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We are eternal beings who will never be separated from our loved ones. ~ R. Craig Hogan, Ph.D.
Have you experienced the death of a spouse in the past five years?
Are you between the ages of 18-64? If so, researchers from the University of Illinois are interested in hearing your story. We are conducting interviews with individuals who have recently lost a spouse. Interested participants will engage in an audio-recorded interview about their experiences with loss. Interviews will take approximately 45–90 minutes and will remain confidential. Participants who are U.S. citizens,…
Developing a healthy self-care practice is an essential part of active grieving. Self-care in all its forms - physical, spiritual, intellectual and psychological - is at the very heart of purposeful grieving. As you're committed to growing through this experience of loss - of becoming more than you were before the passing of your loved one, not less - I offer you these self-care tips and ideas:
When we grieve we sometimes lose our focus.
You can choose what you want to focus on. Choose! Choose what you CAN do. Honor and care for each other… Smile… Say thank you… Let the person ahead of you in line… Hold the door for someone… Help the elderly with a task… Give a compliment… Be courteous and polite… Say hello… Offer help to others… Be a good listener… Start a conversation with someone… Give someone…
No one is prepared for grief. The rush of feelings, the thoughts, anxieties, and heartache can take us by surprise and drive us to our knees. Yet, when we choose to harness that power for self-growth, amazing things can happen. Good can come from pain.
Learn to tell your story differently. Take the victim mentality out of the story of loss you tell yourself and others and replace it with the word survivor to return to a sense of control over your…
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I wanted to share an idea of what we can do with pictures of our loved ones. Nancy Gershman, a digital artist, creates meaningful portraits from photos, memories and stories that we think about every day. Here is a sample of her work:
DREAMSCAPE PHOTOMONTAGE: Myrtle pays homage to the memory of her twin and keeps a promise to her sister. As long as she lives she will keep her nephew - who is a trucker - safe on the road.
I know Nancy's work and I’ve seen how she captures the entire essence of a person and the real truth about their character, their passions and their mission in life.
What Nancy does is digest all these photos, memories and stories until they re-emerge as a holistic portrait of the person you love. You see your father, sister, or beloved poodle, thoughtfully placed into a beautiful legacy portrait for you, but also for generations to come. The end result is that her artwork makes you smile or even laugh.
For the 30 - 60 minutes you spend with her by phone, she delivers a meaningful, heartfelt fine art photomontage in the form of an 8 x 10 print (or enlargement). She can also upload the artwork so you can make something to wear or display (photoblanket, photo-purse, photo trivet, etc.) -- however you want to keep that loved one close by.
I encourage you to view the documentary on Nancy Gershman’s work.
Let me know if you have any questions.
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Started by Jesi Holcomb in Untitled Category Mar 14.
Last night was tough....very tough. 2 years ago, I thought he was going to die then. It was an emotional month while he was in ICU and step down. But, it was the same date (5 months ago) that he went to his peace and I went here. Today was not good either...especially when my mom realized what yesterday was and facebook showed a memory of him last year...almost healthy. Some one said that the dates are hard, but it gets more routine.
There are times that I wonder if I was too…Continue
Posted by Kathleen Jordan on March 22, 2017 at 6:15pm
Posted by Ann on March 21, 2017 at 6:51pm
Tomorrow is that day....that horrible day when everything started to go to crap. When he quit cooking for our riders, he went on a memorial run for a friend of ours that got in an accident the year before....the day that he got into his accident....and died in the ambulance.....I saw the chopper set down, and an acquaintance of mine ran out as the paramedic...and I yelled at him..."That's my hunny in there! PLEASE take care of him!"....That was 2 years ago. Yes, I got him for an extra…Continue
Posted by Kathleen Jordan on March 20, 2017 at 10:30pm
It's been one month that I lost my soulmate on Valentine's Day.
This has been surreal, because it's like he just disappeared. Living without him is becoming unbearable.
My love, I'm trying and I want to be strong, but I miss you so much.
Maybe I'm strange. I enjoy my memories. Granted, it's tough and time is making it a little easier, but I think that it is only because I am learning how to "behave" when I remember. I felt extremely lucky to have my hunny for the extra year and a half that I got. He died in the ambulance at his accident and if his C1 had chipped 1 mm the other way, he would've died or been paralyzed. Even though that year and a half was hard--I was caregiver for 5 months while he grew in strength and…Continue
Posted by Kathleen Jordan on March 17, 2017 at 9:36pm
It's been a month since my partner passed away. I found that talking to people helped me. Today, my Airbnb host gave me an insight that I haven't thought about before we had this conversation. He said that everyone eventually passes away. That is the natural course of life. It is the untimely death of the person that makes it harder to accept this reality. My partner was 40 years old when he passed away. I had many plans before he had cancer. In my mind, we will grow old together. In my…Continue
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