Has your faith been tested or lost with the death of your loved one?

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Has your faith been tested or lost with the death of your loved one?

This group was started because many are hurting so bad that their faith has been effected.  This is a place you can vent or even ask questions that brother you. Can the Bible or God help you through your grief?  Who is the cause of death? 

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The following list of brochures can be read on line at the links providedWhen Someone You Love Dies - My suggestion is to pay particular attention to the chapter, How Can I Live With My Grief?Lasting PeaceGOOD NEWS From GODContinue

Started by Brenda Ann. Last reply by Brenda Ann Jan 3.

The Death Of Jesus and Our Faith 1 Reply

The most important death to ever occur can have a huge impact on our faith.When we lose someone we can reflect on the promises made in the Bible and that can give us a wonderful hope for the future.Follow the link below to watch a video about the Death of JesusRemember Jesus’ DeathContinue

Started by Dennis C.. Last reply by Dennis C. Mar 18, 2017.

WAVERING FAITH 3 Replies

I will say my faith has waivered a little recently because i have been in bad health and I keep asking God why?  I do think its a test of faith, but honestly my faith will always be strong and is a part of me, I still grieve about my parents, but I'm ok and they would want me to live richly and happily....I'm doing ok, but yes it is a test of faith when your going thru illness with no light at the end of the tunnel, but I'm getting better now and thats all that matters....we see the reason for it later onContinue

Started by Rachel Lynn Schuler. Last reply by Brenda Ann Nov 11, 2016.

WAVERING FAITH

I will say my faith has waivered a little recently because i have been in bad health and I keep asking God why?  I do think its a test of faith, but honestly my faith will always be strong and is a part of me, I still grieve about my parents, but I'm ok and they would want me to live richly and happily....I'm doing ok, but yes it is a test of faith when your going thru illness with no light at the end of the tunnel, but I'm getting better now and thats all that matters....we see the reason for it later onContinue

Started by Rachel Lynn Schuler Nov 9, 2016.

Are you having trouble facing the loss of your mate? Even if your faith has been shaken, a close examination of what the Bible really says, may help.

APPEARED INFacing the Loss of Your MateTHE Bible is clear: A husband is to “love his wife as he does himself.” A wife likewise should “have deep respect for her husband.” Both are to carry out their roles as “one flesh.” (Eph. 5:33; Gen. 2:23, 24) Over time, the attachment a couple have to each other gains strength, as does their love for each other. You might compare it to the roots of two trees growing side by side. The feelings of a happily married husband and wife knit and intertwine.But what if the husband or the wife dies? Then that bond, unbreakable in life, is broken. The surviving widow or widower is often left with a blend of heartache, loneliness, and maybe even some anger or guilt. During her marriage of 58 years, Daniella knew many who lost their mates. * But after her husband died, she said: “I never understood this experience before. There is no way to comprehend it until you go through it.”PAIN THAT SEEMS UNENDINGSome researchers hold that no stress is more severe than that resulting from the death of a beloved mate. Many bereaved ones agree with that. Millie’s husband died many years ago. In describing her life as a widow, she says, “I feel I am a cripple.” She was referring to her emotional state, caused by the loss of her mate of 25 years.Susan used to feel that widows who for years mourned the loss of their husband expressed excessive grief. Then her husband of 38 years died. Over 20 years have passed, yet she says, “I think of him every day.” Tears often flow because she misses him so much.The Bible confirms that the pain of losing a mate is both cruel and long lasting. When Sarah passed away, Abraham, her husband, “came in to bewail Sarah and to weep over her.” (Gen. 23:1, 2) Despite having faith in the resurrection, Abraham felt intense grief when his loved one died. (Heb. 11:17-19) After his dear wife Rachel died, Jacob did not soon forget her. He spoke tenderly about her to his sons.—Gen. 44:27; 48:7.What lesson should we learn from these…Continue

Started by Brenda Ann Mar 10, 2014.

Having a very hard time dealing with the death of a loved one?

Has someone you loved fallen asleep in death?Are you still grieving?Do you need help in dealing with your grief?Is there hope for the dead?If so, what is it?How can we be sure?Can we turn to the Bible for answers?  Is it possible to trust God?Continue

Started by Brenda Ann Jun 18, 2012.

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Comment by Brenda Ann on September 1, 2017 at 8:02am

Dear Angela,

Your words are so true, that you can see why a persons faith can be tested with the loss of a loved one. A great number of people have been taught that God takes our loved ones. But God loves humans so much that he would never do that. He made us to live forever in perfect peace and happiness. Death came about by the twisting of God's words and lie of Satan the Devil. God had simply kept one tree from the middle of the Garden of Eden for himself. But Satan called God a lair and implied that he was withholding something good from them. God said if you eat from this one tree, that he kept for himself, it would cause them to die. Please read: Why Eden Matters to you?

also please watch the video Why Did Jesus Die?

I hope you enjoy these insights into how much God loves us...

Brenda

Comment by Angela on August 14, 2017 at 11:14am

I understand how someone could struggle with their faith when someone you love has died. I don't personally struggle with it myself because I trust God and know that his thoughts are higher than my thoughts and he always wants what is best for me.

