Valerie
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I'm am 49 years old and have just lost my husband On January 31st. I'm looking for support and friendships.
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My husband was only 45 years old when he recently passed away on 1/31. I'm lost and he was the love of my life. I feel like half of me went with him.
My husband was supposed to come home from rehab in about 5 weeks when he had to go back to the hospital because his kidneys failed. I was at the hospital when he went into cardiac arrest, but could not be revived. I'm going to miss my Boo, forever. And, I feel I am relatively young to be a widow. I welcome anyone to share their story with me. As, I know we all really need each other.

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I'm sorry for everyone's loss

Hello,

My name is Valerie and I just recently lost my husband who was only 45 years old. I'm hoping you can share your stories with me, share you pain and hopefully we can encourage each other in this journey we did not choose for ourselves. 

I'm sure many of you feel the same. The emptiness at times can be overwhelming. I've cried so much everyday since his passing and I feel like part of me died with him. He was my soul mate and best friend. He was my…

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Posted on March 8, 2015 at 8:59am — 8 Comments

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At 6:35pm on August 4, 2015, Maureen said…

Hi Valerie, I am so glad you have resolved things with the house, We don't need any more stress in our lives we have enough. I wasn't sure if I should say anything but yes I have had communication with Don. I had a medium come to my house a couple of months ago and she had some messages from Don that only Don would know about. He was pointing out shoes lined up and at first Deanna the medium thought they were Don's and wondered if he had a pair of shoes that hurt his feet, I said no and we carried on but he kept talking about the shoes. She said he was stroking my feet and then she realized it was my feet and wondered if I had a problem with them. I do and Don wanted me to see a doctor, I told him I would wait it was only a problem in the winter. She said he is insisting that I start taking care of myself for a change. He also told her to ask me about the TV to tell me he was doing it. I started to laugh because Don had pre scheduled the Sunday Nascar races in advance and I thought I had gotten rid of future reminders but it didn't work so I just left them thinking he wanted me too. A few other small things as well. I know he has helped with some decisions and helped me make the right ones. I was the same as you Don and I were best friends and I didn't socialize until he passed. I live in a very small town so I have been going to brunches and that sort of thing at the legion and everyone has been kind. That's how I have made some friends. I am going to see the medium again in a few months. You take care of yourself and lets keep talking

Maureen

At 11:09am on July 26, 2015, Fran said…

Hi Valerie,

It was good to hear from you. 

I understand what you mean about some days seem ok, others ...you just want to cry all day...nothing seems right.

I'm coming up on 9 months! Doesn't seem possible. I was looking at the pictures on the wall...the pix of Bill pre-cancer is how I remember him. I look at the pix during his "torment" and I hardly recognize that as someone I knew. 

I push myself to see friends. It does seem like most of the time I'm the one making contact. I don't know, maybe they feel weird contacting me...like they're intruding. My brother wants me to go to his cabin for a couple of days next week while my sister (out of state) is visiting. He's had the place for 5 years and this would be the first time I've seen it...yet, it seems like such an effort to go.

Life is so strange, isn't it? I spent all my 20's doing stuff on my own, with friends...Then Bill came along and it was the 2 of us. He seemed to fill a void I didn't even know I had...Now.....the void seems sooooo much bigger.

But, I plod along as you do. Trying to keep up a brave front. 

You know you aren't alone! The good days have to outnumber the bad soon!

At 12:08pm on May 2, 2015, George H said…
hi Valerie just another weekend like all the others the only difference is the last few days I've been feeling so detached from everything no emotions no nothing really don't like this feeling its like sitting on the outside looking in and like you I keep playing that morning over and over again and wondering if there was anything I should have done different but I guess we'll never know that various children come once in awhile I have no children of my own so I'm pretty much by myself and just try to push through will you write any time cuz I'm always here do the best you can this weekend take care Valerie
At 5:47am on May 2, 2015, Maureen said…

Hi Valerie

Well I am not doing so great, I have days that are a little better than others, but I think I am still having trouble accepting That Don is not here with me. But like they say one day at a time, I have friends who are making it a little easier, but I guess you know just how I am feeling. It is such a lost empty feeling, I have never been through anything like this before.

I have been thinking about you and hoping the days get easier

Maureen

At 8:16pm on April 28, 2015, Mark said…

Hi Valerie

 I tried going back to work last night, I had to go to the airport and catch a flight.  I did not make it, had to call in sick, a back issue I thought was resolving flared back up combined with the grief and it was not a good mix for me going back to a position of responsibility.

I look forward to going back to work, I need the change of scenery.  I have several close friends at my job. 

My house like yours is a source of comfort and reminders that cause sadness.  I tend to stay in the downstairs, it was more my space, still reminders of my wife, but it just seems more natural.  I have started cleaning out my wife's things, clothes, shoes, antiques.  She had lots of stuff that holds little real sentimental value but still triggers emotional outbursts.  It has been very difficult, but has to be done.  And I have purchased a new sofa just to make the living room more my son and I's place.

Have a good night Valerie

Mark

At 3:02pm on April 18, 2015, Maureen said…

I know what you mean, there are some days I can't talk about it either. I just get through the days best as I can. Take care of yourself and I am thinking about you.

Maureen

At 7:01pm on April 17, 2015, Mark said…

Hi Valerie

  I'm a couple years ahead of you on the calendar, I turn 54 in June.  I never thought much about the aging thing until recently.  The passing of the days hold little meaning when we're content.  

  I'm glad to know I am not the only one feels better as the day winds down.   Although today was odd, felt lousy most of the day, then went for a walk with my son at 5 pm.  I felt better almost immediately, like a shot of adrenaline.  But it only lasted a few minutes, then right back down.  Another mystery.  Still on the low side now.  Not a very eloquent response.

I hope you can sleep and have pleasant dreams.

Mark

At 9:44am on April 17, 2015, Mark said…

Thanks for the comments Valerie, sorry you had a couple of difficult days.  I don't understand why, we as humans need to feel so distressed for such long periods of time, I don't see what purpose this all serves from a religious standpoint or from an evolutionary standpoint it makes no sense to me.  I wish I had a magic wand and cold soothe your soul and everyone else's here.  

But so far I have founding my wishing to be one of the less therapeutic things I can do.  I do feel for you and hope you can move forward in a positive way, and I and deeply sorry for your loss.

Mark

At 7:18pm on April 14, 2015, Dianne M. said…

Yep I have cried at Kroger too. This was my worst nightmare and now I am living it. No clue how to move forward and if I do what does that even look like.

I have sent you a friend request.

Dianne

At 8:41am on April 14, 2015, Mark said…

Thanks Valerie, I look forward to a good day.  Right now the most good was about 2 hours a few weeks ago when out with my son.  Next best is evenings when I am just dulled out.  Right now, I am a morning mess.  Thanks for comments on my blog.

 
 
 

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