"Toyanne, I'm so sorry for your loss. My love passed away on May 29th of this year from lung cancer and he was given 6 to 8 months but he only lasted about 3. I have our 2 year old daughter that looks so much like him and I feel…"
"Toyanne, I know just how you feel -- only I was given 4 months instead of just a few days. We did not know anything was wrong at all before Feb. 24th, and he passed on June 24th. no hint of any problem, no shortness of breath or anything…"
"Toyanne, I'm so sorry to hear about your husband. I lost my wife last year to lung cancer, I know how hard it can be. I would like to say that it gets better but a year later I am still depressed all the time. I think I may…"
"I am so so so so sorry for your loss. That was so fast, my head is spinning just thinking about it. I can't imagine. I am so sorry. This is a terribly hard journey. I lost 2 parents to cancer in the past 7 months. My moms was…"
I've been a member for, oh, just a couple of days, but I've noticed a possible lack of focus on LGBT issues related to the loss of loved ones.I know what I had to go through - even with medical POA and a will - to gain legitimacy with the "powers that be" with regard to authorization for cremation, among other things.Just wondering if perhaps there are issues unique to the LGBT community that the other fine people on this site did NOT have to go through.I welcome your thoughts and…See More
This group is for those who are supporting friends, family and others who are dealing with grief. Counselors, Social Workers, Teachers and anyone else who is helping someone through a rough time of grieving. Are saying the right thing? Helping the right way? What can we do-when it feels like there is no hope? These are topics that we will explore. See More
"Toyanne, I share your bewilderment and grief. My Mark had already beaten esophageal cancer and was getting better when he suddenly became jaundiced. He was in the hospital a week and then we were told he had 6 months because he had many…"
"I am so very sorry for the loss of your husband. Cancer takes those we love away much to fast, my father was diagnosed with esophageal cancer in May 2013 & then went through chemo & radiation. In December he passed away after the doctors had…"
"im so sorry toyanne all i no big c lung c is evil why god let ths hapen i dont no iv lots a lot of famly 2 lung c all sorts of big c on my dads sie of famly i o my dads famly is big bt i dnt thng i cud lose so mny in lst 2 or 3 yrs
sorry if im…"
"I am so sorry, there are just no words. I hope you have good people to help you. The next couple of months will be so hard and all the platitudes are useless. I always thought that I would be able to say the right thing to someone going through what…"
I just lost my Love of my life husband to Lung Cancer yesterday. We found out last Saturday that he had lung cancer and they said that they didn't know what type of lung cancer it was and we had to wait on the test results which to be on Monday. When we got the results on Monday they said that he had 4 months to live and on Thursday the turned around and said that he had a couple of days to live and then yesterday afternoon he passed away. I'm having such a really hard time dealing and coping…See More
"I know hoe you feel.I ,I lost someone i loved and he was shot in the heart and died in my arms.It is not easy when we lose the people we love.Your brother in law is probably seeing everything you are going through.Be strong for his sake and think…"
I am so sorry for your loss. It is understandable how sad it is when you don't get to say goodbye due to a loss so sudden.
To share my experience, my Mom passed like this. I also did not get to say a goodbye (e.g.…"
Our group is run through Kaiser and we meet every week. It helps. I am actually thinking about individual counseling as well. Today was a really rough day. I do know I have to come to work. Working from home I just want to…"
I have been thinking about you and getting a job. How is that going? I think I remember you saying that you had to leave your job because they did not give you enough time off when your husband died? Of course I do not want to over step…"
How often do you have meetings?
I found a group but they only meet eery 3 weeks. I am not sure yet.
Thank you for sharing your daughter's experience. Steve's daughter was really grieving at the beginning but now she only…"
"Went to the 2nd session of support group. Grief is grief and hurts no matter what the loss. It hurts, you feel alone. I have learned one thing from group is we are not alone. There are 2 different groups those that are…"
"I had that feeling when my nephew called me and told me his brother had killed himself one year after my brother (their father) died. It was a weird sensation I have never felt before. From the top of my head all the way to my feet just a rush of ?…"
I just found some thought that actually explains how I feel now:
Sounds familiar? Grieving and trying to be nice, crying and smiling to look nice next minute...
It is a great movie anyway - watch when you can."
"Thank you, Jackie.
Those horrible panic attacks just visit us often. Suddenly the whole world is turning black and no oxygen anymore.
Jackie, I accept you as acting Steve - I hope he does not mind - and I really appreciate your support - I know you…"
"Hi, Kim. Please don't feel sorry about discussing different topics; it's how our minds work and your words are a comfort to so many. Just knowing someone feels the same, hurts the same, has the same inner voice... the empty bed, the…"
"I try not come on here in the early morning as I start work early so I can go home early. That was my routine. We would get up in the morning, have a cup of coffee and I would go off to work. I looked forward to going home a little…"
"Nora, you are a beautiful women with a beautiful heart. Steve loved you very much but remember you were a success before you met him and not because of him. We need to give ourselves time to grieve it's only been 3 months, who knows if we will…"
"Ladies, I just had one more pain caused by simple actions that I even did not pay attention to before.
Well, I sat to start looking for a job. It was already hard as I have a "meeting people & leaving the house" anxiety. Also, it…"
"I too feel exactly as everyone here has discribed it. Four months in.. Lost the love of my life. I feeling like the walking dead.. I function because I am expected to. I go to work because I haven't any choice. I have to sell my house.( for…"
Having a glass of wine for my mom tonight and trying to wrap my head around the fact that she's been gone for a year. A whole year. A year without daily emails just so I'd wake up to an email every morning. A year without daily Skype chats just to catch up even though nothing much ever changed. A year without an e-card for every random holiday. A year without hearing about the dumb things my dad was or wasn't doing. A year without my best friend. A year without my mom.See More
I am the producer of a nationally televised crime docu-series. I am currently developing a new series focusing on unsolved cold cases, where the perpetrator is known but remains uncharged, many times because they are already in prison for life for another crime. That should not deter anyone else from getting justice. We will bring in outside, independent cold case detectives to rework cases to see if we can help. The series will underscore the hope, strength and tenacity of the families and…See More
"I really hate to reply to this thread as I am four years and almost five months into the loss of the love of my life and I can hardly stand the roller coaster I am on. I am careening off the tracks "again" and I come here to reassure…"
"Thank you all for the kind support here. It does help. I too feel lost at time. This morning I was up at 3:30 watching TV; my alarm goes off at 4:45, no sense in trying to go back to sleep. Like some one else said on here, my…"
"Hi Kim, your not alone, as Nora's says every word you say matches how I feel. I have lost my best friend, soul mate, partner, my lover. Now I'm alone with my dog and cat. OVer 70 people and the funeral but none of them ring or call. People…"