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Surviving the holidays???
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Hello Everyone!I am coming up on the one year anniversary of my husband's death (November 12th) and what would have been our 5 year wedding anniversary (November 19th). I have decided to get away for…Continue

Started this discussion. Last reply by Maria Romero Nov 17, 2010.

Loss of a Gay or Lesbian Spouse
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Hello Everyone! I am wondering if there are gay and lesbian members who are grieving the loss of their spouse? While grieving is grieving, there are differences in how we grieve, based on the…Continue

Started this discussion. Last reply by Helen Maez Sep 15, 2017.

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I am a newly widowed lesbian, who is struggling to deal with the sudden death of my "husband" and the death of my Mother five months later. I am in therapy and have participated in bereavement groups, but I am having a very hard time coping and nights and weekends are the worst. I just want to communicate with people who know how I feel.
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My husband died suddenly one morning in November 2009 while I was getting ready for work. One minute we are doing our morning routine and the next minute My Love was dead. I am still traumatized by his sudden death and I walk around devastated and in such unbearable pain. Unfortunately, my dear Mother died just 5 months (April 2010) later from cancer. While my mother had been battling cancer for some time, her sudden decline in health and her death has compounded my grief. I feel very alone in the world. The two people who loved me best and who I loved best are gone. Life seems meaningless and finding the strength to go on is a daily battle.
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At 7:36pm on June 26, 2011, Semary Rose said…
I am so sorry for that traumatic morning.  I had a similar experience with finding my husband.  I think about it several times an hour.  I am sorry for your loss and I am here if you ever want to talk or share.
At 8:13pm on June 25, 2011, Semary Rose said…
Tammy, thank you so much for your comment.  I, too, am a vegatarian and hubby was anything but.  It is interesting that you had the same grocery store issues that I do.  I went today for the 2nd "big shopping trip" and spent aobut 80 bucks.  Typically, I spent almost 200.  Yep, life has changed.  Did you find your husband?  Did you call 911?
At 12:45pm on January 12, 2011, Jeannie Porter said…
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