Don't grieve alone.
We are eternal beings who will never be separated from our loved ones. ~ R. Craig Hogan, Ph.D.
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I wanted to share an idea of what we can do with pictures of our loved ones. Nancy Gershman, a digital artist, creates meaningful portraits from photos, memories and stories that we think about every day. Here is a sample of her work:
DREAMSCAPE PHOTOMONTAGE: Myrtle pays homage to the memory of her twin and keeps a promise to her sister. As long as she lives she will keep her nephew - who is a trucker - safe on the road.
I know Nancy's work and I’ve seen how she captures the entire essence of a person and the real truth about their character, their passions and their mission in life.
What Nancy does is digest all these photos, memories and stories until they re-emerge as a holistic portrait of the person you love. You see your father, sister, or beloved poodle, thoughtfully placed into a beautiful legacy portrait for you, but also for generations to come. The end result is that her artwork makes you smile or even laugh.
For the 30 - 60 minutes you spend with her by phone, she delivers a meaningful, heartfelt fine art photomontage in the form of an 8 x 10 print (or enlargement). She can also upload the artwork so you can make something to wear or display (photoblanket, photo-purse, photo trivet, etc.) -- however you want to keep that loved one close by.
I encourage you to view the documentary on Nancy Gershman’s work.
Let me know if you have any questions.
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If you have 20 minutes....
Perri Grabow is a graduate student in the clinical psychology program at the University of Missouri who is currently conducting data for her thesis, which examines the grief process of individuals who have lost someone close to them between six months and ten years ago. Part of the reason she is conducting this study is because of her own experiences with grief. The loss of her grandmother hit her very hard, and this experience served as part of the impetus for this research.
The official title of the study is "The Effects of Religious Attendance and Afterlife Belief on Post-Loss Distress, Posttraumatic Growth, and Perceived Life Significance." The purpose of this research is to investigate the grief experiences of individuals and how these experiences relate to beliefs about an afterlife and current religious affiliation. The average time it takes to complete the study is about 20 minutes. It takes place entirely online, so you can take it anytime. The study has been approved by the University of Missouri-St. Louis Institutional Review Board. All responses will be held confidential; no names will be collected. Each participant is assigned a random combination of letters and numbers. The primary researcher, Perri Grabow, who has completed IRB Ethics Training, and her graduate advisor, Brian Vandenberg, Ph.D., are the only ones who will have access to the data.
This research will add to the grief literature in several important ways, and the researcher would very much appreciate your participation. If you have 20 minutes, please consider participating! You can email the the primary investigator with any questions at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Here is a link to more information about the study and the study itself:
Judy Hefren is a doctoral candidate at Florida State University, College of Social Work, whose only son died in 2007 at the age of 17. She is conducting research in hopes of gaining a better understanding of how and to what extent the significance that parents place on the belongings of their child who has died impacts the grief process. Her hope is that this research may in some way help parents make these difficult decisions about belongings following the death of a child.
If you are comfortable in doing so, Judy would appreciate it if you would consider completing this survey which may be found at https://fsu.qualtrics.com/SE/?
This research has been reviewed and approved by the Florida State University. If you have any questions or would like any information, please do not hesitate to contact me at email@example.com or 850-445-0260.
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Online Grief Support uses the blog feature for Journal Therapy – You can choose to make it private or public. Blog posts are a great way to express yourself on your profile page. To get started, go to your profile page and locate the "Blog Posts" module in the middle column. Click the "Add a Blog Post" link. You must join the community to take advantage of Journal Therapy – It’s free.
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Posted by Ammy on December 7, 2013 at 3:35pm
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Posted by JO B on December 1, 2013 at 4:16pm
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Posted by Niecy on November 28, 2013 at 3:44pm
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