Comment by Elynn m on August 11, 2017 at 12:59pm

Quoting Scripture is really encouraging my faith, and helps with the grief.  Thank you for posting!

Comment by Elynn m on August 11, 2017 at 12:55pm

I do agree, Trials do not come from God.  That does not mean we won't have trials.

I agree with James 1:13 and 1corinthians :10:13

Jesus helps me adjust my views.  As most of us know, when I am weak, then He is strong (2corinthians 12:9-11)

Comment by Dennis C. on August 11, 2017 at 11:52am
Moira

Something comforting to me is to remember that our trials do not come from God. He is NEVER the one that puts us to the test, or takes something good away from us.

James 1:13 — When under trial, let no one say: “I am being tried by God.” For with evil things God cannot be tried, nor does he himself try anyone.

Instead we can look to God for help.

1 Corinthians 10:13 — No temptation has come upon you except what is common to men. But God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear, but along with the temptation he will also make the way out so that you may be able to endure it.

So if we see God as part of the problem, we need to stop and adjust our view. He is part of the Solution. If we see him as such, then we can receive his help, comfort, and strength so the we can endure our trials.

None of this takes our pain away of course, but it does help us survive for another day.
Comment by Elynn m on August 11, 2017 at 11:03am
Well-meaning people may say, “Jesus took your loved one away,” but that can cause people – especially children – to be angry at God. 1 Corinthians 15:26 says death is our last enemy. Therefore, we can say, “Death took our loved one away from us, but Jesus took our loved one away from death!”
Comment by Elynn m on August 11, 2017 at 11:00am

Just a few thoughts regarding faith; Ecclesiastes 3:1,4 says “To everything there is a season, a time for every purpose under heaven: a time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance.

That doesn't mean that we shouldn't grieve, because it is necessary 

God has a purpose for everything. Jesus is our best role model for combining faith and grief, as revealed in John 11:1-45. When He saw Mary and Martha in anguish over the death of their brother Lazarus, He wept and groaned. Although Jesus knew He was about to raise Lazarus from the dead, He still allowed Himself to feel – and express – the depths of human sorrow. We can take comfort in knowing that Jesus has experienced all of our pain, including loss, rejection, betrayal, and dying. As our Savior and Redeemer, He took all our sins to the cross and forgives us when we ask. As our Good Shepherd, He leads us safely through “the valley of the shadow of death” (Psalm 23:4b). Remember, a shadow indicates that there is a light on the other side! Deep faith in Christ does not prevent grief when a believer dies, but it infuses grief with hope! For Christians, death is a passageway to eternal life (see John 5:24). Paul said, “To live is Christ, and to die is gain” (Philippians 1:21b). He also said, “I want you to know what will happen to the Christians who have died so you will not be full of sorrow like people who have no hope. For since we believe that Jesus died and was raised to life again, we also believe that when Jesus comes, God will bring back with Jesus all the Christians who have died” (1 Thessalonians 4:13b-14, NLT).

Comment by Brenda Ann on August 10, 2017 at 12:11pm

You are not alone in feeling like this... Let me, however, asure you that God would never cause your suffering. I sent you a scripture in my friend request found at Isaiah 41:10. It says, "Do not be afraid, for I am with you. Do not be anxious, for I am your God. I will fortify you, yes, I will help you, I will really hold on to you with my right hand of righteousness.’" This scripture is so encouraging to me because God expresses how he feels toward us individually. (1 John 4:8) . . .God is love. . . (Luke 1:77-79) "to give knowledge of salvation to his people by forgiveness of their sins, because of the tender compassion of our God... to give light to those sitting in darkness and death’s shadow and to guide our feet in the way of peace."

I know that this may sound very confusing and you have been emotionally bullied but not by God. Please watch the following two videos they will help you understand who the "REAL bully" is:

Why Study the Bible
Why Did Jesus Die?

The bully is Satan. (1 John 5:19) "We know that we originate with God, but the whole world is lying in the power of the wicked one." The Bible also says, :(John 8:44) 'Satan' was a murderer when he began, and he did not stand fast in the truth, because truth is not in him. When he speaks the lie, he speaks according to his own disposition, because he is a liar and the father of the lie."

Please watch these two videos:


Why Did God Create the Earth?
What Is God’s Kingdom?

How will God's Kingdom(government) benefit you? You you like to know? please email me at mawmaw1591@gmail.com

Hope to hear from you soon and hope this helps, at least a little...

Brenda

Comment by Moira Lynch on August 10, 2017 at 6:54am

After losing my job in June, my brother in July and best friend in August, my faith is surely tested. I have PTSD from dysfunctional upbringing and early losses (brother died at 10 after living with cancer since he was 2 yrs old).  Mom died 5 years ago and I have no family left save a father who lives out of state and who I am not at all close to. Feel like God is punishing me and has taken away family and sense of security and belonging. Isolated, alone and in despair. Is He a bully or is he trying to teach me something? Or both? And I HATE feeling like such a victim... Pls help?

Comment by Elynn m on February 19, 2017 at 10:00pm

BrendaAnn,  thank you for sharing the scriptures with us.   They are very comforting.  

 

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