We are eternal beings who will never be separated from our loved ones. ~ R. Craig Hogan, Ph.D.


Diana Young, RD, LD, GC-C

Healthy Self Care

Developing a healthy self-care practice is an essential part of active grieving. Self-care in all its forms - physical, spiritual, intellectual and psychological - is at the very heart of purposeful grieving. As you're committed to growing through this experience of loss - of becoming more than you were before the passing of your loved one, not less - I offer you these self-care tips and ideas:

  • Surround yourself with things that help you feel…

Don't Lose Your Focus

When we grieve we sometimes lose our focus.

You can choose what you want to focus on.  Choose!  Choose what you CAN do. Honor and care for each other… Smile… Say thank you… Let the person ahead of you in line… Hold the door for someone… Help the elderly with a task… Give a compliment… Be courteous and polite… Say hello… Offer help to others… Be a good listener… Start a conversation with someone… Give someone…

Good can come from Pain

No one is prepared for grief. The rush of feelings, the thoughts, anxieties, and heartache can take us by surprise and drive us to our knees. Yet, when we choose to harness that power for self-growth, amazing things can happen. Good can come from pain.

Learn to tell your story differently. Take the victim mentality out of the story of loss you tell yourself and others and replace it with the word survivor to return to a sense of control over your…

Heaven Left a Hole in your Heart

It’s up to you to choose if that hole will be filled with pain, anger, and the eternal darkness of loss . . .
Or if you will choose to fill it with light and love and have that hole shine out of you like a spotlight into your life, keeping their memory alive . . .

Grief and Appetite Loss

If you've lost your appetite, try simple comfort foods, such as soups, mashed potatoes with chicken or meatloaf, fruit and yogurt smoothies, puddings, pasta, or foods from your childhood or cultural background. Eating small portions frequently may help as well. Take a multivitamin to cover any nutrients your meals are not currently supplying.  Wishing all of you a blessed day.



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Healing with Pictures

I wanted to share an idea of what we can do with pictures of our loved ones. Nancy Gershman, a digital artist, creates meaningful portraits from photos, memories and stories that we think about every day. Here is a sample of her work:

DREAMSCAPE PHOTOMONTAGE: Myrtle pays homage to the memory of her twin and keeps a promise to her sister. As long as she lives she will keep her nephew - who is a trucker - safe on the road.


I know Nancy's work and I’ve seen how she captures the entire essence of a person and the real truth about their character, their passions and their mission in life.

What Nancy does is digest all these photos, memories and stories until they re-emerge as a holistic portrait of the person you love. You see your father, sister, or beloved poodle, thoughtfully placed into a beautiful legacy portrait for you, but also for generations to come. The end result is that her artwork makes you smile or even laugh.

For the 30 - 60 minutes you spend with her by phone, she delivers a meaningful, heartfelt fine art photomontage in the form of an 8 x 10 print (or enlargement). She can also upload the artwork so you can make something to wear or display (photoblanket, photo-purse, photo trivet, etc.) -- however you want to keep that loved one close by.

I encourage you to view the documentary on Nancy Gershman’s work.

You can visit her website: www.artforyoursake.com/healing. She has provided us with her phone number: 773-255-4677 (EST) or you can email her: nancy@artforyoursake.com

Let me know if you have any questions.


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Journal Therapy and After Death Communication

Online Grief Support uses the blog feature for Journal Therapy – You can choose to make it private or public. Blog posts are a great way to express yourself on your profile page. To get started, go to your profile page and locate the "Blog Posts" module in the middle column. Click the "Add a Blog Post" link. You must join the community to take advantage of Journal Therapy – It’s free.
You can add text, links, images, and files to your blog post using the blog editor toolbar. You can also select the privacy of your blog post to allow anyone in the community to view it, just your friends in the community, or just you. Go to Settings and then click on Privacy. If you need help, I'm just an email away. - Diana

After Death Communication


Lost my Mom

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Losing my mom at my age 5 Replies

