"I am sorry for the hurt everyone is feeling. I'm also afraid that my messages here of hope have become an intrusion to those of you who do not feel any hope and I apologize for that. I won't be participating in your group any longer and…"
"My heart goes out to you all. Grief is the hardest pain in the world. A few things I saw in your comments made me want to share.
Vickie, grief is still new for you and the early part is impossibly hard. My husband died at 49…"
"Babie J is adorable. I had three dogs when my husband died. They saved me in many ways. One dog in particular, Lucy, seemed to have a real sense for what I was feeling then. Just this morning, my essay was published about her coming into my life…"
"Britt, I don't know how you've managed to deal with this twice. My heart goes out to you. I find now that I have a new partner, I'm always trying to brace myself against it happening again. I, too, could relate to all her crazy…"
"I read that book a couple years ago. I want to read it again now that I've experienced the loss of my second partner. I remember completely understanding the craziness and irrational behavior she experienced and engaged in. It made total sense…"
Hello, everyone.I'm reading a book now that is popular, and I wonder what other grievers thought about it. It's called "Wave" and is about the true story of a woman who lost her husband, children, and parents all at once in the 2014 Tsunami in Sri Lanka. It's more about her grief experience than the event itself and, even though her loss was very different from mine, I find I can identify with much of what she goes through. It's well written. When my husband died, I wanted everything I could…See More
"Amen to all of that. It is exactly the same for me.
Trevy, I'm sure you mean well, and I'm also sure that your post will be helpful and hopeful to some people who read it, which is good. But it simply doesn't apply to everyone,…"
"Dear Morgan, I so feel you. Grief is not one size fits all. Everyone's story is different and so is the grieving process and recovery or lack of. We all come here to express our feelings without judgement. This is the place where we can find…"
"Vicki, that is heartwarming! Thanks for sharing your experience. I think often, the grievers who are feeling better are afraid to share because it may seem insensitive to those who are not. But when grief was new to me, I was desperate to see an…"
"So perfectly said. I lost my husband 2 yrs ago at age 44. I thought I will never live again. Not only I had to worry about me , but my 2 kids, a new puppy, a new home, and a business we owned. All of which he took care mostly himself ( by choice)…"
This is so hard what you're feeling. You say your bereavement group won't help either, and maybe it won't, but I did find some comfort in being around people who were right in the thick of it. It used to hurt to go out and see…"
I live on the East Coast of the U.S. with my new husband and four dogs. I'm a writer with a slew of grief-related essays, fiction and an almost-finished book about grief
About my Loss:
My late husband died suddenly in 2012, and I was tossed into the world of grief sooner than I'd ever imagined. I survived that harrowing experience even though I wasn't sure I could, and I've been writing about the process ever since.
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I'm a grief writer who hopes to be of service to those now walking the path I've been on.
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I wish I had some advice for you because when I sign in, I notice that you often sign in I guess to check if anything new has been posted. Being lonely after losing your Love after so many years together is a major part of all who…"
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"You are right. I became conditioned with my mom. Every health crisis that my mom would have was traumatic for me. And then there would be that ray of light. I would have mom safe at home once again. I developed some false hope. But as time passed…"
"Baby steps is such a good metaphor — I think when we’ve been traumatized by terrible loss, many of us lose our resilience, and basically have to baby ourselves, setting very tiny goals and challenges, slowly working our way forward.…"
"Theresa, it's hard for me to be positive about anything. I always feel like something bad is right around the corner. That's because every time I thought mom was safe and had cleared another hurdle, something else would go wrong. It's…"
"It's been a little bit since I shared but it seems like I'm just stuck, out of sync with everything included myself in a way. It's been like one long endless day. I don't know how to explain it even. I'm…"
"Brett you are right that is the "dark" side, it scares me too
That is so great about the phone call from the directors at the center, that must have made you feel like a million bucks.
You are making a positive impact, I know…"
"Avi, I actually looked up the EquoVox. I couldn't find an English link for it. I'll keep looking. I'm just really curious how it works. And I want you to make your own decisions. I just want you to be happy."
"M, I'm half Catholic, and Theresa is 100% Catholic. This is a huge part of Catholicism. Ouiji boards just scare the crap out of me. I listened to a lecture series from a Vatican exorcists. There was a question and answer period. Someone asked…"
"Brett, it gives me such a lift to hear about your new gig — sounds perfect! Lucky kids too, great when they can connect with an adult who also makes them laugh.
Your comment re the spirit world app that Avi came across brought back a…"
"Avi, things like that scare the crap out of me. I mean, how do you know that you are actually communicating with your mom, and not something bad? I believe that you may open yourself to something that may attach itself to you. That's just…"
I send you my heartfelt condolences as well as a welcome to our website. It is a safe place to come and talk or vent about your loss. Talking is very helpful in sorting out how to move forward. I would like to share a paragraph from what…"
"No we should not, God is the only communicator Avi, you are right.
We should not disturb the deceased, they are in peace, it is us who are not in peace.
I still struggle everyday, I just have come to recognize that this is my new life. "
I m sure everyone on our forum had a very bad day. I just kept myself very busy all. Since I live in Florida and it is in the 70's I worked outside all day long. I feel Julian is with when I am outside. He knew I just loved the outdoors…"
Few days back I came to know an app EquoVox which can help you communicate with your loved ones who are deceased. It seems be fake to me but have seen some videos on you tube people claiming its real. Did anybody on this group…"