house on Christmas and cried knowing she wasn't going to be there as Christmas was her holiday. She also loved handing out candy on Halloween to the 100's of kids that came by the house. I know time has healed most of my wounds but they still linger. I know on Valentines day I laid a rose on her grave. I hope you have a good support system of people you can call when times get tough and you need words of encouragement. I know they can lift your soul some days when you get down on yourself.. Remember to breath and you'll get by these days..
Well Lynne, yesterday I traveled to Lincoln, NE for my job(I'm in the relocation business) so I had plenty of time to think about life and my lost love Lisa. Now while I don't dwell on her 24/7 there comes a time, several in fact, during the day where my thoughts are about her and our beautiful life we had together for 16 years. Although she suffered from Huntington's in her later years and this caused many problem in our relationship, I am grateful for the times we shared. Grieving is a lonesome road we all travel at one time or another in our life. I see that you're offering good advice to others and that's something they should be grateful for. I found it helped me when I came here and hope it helps you in some small way. So tomorrow is another day and lets its better than today. Take care.
Hey Lynne, the best thing to remember is to now take life one day at a time and remember to breath.. I was once filled with sorrow I thought would never go away(it really doesn't go away but it subsides) and I just could wait for the day to end. But things got better and they will get better for you.. I hope you find words of solace here and know that there are people here that love you and want to help..
Hey Lynne, Sorry for you loss. You can learn a lot here about the grieving process and I found that helping others also helped me with my loss. I hope my kind words and encouragement will make things feel just a little better. And remember that time will heal all wound but it does take time. I, like you, felt lost and alone and wondered if I would ever get back to a normal life and by god it does happen.
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