I'm 38, a nurse, a mom, a wife and an only child. I've been married for almost 13 years but the last 2 years my husband and I have been apart because he's in the military and has been away on assignment.
About my Loss:
My mother passed away on Feb. 12 2010. We were extreemly close. She had colon cancer and had surgery to remove the effected area of her colon. The surgeon assured us he had gotten all of the cancer. Well, he did get all the colon cancer but somehow missed the cancer that was in her abdomen and by the time we found out why she was so very ill it was to late and there was nothing any one could do. So I'm staying in her home right now trying to get things settled so we can finally move out to Utah where my husband is.
Hi Alison, I'm sorry that you're in the same boat as I am being an olny child. I have just begun to go through Mom's things and so I am expecting to have some hard days ahead. Even the good memories hurt right now. Honestly, I am just trying to go hour by hour. On a sidenote, I saw the picture you have of you and your parents and I must tell you, your mother's smile was beautiful. My mom had a beautiful smile too and I really miss it. I know you miss hers a lot. Thank you for your note. I'm here if you'd ever like to chat.
My thoughts are with you. Your story is almost identical to mine. My mother had a very aggressive case of colon cancer that spread throughout her abdomine and liver. I just keep thinking if the doctors had listened to her she would still be here. None of my friends get what I am feeling or going through. My heart goes out to you! Just wanted you to know someone out there understands what your going through.
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