"I am sorry for the hurt everyone is feeling. I'm also afraid that my messages here of hope have become an intrusion to those of you who do not feel any hope and I apologize for that. I won't be participating in your group any longer and…"
"My heart goes out to you all. Grief is the hardest pain in the world. A few things I saw in your comments made me want to share.
Vickie, grief is still new for you and the early part is impossibly hard. My husband died at 49…"
"Babie J is adorable. I had three dogs when my husband died. They saved me in many ways. One dog in particular, Lucy, seemed to have a real sense for what I was feeling then. Just this morning, my essay was published about her coming into my life…"
"Britt, I don't know how you've managed to deal with this twice. My heart goes out to you. I find now that I have a new partner, I'm always trying to brace myself against it happening again. I, too, could relate to all her crazy…"
"I read that book a couple years ago. I want to read it again now that I've experienced the loss of my second partner. I remember completely understanding the craziness and irrational behavior she experienced and engaged in. It made total sense…"
Hello, everyone.I'm reading a book now that is popular, and I wonder what other grievers thought about it. It's called "Wave" and is about the true story of a woman who lost her husband, children, and parents all at once in the 2014 Tsunami in Sri Lanka. It's more about her grief experience than the event itself and, even though her loss was very different from mine, I find I can identify with much of what she goes through. It's well written. When my husband died, I wanted everything I could…See More
"Amen to all of that. It is exactly the same for me.
Trevy, I'm sure you mean well, and I'm also sure that your post will be helpful and hopeful to some people who read it, which is good. But it simply doesn't apply to everyone,…"
"Dear Morgan, I so feel you. Grief is not one size fits all. Everyone's story is different and so is the grieving process and recovery or lack of. We all come here to express our feelings without judgement. This is the place where we can find…"
"Vicki, that is heartwarming! Thanks for sharing your experience. I think often, the grievers who are feeling better are afraid to share because it may seem insensitive to those who are not. But when grief was new to me, I was desperate to see an…"
"So perfectly said. I lost my husband 2 yrs ago at age 44. I thought I will never live again. Not only I had to worry about me , but my 2 kids, a new puppy, a new home, and a business we owned. All of which he took care mostly himself ( by choice)…"
This is so hard what you're feeling. You say your bereavement group won't help either, and maybe it won't, but I did find some comfort in being around people who were right in the thick of it. It used to hurt to go out and see…"
I live on the East Coast of the U.S. with my new husband and four dogs. I'm a writer with a slew of grief-related essays, fiction and an almost-finished book about grief
About my Loss:
My late husband died suddenly in 2012, and I was tossed into the world of grief sooner than I'd ever imagined. I survived that harrowing experience even though I wasn't sure I could, and I've been writing about the process ever since.
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I'm a grief writer who hopes to be of service to those now walking the path I've been on.
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Im sorry for your loss no matter how long ago it is.
i can only imagine the pain and emotions you are still going though.
for me it was taking care of the kids and finding one thing to achieve (no matter how small) helped a lot. it was as small…"
Hope every one is doing fine. Last week my father got an infection and was hospitalized so could not follow much here. Now he is better and recovering.
Virginia, you seem to be totally engrossed in the guilt which I can…"
"So the dr talked to my therapist and he told her the same things he told me. I had asked her to try to get more answers. I actually feel worse because I had someone ask some doctors about using ventilators. The oncologist told us…"
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"Theresa, since talking to you last I have been searching for a natural solution to your issue. There are new supplements since I went through this about a year and a half ago, but my best advice would be to talk to your doctor about trying a new…"
"Hi everyone, I have been reading, going through a tough time with my friend her dog is getting ready to go to the rainbow bridge and that set me into anxiety. My stomach is flaring up no matter what I eat.
I started to think about my mom…"
"Virginia, my dad was horrible. My mom and my brothers and sister moved to NC where mom had family. I was six. We found a little house to rent. We had left all of our furniture at our house in Ky. I remember the day the moving truck came to our new…"
"Bluebell, I do not know if you have the same symptoms that I did. It was scary. I was in my shower one day. I was looking at my bottle of shampoo and I couldn't remember what to do with it. And then when I reached for it, it was like my arm was…"
Those are hurtful things you had to deal with. I am so fortunate that drinking was never a frequent activity with most of my family. The only thing I can say is this. I am the one feeling guilty, desperately hoping my Mom…"
"Thank you Brett. It is very scary. What I do not like the most is the lack of motivation and being so easily fatigued. I am also frustrated with the lack of support from the Doctors. I keep asking it it would be dangerous to increase a certain…"
"Brett, the dr may realize that he didn’t tell me what was going on in the hospital and that’s why I have all the questions. I blame myself for getting upset with him, then not seeking him out but he might feel responsible. I…"
"Virginia yes I will tell you what she lied about who my father is my mother told me the man who is on my birth certificate was my father but he told me I was not his daughter and I look like my so called step father who raised me since I was a baby…"