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Just a thought

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Lost my Brother, Butch...my best friend 3 Replies

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Acceptance of the Finality of Death 13 Replies

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Blog Posts

The Day I'll Finally Stop Grieving by John Pavlovitz

The Day I'll Finally Stop Grieving

“How long has it…


Posted by Blue Swan on February 15, 2017 at 1:00pm — 1 Comment


Posted by JO B on February 9, 2017 at 4:27pm

Reason for Living

I have lately been thinking about why I am here now. After 55 years of being married to a wonderful, caring, loving man, I am now alone. I drift through the days wondering why I am here and why I have to stay here to endure loneliness, sadness, and depression. What is the purpose of this? Why can't I just go? I seem to be taking up space and each day is like the day before. I have friends and family, but, sorry to say, they just do not fill the void of having my husband with me. He was the one… Continue

Posted by Maxey on February 7, 2017 at 9:41pm — 1 Comment

I need you

So today I literally can not breathe, I feel totally consumed with longing and needing him so much, god I wished he knew how much I need him, he's the only person that can make this go away, I want him back so much I've just had a terrible week. I'm 43, how am I gonna do this for years and years when I'm struggling to hold on. Since I woke up this morning all I can think about is the first time we kissed, it was 20 years ago but I remember it like it was yesterday, it just popped in my mind…


Posted by joanne on February 4, 2017 at 4:07pm — 5 Comments

stress of loss 2 mush bad shit

im strest i am plsd dnt hav a go or juge me wored abot mom coz of th big goin arnd evry 1 iv gt it shes got bt shes got it shes so frale im wored coz of it iv had so mush loss so mush bad piss or shit goin on plsd dnt be mad it me 

evry 1 i luv bad thnfs hapen 2htm sisne lozin my dad iv seam 2 loss pepelor thy get sic evry days thy do its lk im  a jinx i am i am a  jinx i no i am 

dad  dieds getin betr frm a strioke he wz i thrt grt im getin my dad vac agan i am wong he wz…


Posted by JO B on February 2, 2017 at 5:53pm — 3 Comments


 Praying time goes faster so my life will end...I have endured my 3rd Christmas...so meaningless...another New Year with my heart still in pieces. I have started my Eat, Pray,Love journey;  going to places and visiting people special to our 35 yrs together...therapists thought would help but only made my heart break more...wish I had stayed in my shell. My journey took me to the church where we married, visiting my second Moma, visiting my best high school friend who was in our wedding. I…


Posted by Libbie H on January 29, 2017 at 11:20am — 1 Comment


It's been 18 months now, even though it still feels like yesterday.Is it always going to feel like yesterday? everyday feels like the day before, nothing changes, I feel like I'm in the movie groundhog day, in fact I wish that this was a movie and I would wake up and it would be different and I would open my eyes and Andy would be here and we would get our happy ending, but we all know on here that happy endings are not real. I'm so so bloody tired, I go to work, do the usual mummy stuff,…


Posted by joanne on January 27, 2017 at 5:59pm — 3 Comments


http://vimeo.com/15143745 its song i luv coz it remd me of pele iv loss why shud i

Posted by JO B on January 27, 2017 at 5:12pm


had a miserable ending to my day and wanted to ask my dad's advice.  he loved "helping" me.  then I started blubbering in the car cause I couldn't call him

Posted by Chris on January 27, 2017 at 2:34pm — 5 Comments

Greig is bad enough now its impossible to get help thanks obam

I lost my mom over a year. I cry every day. I keep hearing the doctor's words I was going to kill her if I did not place her on life support. I keep thinking of the promises I broke..,,,she died alone..,,in a hospital....people praying over her.

Lol thanks to Obama care does not cover depression. Lol I would have to be suicidal or an addict to get help.

With all this now happening I can not even have my mothers ashes. A day after she passed I followed her wish....to donate… Continue

Posted by Betty Ellsworth on January 25, 2017 at 12:05pm


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