I am experiencing post traumatic stress disorder.  Some days I cry a lot, others not much.  I get upset when I don’t cry.  I feel as if I should be crying all day every day because the thing I feared the most my whole life happened.  How have I not had ten heart attacks by now?  Some days I have bad flashbacks of the hospital.  Other days I feel like I can’t process what happened.  Is my mind blocking what happened to protect me from the pain?  Sometimes I feel like I’m losing my mind.  Am I still in shock?  I must be.  

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Comment by Avi on June 2, 2018 at 12:29am

Hi Virginia

Came to know about this group yeatwrday only. 

I wish you all strength but I will still say that you cannot change the past and future may not come, so live in the lresent. Plz see if you can do something for someone.

Comment by bluebird on June 2, 2018 at 12:03am

You may very well be experiencing PTSD. I'm pretty sure that I am, and it's likely that many of us here are. It has been nearly 6 years since my husband died, and I still feel the same.  In my experience, the real shock lasts for a couple of months, but still every few weeks or months I am struck with the thought that he is dead, and then by the thought that this is not real. My husband's death has caused my life to no longer be reality, for me. It's horrible.

Comment by morgan on April 19, 2018 at 8:59pm

Virginia, We ask ourselves alot of questions when we suffer such a great loss as a loved one.  All of your questions I have asked myself over and over as I have tried to live beyond the loss of my husband.  I've not answered them sufficiently to overcome my grief.  I just keep coping moment to moment.  I have learned what to try to do or stay away from so i am not triggered constantly like I was for the first couple years.  But nothing has gotten easier about living with memories.  My brain has just gotten a little bit better at blocking the pain.  I've also gotten a bit better at distracting myself for longer periods during a day but normal is still breaking down once a day.  Some more nuclear than others.

The only thing I can say with conviction......I am tired and want out of here as soon as possible.  I am still hoping it will happen naturally and at my age and with the stress of the grief I know my immune system has been compromised but not enough yet.  Its baby steps.......all the time.......everyday......its the only way I get through a day.........morgan

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