Bonnie Jacobs
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Bonnie Jacobs left a comment for Bonnie Jacobs
"I am writing just to let everyone know that I am still out there. I have been having a very bad time of it lately, today being the worse day since she passed. I don't really feel like talking at this time as all I have been doing is sobbing and…"
Aug 18, 2013
Bonnie Jacobs left a comment for Michelle H
"Hi Michelle, I'm sorry I haven't checked in lately. I have been unbelievably depressed these last few weeks. Some of it doesn't even involve Sara, or so I think. I miss her so much and I think I am just pretending that she is not…"
Aug 13, 2013
Michelle H left a comment for Bonnie Jacobs
"Bonnie, just checking in with you again. Haven't seen you here for awhile and have been thinking about you. I'm sending you love and prayers."
Aug 13, 2013
Vasanthi S left a comment for Bonnie Jacobs
"Bonnie,  we haven't seen you for a while on here .. so do share-- we are with you-- god will give u all the strength required and our prayers are with you.I am thinking of you. Do be in touch and let us know how u r doing..love, hugsss."
Aug 13, 2013
Bonnie Jacobs replied to Gina Stone's discussion So frustrated and Confused
"I'm sorry it has taken me so long to reply to you. I have been very depressed and sad. You said you read my story and I'm sure you understand. I consider the date that Sara went into the hospital (Dec 15) the day she really died. She…"
Jun 20, 2013
Bonnie Jacobs left a comment for Willa Morehead
"Hi Willa, Thank you for your kind words and support. While my daughter, Sara, was in the hospital I kept it together for the most part. During the last month or so all I did was cry. I knew she was dying but didn't want to believe she was…"
Jun 16, 2013
Willa Morehead left a comment for Bonnie Jacobs
"Bonnie, your comment about being a lot stronger while she was dying than you are now is normal.  I felt the same way standing by my dying daughter the months that she was living, but now after she is gone, I feel like I am falling to…"
Jun 16, 2013
Bonnie Jacobs left a comment for Alice
"Thank you Alice. I know she is with God. I think God is with all of us too. I hope that I get to see her when it is my time.  "
Jun 15, 2013
Alice left a comment for Bonnie Jacobs
"Your daughter is okay she is with Gid and she has no pain now and she want you to get better and she will always be with you in spirit.Please try to stay positive.I am always here if you need to talk.Mat God continue to bless you and your family."
Jun 15, 2013
Bonnie Jacobs posted a status
"I lost my 29 year old daughter on this May 3rd and I still can't believe it is real. My prayers are with you. (hugs) and Light, Bonnie"
Jun 15, 2013
Bonnie Jacobs commented on Karen's group Missing my Son or Daughter
"Hi Marilyn, I have never spoken to you and I don't know your circumstances but you have just described my day. I, too, know I am in denial again but it isn't in my control. Today I cried for hours and now I'm just still and numb. I…"
Jun 15, 2013
Bonnie Jacobs left a comment for Alice
"I pray everyday and ask God to keep her happy. I also ask for help dealing with it. It feels like my guts are being wrenched out of me."
Jun 15, 2013
Alice left a comment for Bonnie Jacobs
"Hey Bonnie,It will get easier you are gonna have good days and bad days but continue to ask God for healing and trust me it will get better.I will continue to pray for you.Remember you are not alone in your grief.Grief has no timetable so do what…"
Jun 15, 2013
Bonnie Jacobs left a comment for Alice
"Sorry it has taken me so long to write back. I have been having a bad time lately and this day especially. I just want my daughter back. I want this all to be a nightmare and I will wake up and she will be here at home. I can't take it today.…"
Jun 15, 2013
Alice left a comment for Bonnie Jacobs
"I am getting through this by the grace of God.Having someone going through the pain with you is also helpful.Hope my kind words be of some help to you."
Jun 6, 2013
Bonnie Jacobs left a comment for Alice
"Thank you Alice, for the gentle words. You remember, too, that we are all here for you as well. I don't know which is worse, knowing that your loved one is dying or dies suddenly. I think they are equally bad and that we all have our own…"
Jun 6, 2013

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My 29 year old daughter is about to be taken of life support with Hospice being involved. I am already in the mourning process and need the help of grief counciling. Sara was without oxygen for over ten minutes and is basically a vegetable. She is in pain and non responsive. This death is going to happen very soon and I don't know how I am going to get by.

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Posted on May 30, 2013 at 11:56am

Depression

I have been depressed all through this process since my daughter, Sara, first was in a coma.  Now that she has passed I haven't been feeling much of anything. I am starting to go into a deep depression and wanting to get out.  I feel darkness looming all of the time.  This just started a few day ago.  Her memorial isn't for another week but I feel I shouldn't feel this depressed as I have gone through all of the stages of mourning in the past 4 months since the coma insued. I thought I was…

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At 7:37pm on August 18, 2013, Bonnie Jacobs said…

I am writing just to let everyone know that I am still out there. I have been having a very bad time of it lately, today being the worse day since she passed. I don't really feel like talking at this time as all I have been doing is sobbing and I have finally stopped and don't want to start again. Love to all.

 

At 11:38am on August 13, 2013, Michelle H said…

Bonnie, just checking in with you again. Haven't seen you here for awhile and have been thinking about you. I'm sending you love and prayers.

At 11:16am on August 13, 2013, Vasanthi S said…

Bonnie, 

we haven't seen you for a while on here .. so do share-- we are with you-- god will give u all the strength required and our prayers are with you.I am thinking of you. Do be in touch and let us know how u r doing..love, hugsss.

At 4:15pm on June 16, 2013, Willa Morehead said…

Bonnie, your comment about being a lot stronger while she was dying than you are now is normal.  I felt the same way standing by my dying daughter the months that she was living, but now after she is gone, I feel like I am falling to pieces.  This morning at 3 a.m. laying in my bed I had a total "meltdown" and cried for over an hour.  I know it is post traumatic syndrome that has happened as in any crucial situation where our adrenal keeps us going and we are strong when wehave to be and, now, that is has happened we have time to really relive all of it.  Just know my dear that you are not alone in your feelings and we will get through by the "grace of God" and sweet support friends as I see here.  I am new on the site.  God Bless and know I am your friend and am going through the same feelings and pain as you are.

At 8:56pm on June 15, 2013, Alice said…
Your daughter is okay she is with Gid and she has no pain now and she want you to get better and she will always be with you in spirit.Please try to stay positive.I am always here if you need to talk.Mat God continue to bless you and your family.
At 3:54pm on June 15, 2013, Alice said…
Hey Bonnie,It will get easier you are gonna have good days and bad days but continue to ask God for healing and trust me it will get better.I will continue to pray for you.Remember you are not alone in your grief.Grief has no timetable so do what you need to do to get better.
At 8:38am on June 6, 2013, Alice said…
I am getting through this by the grace of God.Having someone going through the pain with you is also helpful.Hope my kind words be of some help to you.
At 10:33pm on June 5, 2013, Alice said…
Hey Bonnie,just remember nothing dies it only transform.May God continue to bless you in your time of grief.
At 8:02pm on June 4, 2013, Alice said…
You will be okay as long as you trust in god that we all have an appointment with him but we don't know when our appointment is.I am so sorry for what u are going through,I will pray for you and your family that you will get through this and know it will take time.My loss was sudden and I am having a bad time and when I do I have family and friends who are there for me when I need them.If you need someone to talk to I am here for you anytime.May god be with you and your family in your time of grief.
At 9:11am on May 30, 2013, Ammy said…

Hello Bonnie, 

Just here to let you know I am thinking of you and keeping you in prayer.  Hugs.

 
 
 

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