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At 12:52pm on December 11, 2021, Roslyn said…

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I understand that cliches from those who mean well simply don't work.  Someone once said to me before my husbands funeral, "now your a widow you must move on."  I was stunned.  But a counsellor did say, "you will never got over this, but you will get through it."  Now that did make sense and I often think of that.

Writing a daily journal expressing your feelings on paper helps me, maybe you could consider doing something like that?

I find the mornings worse than the nights.  I wake up and realise I'm all alone and the loneliness sets in all over again.  Thankfully I live on acreage and when I work long, hard hours it helps to keep me calm.

Grief is certainly a personal journey and what suits one doesn't always suit all. I wish you well Tom on your journey ...... 

Ros

At 6:45pm on December 10, 2021, Roslyn said…

Hi Tom

My husband passed away from his cancer which had spread to his liver on November 5th this year. I do understand what you are saying about the world moving on, when your world has come to a complete halt.   

Most of my friends understand as best as they can, but unless you lose the love of your life, you will never truly "get it" and the huge impact it has on your life.  I also end up keeping most of my thoughts to myself now, as while others move on from his passing, I'm the one who seems unable to at present.  

You take care and I have found also as I'm only a recent member here too, that writing those feelings down does help.

Ros

At 7:19pm on December 9, 2021, Tom said…

Lost my wife of 38 yrs to malignant melanoma of the liver. she had beaten it twice before, but it returned in the liver this time. The problem I am having is I still need to talk about it, but the rest of the world has returned to "normal".

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