Sad to report that pancreatic cancer claimed my brother in law's life early this morning.  Over the last 2 years he has cared for my mother in law.  She has Alzheimer and is 90 years old. Roger, my brother in law worked with mom to get her muscles toned and made sure she drank enough etc so that today she is in far better condition than 2 years ago when my father in law passed away.  They were in assisted living - which now I feel was no assistance at all.  Roger was a wonderful son and a good man . . .  His last words to me by phone were, "I love you too."  Our hearts are broken. . .

Brenda

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Comment by dream moon JO B on September 5, 2012 at 4:19pm

iv lost to many family mebers to tht desease thats why i call it evil sum thru smoking and sum never ever smoket my cuzen and never smoke she raely drank but died of brain canser died 2yrs ago she wud of bean a judge for yung ofenders by now her litel girl is 9 now she isi now find it hard to trust drs id ratha sufer in pain th get treatment my dads cuzen danny he refused treatment and lasted longer with out i no evry 1 is difrent i just hope up in hevan my dad and danny r ther for beash other my cuzens husband is still geting cemo the 1 who has the same name as u i told her son my great cuzen do well at skool its his last yer and do well and go for his driving lesons his 17 now will be 18 next yer mke yore dad proud i told him dont do wot i did sit ther and not ask for help

Comment by Brenda Ann on September 5, 2012 at 3:47pm

jb, the truth about pancreatic cancer is that there is no early detection. By the time the patient gets sick or is pain, it is already too late for any real extension of life.  Roger was sick for about a month when he went to the ER. Till then the doctor thought that he had an infection.  But when the pain got so bad that he had his wife take him to the hospital, the tumor had engulfed his pancreas, the lower half of his stomach and there were several tumors in his liver. Roger had put off going to the doctor because he had no health insurance - but it would not have made a difference - this thing moves like a wild fire, consuming everything in its path. You called it evil and I agree! Thank you for caring.

Comment by dream moon JO B on September 5, 2012 at 3:35pm

im so sory abot yore loss i lost a cuzen to me he woz like anotha brother to that evel desese the same canser yore brother in law had but it woz the 1st dr he saw told him 2 go away by the time he saw a secend dr wen he went yellow it woz 2 late to save him im so sory fow yore loss

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