Lessons of a Late Friend - inspire3.com

I knew he didn't have long to live.

I was sitting next to him on a cold bench at Brighton beach, staring out at the ocean.



"I want to tell you some crap," he said. "Pass it on."

And then he began telling me the things he'd learned in his short time on this planet. The kind of things we all need reminding of from time to time, but we oh-so-easily forget.

He started talking...

"Rule number one, most shit don't matter."

The stuff you spend hours worrying about or getting excited over often doesn't really matter. Focus instead on the deeper things that will really count toward a happy life.

"Rule number two, let go of the past."

Regrets and bitterness hold you back. The past cannot be changed. Life only ever moves forward.

"Rule number three, everyone dies with a TODO list."

Don't make work your life, unless it's something you truly enjoy. Everyone dies with a TODO list. Don't glamorize busy-ness.

"Rule number four, assholes exist."

Forget trying to make everyone happy. The world is full of asses. Don't waste your time trying to understand them or please them.

"Rule number five, stop waiting."

It's so easy to delay doing something, just because we're waiting for the situation to be perfect. It will never be perfect. Do it now anyway.

"Rule six, know you're f*cking awesome... !"

It's so easy to forget how amazing you are. You're always uniquely you, no matter how hard you try not to be. Accept it, love yourself, and go live it large.

The thing is...

He died last week.

And he wanted me to pass this onto you. So that's what I'm doing.

Passing on the lessons of a late friend, to help remind you to live an awesome life today :-)

Love --

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Comment by Jesse's Mom on June 18, 2017 at 11:06pm

Thanks Karl...your list is so true. 

Comment by Melissa Malone on June 18, 2017 at 12:58am

Good stuff! Your friend sounds awesome. I'm sorry for your loss

Comment by morgan on June 17, 2017 at 10:20pm

Karl was right on all counts.  

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