It´s when we realize that no one can reach us but ourselves, that we realize that what we dislike the most in others are just part of ourselves that must be improved. I know it looks cliche. Like something we heard but its easier said than done. Because the traits we dislike is not the traits we dislike in ourselves, of course we aren´t alike in so many ways, but the general pattern of what we attract do show fear motivation in parallell, perhaps not in ways we can see in a first glance. Takes more distancing and a greater love for self to have what to expand outwards. You know, it´s not a case that humans must be perfect, its about what we are attracting out of all imperfect people in different ways thta shows what we are lacking development. Lets say we attract peop,e in other relationships. that means we are cheating ourselves out of a greater love in one way or another. It´s not all our fault either for what we didn[t know better. And if they ever know better, it´s their pwn path to do do wahtever. What is a must however is to DETTACH from the patters of attraction that brings us no good. Thus attraction to something like greater love from god is perhaps a much better ways into living without being craving dfor what will never be outside ourselves. Meditation is an interesting trip inwards. There is something to be shifted into positive self talk, some at subconscious level that bring in the surface a different shape. Some negative self talk are so rooted we don[t perceive. It takes attracting negative crap to realize the negative crap is much more below the surface than we give credit for. The way we were raised and the patterns of negative thinking that originated there but we don[t seem to able to reachso far within to make that shift. I started looking at alternative healing and sometimes I open my mind to the branches per say of what is out there under a different clothing per say. I was looking into quantic but didn´t think it was all about chemicals outside the body. I can say that this far my best searching lead to the idea or concept that the body can heal itself under the positive vibration patters we can build from within and tab into the universe. That will shift the whole existence. The sounds however that can propulse I havent quite found yet. Some music and tones will higher the vibes, others will lower. I know long ago that sounds do something, but wasn´t able quite yet to pin point what does what and how to surrender in the ways we can channel this in and outwards. Anyhow. I still get back to the basics of LOUISE HAY guided meditation and similars, which propose that repeating positive self talk on a regular basis can shift the belief system. Although I find that repetition can be annoying at times, branching from this perspective has granted more to me into advancing into healing in various shales and forms. I also like the visions, but singularity in a vision may be a source of discontent per say of what lies outside the particular outcome. But in the realms of a perfect existencce, helps a lot to have a vision and keep implementing and opening the mind to the conceptual discontruct of one single outcome. In practice this means excahnging the views of a happy home with partner...to a buble of feelings that are welcome and excahnged in a way to flow energy in a positive and continuous good vibe. Or an island or outdoors, thus not making conditional to a place and type of relationship. They don´t compete either. There is some vision we might be doing something we love to do whereas in more abstract views we love everything we do and not a single work activity. Sometimes a disconstruct from single outcome makes more close to the reality we are, and less distant away into another residence or lifestyle we are to wish but can´t seem to make the bridge between now and then. The abstract vision builds that bridge towards more closeness to the present tense in the conceptual openess that no matter what outcome there may be will may be...its achieavable. We may transit into views. But the more stupid things I do and take a bit more effort into the learning and reconnect, the mroe of this bridge or more open concept is useful. It makes less conditional to increase the vibration pattern and a bit more sustainable ion the short term. That means positive affirmations in general about self image instead of affirmations to get something in particular, and so on. I am by no means perfect, but in the shortcomings of whereas the older vision got me stuck into patterns I don´t want at least I DID take the LEARNING and PROGRESS APPROACH, versus trying over and over the same roads that didn´t trespass that part. And in that sense I just recognized that a PATTERN in any outcome is not just to paddle thinking that doing more of that will get us ANY FURTHER. I´d say the complete opposite is true. Any PATTERN shown a SELF STUCK in the mud refusing to grow out of whatever needs to evolve. After all we are here to evolve and looking 100 hundred times to the same situations and manipulatingbetter doesnt do much more than CONTROL which will prove useless. TOday in my facebook I saw this post in a group a girl saying "I used this phrases to get a guy but then I was surte I didn[t want him". What the hell are women doing with this shit in their heads? Thinking the best out there is in taming themselves to be attractive to what type of craps? Dont you think it´s the truth both ends that construct anything? Start with SELF, TELL SELF TWHAT WE WANT TO HEAR and expect no jerk to be head over hills for your energy vibes to lower that much. I think there is a lot to be said about how women construct self into thinking they have to shape their body and look pretty, whereas the real beauty was never outside. And the construct was never meant to be competitive with other girls. In fact we come to this planet alone and in ONE BODY and SOUL. And if anyone wants to tell me I am worth HALF of ONE, I will feel sorry they have sold so many parts of theirs or put to rent so cheap that all it shows really is poor VALUE OF SELF. I am more than a body, I am more than a woman, I am ONE with this universe looking to tab in the right manner that will bring JOY to this EXISTENCE and SOUL. Call me stupid if I was to dance around male for any less than a fulfilling experience in all acounts....because If I do, what does it say about ME? SHALLOW grip to life that keeps stuck in the low end of it. I rather FLOW with life in a better vibe...! Grips here just allowed in the HEALING and even that, when not getting me stuck!