"It was when they sang "Stand By Me" that I turned it off. I never heard that song presented in that way and suddenly the words had profound meaning. Then I started thinking how much my wife would have loved watching the wedding…"
"Today was the Kentucky Derby and my wife loved it. On no other day was she interested in horse racing but on this Saturday, she would sit for hours and watch the story of the horses and be entranced. Lord, such a silly thing for such an…"
"There are times when it's just overwhelming and the pain is intense. Today, for no reason at all, I keep muttering "how could you just die?" If there had been a choice, I know she wouldn't have left me on my…"
"All the family went different directions tonight and left me to hand out candy to the kids. Unfortunately, they have a huge liquor cabinet. Year three and even Halloween pulls the rug out from under my feet."
Wife died September, 2014, suddenly and unexpectedly, at age 52. We both were licensed child and family therapists and had a practice for 25 years together. The world fell apart that day and the last two years have been the most difficult time in my life. Although I have been around death a great deal through hospice work and losing my mother and father, I could never imagine anything like this. It's simply beyond description.
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"I tried Lexapro Theresa. It made me sick, unfocused, fatigued, gave me motion sickness, and made me sleepy as H E double L. It was not the drug for me. I had an abnormal reaction to it. But it is a good antidepressant for others.
My head hurts…"
"Congratulations Avi!!!! Enjoy!!!
Brett, I am anxious even before I get out of the bed and that starts everything my IBS, anxiety, headache, I will be honest I have taken Lexapro 5mg for a while after my mom passed, I stopped, I felt like a bloated…"
"Virginia, I think we would all want a do-over even if we had done everything right. I did cry in front of my mom on many occasions. I can't say that I regret that. I think all of that was an affirmation of love, though I am sure that it caused…"
"Virginia, that is the biggest setback. We do not get a second chance. Yesterday my father told me something that is causing lot of pain, regret but I am still holding up my emotions. He told me about few gestures of me and my wife which used to hurt…"
I cried in the oncologists office many times and in the radiologist office so I guess I’m really bad. I am not strong like her.
I should’ve thought of how she felt instead of my own fear. I did this the whole…"
I think I am more jealous when I see other people, in particular families, because I don’t have mine now. My world is upside down and I dont belong in it now. I don’t feel as though I deserve to be happy because I have…"
"Hey, I read your post. I think I've gone through some of what you've felt. Why do you feel as if you shouldn't live a happy life? Have you removed yourself from some aspects of the reality of life to dull yourself of…"
I thought of some things, but I wanted to ask you some stuff, without making any presumptions. Do you feel like you don't deserve to be happy like what you are seeing of the people you are seeing during the day? Do you…"
"I did not fall. I do not have high blood pressure. It was just a fluke with no apparent cause at this time.
I am thinking of you all and wishing you the best. It makes me dizzy to read very much, so I have to keep it simple.
I love you all. I am…"
"Virginia, I had numbness when my mother took her last breath in ICU. I did not know what to do and doctor told me that she is not in good condition and just let her go. I requested them to try their best but did not ask too many questions. This was…"