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Please help: My dad is my best friend and now he's gone
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Started this discussion. Last reply by Cat Bailey Aug 29, 2009.
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- About Me:
- I am an animation student.
- About my Loss:
- I lost my father on Aug. 3rd. He was my best friend. We spent all our free time together talking about movies, books, life... you name it. I knew I was his special girl. Nearly everything I've done in life, I've done for him.. in the hope that he might notice or be proud of me. We are like two peas in a pod -- we knew everything about each other. He made me feel special in a way I've never felt around anyone else. Now I feel lost and alone-- like nothing means anything anymore. My mind knows he's gone, but I don't entirely accept it yet. I miss you dad.
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I wish you were still here dad
I used to be able to ask him anything -- he was always there for me no matter what. It feels so strange to have that ripped away from me so suddenly. For the past week I've been dealing with it by avoiding any reminder that he's gone. Now it feels so overwhelming. I want to talk to him more than anything in the world. Where's my best friend? Where's my protector? Where's the person that's always been there? A part of me simply doesn't understand it. He can't be gone -- he just… Continue
Posted on August 29, 2009 at 5:00am — 5 Comments
Saturday: Pizza night with dad
Saturday always meant pizza night with dad. We've been getting pizza and watching a movie as a family every Saturday night for years. When my mom got stomach cancer last year, we started going to coffee together Saturday evenings prior to picking up the pizza. He wanted to get me out of the house and distract me. We talked about everything -- our love for the British television show "Doctor Who"; my plans for the future (I'm studying to be an animator); his plans for the various science fiction… Continue
Posted on August 8, 2009 at 9:52pm
Today is Friday, my dad, my best friend in the world, died Monday
My dad is the most wonderful person in the world. We shared everything. We like all the same movies, books, food ... . I knew I was always first in his mind. He was always concerned if I wasn't happy, and he tried everything to fix my problems should they arise. He made time to talk with me, and he was never angry if I disrupted him. I would scratch his back at night, and we would talk into the wee hours of the morning. He would always say, "I know I don't want this to end, but you should get… Continue
Posted on August 7, 2009 at 12:00pm — 11 Comments
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It's good to know you are okay. I'm so relieved to hear you and your mom are close and she is providing you with the support only a mom is capable of...
I did send you a birthday wish; that's why I was concerned, I thought you might be feeling even sadder (if that is possible) on that day. While reading your posting I felt a sense of serenity in your writing.
Thank you for taking the time to look at my daughter's photos-her beauty radiated from within-she always looked for the good in people.
As always, take care and remember to be kind to yourself. Give your mom a hug for me!
Laura
Hope you and your mom are doing well. Have not seen any postings from you for a few days and just wanted to make sure you and your mom are okay. Take care.
Sincerely,
Laura
May your Birthday be filled with joyous memories of your dad.
(((((HUGS))))) from me to you today.
Laura
Were you able to talk with your mom? If you have not already done so, ask her how you can comfort her. Sometimes the only comfort I needed was for my husband to be in the same room with me--at times he was not sure what to do for me so he would ask "what can I do to help you get through this particular moment"? Each day brought/brings a mixed bag of emotions but each day the bag gets smaller, with fewer emotions in the mix.
While comforting your mom please don't forget about what you might need from her and let her know...
Take care and remember to be kind to yourself. You are hurting and need time to find yourself again.
Laura
Grieving is so difficult and the life you have known is forever changed. I realized after the death of my daughter I would need to redefine my life-I just didn't know how to start or what direction to take. I was overwhelmed with thoughts of having no purpose and no reason to continue with my life. Over time these thoughts have changed; I do have a purpose but I just need to keep the faith and believe the Lord will guide me as He has always done. Please allow yourself to grieve; time does not necessarily heal but it does provide us with coping mechanisms so that we can get through each day.
Take care of yourself and I hope your mom is doing okay. You will be okay and remember to take life at your own pace.
You take a wonderful photo...
Sincerest Regards,
Laura
Laura