Lauren A Fernandez
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Miriam Holmes commented on Lauren A Fernandez's blog post I'm trying to not blame my dad for my mom's death
"Lauren, I have not gone through anything that begins to be similar to the nightmare that you are describing.  Anger at your father is completely appropriate, even necessary.  But I suspect that beneath the anger at your father there is…"
Jan 30
Michelle commented on Lauren A Fernandez's blog post I'm trying to not blame my dad for my mom's death
"Maybe part of this is post partum depression. I had it 30 years ago when they called it baby blues. I see why you feel the way you do though."
Jul 6, 2019
Billy Jo Colt left a comment for Lauren A Fernandez
"Hi Lauren, the sudden death of someone close brings with it every emotion you can imagine and more. Anger is the most common one. Perhaps not for the same reasons as yours. Alcoholism is an addiction and it rules peoples minds. It controls people…"
Jul 3, 2019
Lauren A Fernandez posted a blog post

I'm trying to not blame my dad for my mom's death

My mother passed away last Thursday and my and I just had a newborn baby 2 months ago. My mother and my father are both alcoholics and addicts. They were both doing very badly physically and mentally and my mom was so sick that she wasn't able to drive anywhere in order to get alcohol and so my father would go and get stuff alcohol so that he could drink and she would feed her alcohol knowing that it was killing her. She would continuously fall down the stairs and hit her head and have to go to…See More
Jul 2, 2019
Lauren A Fernandez is now a member of Online Grief Support - A Social Community
Jun 24, 2019

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About Me:
I am a 38 yr old SAHM with a 2 month old daughter, 3 yr old son and 14 yr old daughter
About my Loss:
I suddenly lost my mother last Wednesday

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At 11:27am on October 3, 2019, Jennifer Pollard said…

Good Day,

How is everything with you, I picked interest on you after going through your short profile and deemed it necessary to write you immediately. I have something very vital to disclose to you, but I found it difficult to express myself here, since it's a public site.Could you please get back to me on ( mr.jamespollard5@gmail.com ) for the full details.
Have a nice day
Thanks God bless.

At 1:48pm on July 3, 2019, Billy Jo Colt said…

Hi Lauren, the sudden death of someone close brings with it every emotion you can imagine and more. Anger is the most common one. Perhaps not for the same reasons as yours. Alcoholism is an addiction and it rules peoples minds. It controls people beyond what we think as normal. They see the world differently. All they want is their addiction and nothing else. It may also be that your Dad had he been sober may not have been able to save your Mom. Your Dad didn't kill her, the alcohol did.

We always want to blame someone for our loss. That is only natural and it is part of the grieving process. This site helped me and many others. Don't hide your feelings. Always be open no matter what other people say. There is no length of time our grief will last for. Don't let anyone say different. Sending you a special hugg from Scotland. John

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I'm trying to not blame my dad for my mom's death

My mother passed away last Thursday and my and I just had a newborn baby 2 months ago. My mother and my father are both alcoholics and addicts. They were both doing very badly physically and mentally and my mom was so sick that she wasn't able to drive anywhere in order to get alcohol and so my father would go and get stuff alcohol so that he could drink and she would feed her alcohol knowing that it was killing her. She would continuously fall down the stairs and hit her head and have to go to… Continue

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bluebird replied to bluebird's discussion My husband died, and I will never want to live without him.
"Morgan, Thank you; I sometimes hesitate to speak (type) the truth of how this is for me, as the last thing I want to do is make it worse for anyone else. At the same time, I know that it helped me to find others online whose truth was similar to…"
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Jeff C replied to bluebird's discussion My husband died, and I will never want to live without him.
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bluebird replied to bluebird's discussion My husband died, and I will never want to live without him.
"Martee, I am so sorry you are also in this hell. I really have no hopeful words to offer; for me, any meaningful life ended when my husband died. I didn't survive, my body just hasn't died yet. There is no joy in life anymore, for me. That…"
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M Adams commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Re doing things we did together I was thinking more of making piecrust with my mom, or the right way to chop vegetables, or starting plants from cuttings, not anything like vacation travel.  When my husband died several people, including…"
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Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Brenda, I think that people look too hard to find some thing very big. That something that makes you happy could just be a doughnut. When you are taking baby steps it's just a matter of getting from the chair to the couch. That's what I…"
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Sue M commented on Kar's group Missing my Son or Daughter
"Hello mommas  Nice to have your words and well wishes here. We all know this journey all too well. There are days u dread as well, and on those days we all have, we just need to be very gentle with ourselves. That's something I'm…"
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M Adams commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Re baby steps, one thing that has helped me is doing things that we did together, or learning to do things that she did.  It might sound sad or even heartbreaking, to do those things alone, and if it feels that way it’s not the right…"
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Theresa commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Brett you said it perfectly and you actually helped me also God bless you and your little dog and everyone of us here it’s always nice to know that we still keep in touch after almost 5 years"
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Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Day by day. Minute by minute. Find something, anything that makes you happy and focus on it. For me it's my dog. When she is gone I will focus on something else. It could be anything. If that doesn't work, do it for your mom. Carry on for…"
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Luna Nightshade replied to bluebird's discussion My husband died, and I will never want to live without him.
"For me it now has been three years ... three years and four months. I survived first by distracting myself from it, thrust into work and no time to think, it would only come back at evenings and nights to haunt me ... I guess what helped me was…"
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Martee replied to bluebird's discussion My husband died, and I will never want to live without him.
"Bluebird, so sorry for you loss,your posts spoke my feelings exactly on grief and pain of living. Can you please let me know how you survived all these years. Its been just over 2 weeks and each day is an eternity for me I hope I don’t…"
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"Today I have been walking as a lifeless, joyless, husk for 2 weeks and 4 days. My beautiful, loving husband is gone...."
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Theresa commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
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Casey commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"it has been almost 6 years (my mom passed away on Feb 18, 2014) since my mom (56-year-old) passed way, it still feels like yesterday..I can't believe it..anyone here whos still here after all these years?"
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Theresa commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Brett, I am looking for the same light at the end of the tunnel.  I feel the same way about my dog he is a Labrador and its so so difficult to see him limp or have a bad day, he takes meds, I just want him to be comfortable.  I say to…"
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Brett Bowman commented on Karen's group I miss my Mom!
"Brenda, I rely on my faith so much, but I realized a long time ago that there won't be a magic moment where an angel comes down and tells me that everything will be okay. I'm not criticizing God. I just realize that this is something that…"
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