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im 45. i lost my 14 yr old daughter a few weeks ago under very strange circimstances. shot at a sheffiffs home down the street whom she was friends with the daughter.i have a live in boyfriend that was basically her stepdad & only father figure since she was 2.
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we are so devastated. im barely functioning, and cant imagine life without her. she was a good kid, not into trouble, had a few minor mental issues we were taking her to counseling for. but this is fishy & we feel its being covered up. we feel helpless & hopeloss. people that know us and my daughter are very skeptical as well as to what went on in that house. i know, this is alot to chew on.

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At 10:21am on January 18, 2015, Robin said…
Just wanted to let you know I was thinking about you. I hope you are coping as well as you can and are finding some peace. You are not alone on this struggle.
At 5:51pm on January 7, 2015, Robin said…
Bdabbs, I know exactly what you mean by becoming an old woman over night. About 2 weeks after my Joe had left me I looked in the mirror and had patches of grey hair everywhere! I'm 42 and had only had one or two before. I don't hardly recognize myself. I've aged at least 10 yrs in 30 days. And I feel it. Grieving is so painful and it's hard work! The hardest thing Ive ever had to do. I've had to force myself to even brush my teeth. It just seems like to much work at times. Since I've been back to work, only the last 3 days, I've been able to almost seperate myself. I'm a Different person at work. But I always have to come home and face what is now my life without the most important part of it. I break down every night walking in the door. Or even thinking about it. My niece has always been called "Breezy" since she was little. I've never heard anyone else called that. Your Breezy is a beautiful girl. I know how proud you must be of her. For me it's the nights that are the hardest. Going to bed is nearly impossible and sleep comes in short increments. Mainly because that's when I spent the most time with my beloved husband. We both worked and treasured being able to cuddle up at night. I came home from work to find him. I have so many questions about what happened. I can't imagine the questions you have. I truly hope you can get some answers and find some sort of peace with this tragedy. Like I said you're never alone. You can message me whenever you need.
At 6:36pm on January 6, 2015, Robin said…
I'm so very sorry for your loss. It is such a horrible nightmare for you I'm sure. I left a comment for you earlier, but this site is hard to navigate an I'm not sure it posted. Everyone here is going through a nightmare of their own. While we are all joined by the loss of a loved one, everyone's pain is unique to them. Please know you are not alone in this journey. And you can always come here to vent or find someone to share with. You can always message me if you need to. I lost my beautiful Joe 5 weeks ago and I know how devastating loss is. I feel like all that was good died with him that day. I know I feel like I died with him. All my happiness is gone. I am lost and alone without him. I don't know how I've made it this far. I can only say take it hour by hour. I hope you find answers, peace and comfort on this journey we have all been forces to take.
Robin
At 4:16pm on January 6, 2015, Marie said…

I am so sorry for your loss. It is all so senseless and heartbreaking. I can't imagine the added stress you must be under with all your unanswered questions. Many, many, hugs to you!

 

At 1:13pm on January 6, 2015, Connie K said…

I am so terribly sorry for the tragic loss of your daughter. I ;lost my only child 2 years ago in a tragic car accident. He was 17.  I hope and pray that you find the truth of what you think happened. We also still don't have all the answers of what that driver did the night my son died. I know you must feel completely lost but you are not alone. Sending you love and prayers

At 10:55am on January 6, 2015, Sandy Hendrix said…

bdabbs I am so very sorry to hear about your daughter.  I lost my 18 year old to a drug overdose 10 weeks ago.  The pain and grief are all consuming.  My thoughts are with you and I hope you find some answers.  It's a terrible situation...hugs

 
 
 

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