I had a good counselling session last week in which we discussed the 'moving on' terminology. My counsellor was the first one to acknowledge how 'offending' these words are. He suggested it is better to use 'moving…"
This Friday 21st September will be our 27th wedding anniversary. It is my first without my husband and I've noticed my anxiety peaking and I'm back to waking every hour. Has anyone got any advice of how to cope with all the…"
"Yesterday I was scheduled for a minor eye operation. I was asked at the admissions desk if my husband was my next of kin (for picking me up after surgery). I was upset and explained he had just passed 4 months ago. I was then told all my paperwork…"
Just so worn out. Still can't accept he's gone. Just had home movies converted to DVDs and it's breaking my heart to see and hear him again during our happiest times together. The distractions during the day are no longer…"
"Eight weeks tomorrow when the love of my life left me here - not by his choosing. I still cannot sleep, cannot be left on my own, cannot stop crying no matter where I am. Every memory from the first day we met is now so vivid that it is etched in my…"
"Another morning waking with anxiety that feels like it is choking me. Missing my husband with an ache inside that I cannot explain. If only cancer didn't exist or there was a cure, my beloved would still be here."
"Dear Morgan and Trina,
As strange as it may seem I find some release in knowing I'm not alone in my thoughts after reading your heartfelt pain. This torture of what is left of my life I know will never change. Each morning starts with…"
I am so deeply saddened that you have had to experience this great loss, something no one should ever have to experience, but sadly do.
I tried my absolute best to keep mum here and safe with me, my siblings and the rest of the family and it does still hurt me so very much to know she’s not here anymore (especially with Christmas, her birthday and mother’s day approaching after she passed)
Your husband would be incredibly proud of how hard you cared, and you should always be very proud of how hard fought.
I am always here to support you!
sending love xx
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I totally understand; I detest being around happy families, and especially happy couples. It's not that I want anything bad to happen to them, I definitely do not. It's just that they have what my beloved and I should still have,…"
"usually I find your comments really clear, Linda, so I don’t think it’s not being good with words, more that it’s hard to express these things in words. Actually I couldn’t follow what Joe said either, but it’s…"
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Joe explained in his post of how I feel. I am not good with words on explaining things but Joe you said it perfectly. I just want to thank everyone here for sharing their thoughts, as we are all in the same boat together."
"Speaking for myself, I identify with Linda. My Love left our world and I know it, and accept that she crossed over into another realm of existence and can't come back. I want her back and I live in HELL every day without her. …"
"Linda, not sure what you mean here when you say you can accept the loss of your husband but not being able to change it is your whole problem — do you mean not being able to change the fact of the loss, or not being able to change the way it…"
Like you mentioned in your post, there is no normal in my life. I just take each day as it comes and just wait for death. I can accept that Julian is gone but not being able to change it is my whole problem."
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"Thanks so much! It helps having others that understand. Some of my family is supportive & that helps. It helps just having someone listen that truly understands. I have one sibling, but he was never as close to my…"
"It's important to have people in your life who understand, even if they are on a message board like this, because sometimes you have to look far and wide to find someone to walk with you.
Sometimes I will call my mom's sister. She will…"
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